I've never had sex with another woman before, and I don't know very many lesbians at the moment, at least not any who I'd feel I comfortable posing this question to out of nowhere. But I'm becoming a little freaked out, because whenever I see or hear lesbians talking or writing about sex on the internet (yes I've been doing my research), something that crops up again and again is the fact that they and most other lesbians find the idea of scissoring utterly ridiculous. Now as I've said I've not had sex with a woman before, but I'm kind of freaked out and disappointed because whenever I fantasize about being with another woman... 9 times out of ten... that's where my mind goes. I know that everyone is different and everyone likes different things, but when I finally do have sex with someone, is it more than likely that if I suggest doing this they'll just laugh in my face and accuse me of watching too much porn and having no idea what 'real' lesbian sex is? Because to me the idea of rubbing genitals with another woman seems like the most natural and obvious thing to do. I only really fantasize about oral sex with another woman if it's someone I really care about or am particularly infatuated with, and I don't fantasize about strap ons at all. I've also come across the term ''tribbing', but can't figure out if most people see this term as interchangeable with 'scissoring', or if scissoring is just a form of tribbing. As if the idea of having sex with another woman with the first time isn't daunting enough, now I've freaked myself out by overthinking it probably. I should probably be doing less thinking and more doing, but it seems to be such a recurring theme, this 'lol scissoring, as if!' thing, that I just thought I'd ask people here what they thought...
Have you been to a lesbian bar yet? You can test the water there, strike up a convo and maybe if you feel comfy enough, bring up the topic. You'll see how it goes and may even end up hooking up!
*Facepalm* Why do guys keep posting in this section? On topic: I think it depends on the girl, really. I'm currently talking to this girl who is actually aroused at the thought of scissoring with me, but the thought of scissoring with any girl has never crossed my mind. Well, not until recently lol.
Scissoring doesn't work as good as a double ended dong and you need the space to perform the act. And it's just not that great.
I am not a guy! I can assure you of that. And the fact that you assume the only person who would be interested in this topic is a guy further cements my worry that I will never be sexually compatible with another female! OH GOD. EDIT Sorry. I think I just realised you were addressing the self confessed guy above. I apologise for the uh... overreaction.
Boys have been removed by two mods. To the topic, coming from a bi experienced woman, it all depends on your partner. Positions are positions, when it all shakes out. Admit to newness. A decent partner will show you her ropes....hopefully figuratively unless you are into that.
Usually sex between two women entails fingering/oral, and maybe a strap on or other toys (I'm talking about casual sex between two acquaintances here), but there are all kinds of ways to do it. My ex gf and I used to basically scissor sometimes, she'd be laying on her back with her knees bent, and I'd kind of squat on top of her sideways so that I could rub my pussy against hers. I think I was more into it than she was, but I loved it like that because we can rub our clits around each others and feel the shared wetness. Sometimes I would put a little bullet vibrator in between us. So don't worry, some people definitely do it. I think we've even scissored more stereotypically by slamming our bodies together as well. Don't worry about it, just go with what feels right at the moment.
Here, I'll try to cover every topic. I love scissoring. Yes, it's something women really do. < Tribbing is slightly different though. It's how my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time, it was completely magical.. Though basically it was just rubbing my knee against her (gently) while I rubbed against her thigh until we both came. It's much better than it sounds, I promise! ;D Well it was magical until I rolled off the bed onto the floor... Oral sex with a girl can be very fun if you're in a position where you can see her every reaction... > I understand not fantasizing about strap-ons.. Not really appealing. To me it feels like defeating the purpose of being a lesbian. :< Though a strap-on being attached to a woman is a sight better than a man. XD
