Ladies: With whom can you discuss anal sex with?

My wife the other day was telling me that sometimes she feels "weird" for liking anal sex and she isnt sure about talking with friends/family about it. Shes pretty open sexually speaking and her and her friends do talk about sexual stuff. (I hope she puts a good word in for me.... hehehe)

Anyways, one of her friends was shocked that my wife did anal on a regular basis. She said they( wife and two friends) were discussing birth control and thats when the anal came up. They asked my wife what we do and she said something like "We got that covered... he cums in my asshole". One friend was mostly fine with it but one was shocked and appalled, it seemed. My wife felt stupid at the time... they were asking all the usual questions like:

"Does he get poop on his dick?" "Does it smell?" "Does it feel good for you?" "What happens to your butthole?"

She had to explain that she takes a shit and that "clears the way". She told them she likes it and it feels great to her. But, they were still a little like "eehhhh, OK." She felt funny afterwards! I told her not to worry, hopefully she doesnt. I told her to be a proud, anal-loving wife!!!

She has discussed it with her closest sister who also does anal a little bit. Overall though, she feels funny about it now...like she shouldnt be enjoying it or something. I dunno.

What do ya'll do and say? Who do talk to? Do you not bring it up at all and just pretend you're not into it?

 

My wife was talking sex with a friend who brought up anal sex. She (her friend) said that, for her, it was exit only, but if others enjoyed it that was okay. My wife did feel like she could say, "Anal is great. My husband and I love it so much, it's all we do."

Anyway, I think anal sex is still a little too taboo in our society to talk about openly.

 

if she feels awkward when people question it,then i'm thinking she really doesnt want to talk about it. If she did, she wouldnt care what others thought.

I talk about it with my girlfriends, but we all know each other really well and have always talked about all sex stuff.

 

Can you set me up with your girlfriends? I promise anal every time!

 

Yeah, my wife feels the SAME way. We don't do anal as often as we use to, now we do it about 2-3x per month, which is fine with me. Until recently when I got her a vibe for her b-day, now it's been anal for a week straight!

She feels embarrassed to tell her sister or friends that she likes anal a lot. She did tell one of her friends a while back, and she thought she was very sexually open and it didn't bother her.

But she has heard some of her other friends say that people who like anal like to play with shit, and men that like anal are really gay. So instead of being confrontational, she just usually keeps her mouth shut.

Anal, politics, and religion are 3 things we don't usually talk about. Even I don't talk to many of my friends about anal with my wife. I'm black, so anal sex is not really practiced that much amongst amongst my black friends. A lot of them feel that it's gay as well. I have only told a few of my closest friends, one of them actually does anal with his wife regularly so he loves it like I do.

 

Oh, your such a gentleman

Yeah its still a bit of a taboo subject I guess.

Dont get me wrong, I dont go around talking about it with everyone I meet There are certainly people I wouldnt discuss it with. And I've got quite a few friends who are repulsed by the idea of anal. But thats fine, they dontknow what they're missing!

 

Aha, but a guy like me, The Backdoor Man, immediately falls in love with a girl if she admits that she loves it in the ass. Nothing negative about it, but to me it's a big plus. Of course, I wouldn't blab about it either, but I would be smiling for as long as I think of her. Anal whores rule in my book, and I treat them like queens.

 

My wife only talks about it with me. She was telling me that the subject came up one night when she was out with a group of her friends. It all started when one of the ladies was discussing her recent divorce from her long-time husband. As the other ladies kept asking questions as to what caused the divorce, the recently divorced lady told them that her husband left her for a girl that liked anal. She would never even consider it so her husband went looking for and found someone that liked it.

My wife said all but her and one other very close friend started telling horror stories about the one and only time they had tried anal with their husbands. She said the stories mostly involved very drunk husbands with no lube.
My wife said she is pretty sure the silent friend probably likes anal as much as my wife but she just never could bring herself up to saying anything to her friend about it when they were alone. My wife still considers it strange to admitt how much she likes anal and was afraid the close friend might think of her as being weird.

But, I am O.K. with the fact that she does not want to discuss it, as long as she continues to be a wild woman in the bedrom!

 

I heard that! Lady in public, freak in the bedroom. I don't care if my girl doesn't like to talk about anal either, as long as she keeps giving up that ass, I don't care if she never tells a soul.

She is not ashamed she likes it, she is just embarrassed talking about it.

I don't even have many buddies into anal either, only 1 I can think of.

I personally think a lot of guys say they are not into anal because they can't get any anal from girls. I mean, go to any adult film store, the anal films sell A LOT that's why anal pays so much in the adult film industry.

I'm just saying, who is buying all this anal porn if guys don't like it? I'm not saying all guys are in this category, just some of them.

 

hahaha...anal is good?

 

But... the only way that other people will start to see anal sex as more acceptable is if they hear positive talk about it. To be quiet is to keep things the way that they are.

 

I agree with you. The only way anal will spread is if the people who have positive experiences expose others to it.

That's why places like this exist. This forum is a place where a person can be open an free about anal because of the anonymity of the internet.

I am sure many of us would just like to tell everyone about our anal experiences, but many of us fear being ostracized.

In a way I don't want anal to become mainstream. I don't want it to become common because it's a risky form of sex. It's much easier to get STD's from anal and it's easier to get bacterial infections. And since getting pregnant from anal, people think using protection is not necessary. Most people wear condoms because of pregnancy not really out of fear of STD's.

It's also very easy to hurt women with anal. Anal will never become popular no matter how many rave reviews it gets from experienced individuals because there are guys out there that will just ram their cock up their girls ass without lube and hurt her, and every one knows, bad news spreads 10x further and 10x faster than good news.

 

i've gotten a lot more open about it recently. i used to only tell my good friends, but now i don't mind the shock value it gives other people haha. and when im drunk i wil go on and on and on about it, good stuff

 

LOL good for you goodvibes!
Women shouldn't be afraid to discuss what they enjoy. I don't make it a secret that I enjoy it. I've discussed it with friends and several of them have tried (and loved) it too...
I got bought a huge bunch of flowers from one of their husbands because of that particular conversation - lmao

 

I agree. Ive told her not to worry about it and to relish the idea of being a proud anal queen. Well, maybe not that brash, but ya know.

What I would actually find hot is to know what other guys think of my wifes sexuality. She has a round, slightly plumper ass. Do they "wonder" if she does anal? Do they think of doing it to her when they check her butt out? Would they go crazy if they knew she took it in the ass all the time? Hmmm...