Lesbian Giver Or Just Receiver

I am 44 and I am a recent convert. I fell in love with my best friend. She has changed my life in so many ways. I have one small problem and I am unsure what to do. I need advice. When we first got together, she was all over me. Now, she doesn't touch me. We kiss, we make out, I can do whatever desire I want to her. Then she just stops and goes to sleep. I was single for a long time and I know all about self pleasuring but, I don't want to. I am a mom of 5, let's face it, my vagina is wrecked. She says she is attracted to me and I turn her on and she loves me. She will touch my breasts when we make out. She will touch my ass alot. But she never goes for gold in the cookie jar. I have brought this up in a way to say i need her. I desire her, but it is always seems by her as me complaining about the lack of sex or the lack of her touching me. She will say she is letting me down. I told her, I am getting older and my libido is slowing. I am lying. I die every time we get intimate becuase I know she will show no need to touch me. This one thing is literally our only issue. My question, is this an issue? I read several articles and this is my first lesbian experience. Most articles say some lesbians are just givers they don't receive, or they don't give they receive. Are we like that? Are we ok?

 

I have known a lot of lesbians and some just dont like certain parts of lesbian sex. I asked them how can you be a lesbian with out loving the vagina and most say its about being with the person more than just sex.

I don't know about that. I think you need to find a way to talk to her and see why there is a limit to your time together

 

Its normal in lesbian sex

 

As someone already said, some lesbians don't like vaginal play, the same way some gay guys might not like anal, it's normal, maybe try talking and finding an alternative to this with her