Ladies i need your advice on WTF im doing wrong???

Why does my luck suck so bad towards any kind of woman weather shes beautiful, good looking, stunning, etc.... I mean I find a woman that I'm interested in and I send her a message and I get nothing back, when I message them sometimes I do get a message back but its a I don't know you to want to talk to you kinda bs message. I don't understand what it is about me or what i may do but damn do I want to change my luck. I look at some guys out there that aren't the best looking but have the most beautiful woman around there legs at all times. Not saying f u to any of those guys I am asking is how the hell do you do it???? I have a full time and volunteer job, I have my own vehicle, I pay for everything i own, and I'm about to close on my own place. A house to be more accurate and I still can't improve my luck. Just for example the other day a co-worker of mine gave me a number of a girl that he knows for a fact is single, likes to have sex, and is wanting a relationship. I text her and my friend told her I was going to message her and when I told her my name she must of looked me up on facebook and within 5 texts (3 her 2 me) she said sorry but your not what I'm looking for and the normal bs. I am here for answers, tips, and anything that can help me get more lucky with woman.

Me and a few guys i work with are having a big old barn party this weekend and these going to be girls here these girls i know will do anything with the few guys i work with because they were invited by the guys so i know they will get something this weekend from them and i don't want to be just a 5th wheel that doesn't get anything this weekend.

Pretty much im just tired of being lonely and the 5th wheel all the time and i want to improve my luck or what ever the hell im doing wrong around FAST!!!

Thanks for the help if I get any.

 

Im no expert on anything, but i do believe in being honest and not playing games. I was involved with a game player. It's not a nice place and just results in karma i think.
If you like someone say so. Be up front, approach. Say it as it is. People can't read your mind nor you theirs. Be confident or fake it till you make it.
Just be honest or you will go round and round i feel.
Hope this helps. Would love to offer professional advice. Mine is experience based. All the best.

 

see the thing is as soon as they catch a glimpse of me they judge me right off the bat.

 

Sorry, Im not sure I understand. You mean they physically see you and ...judge you as what?

 

the way i see it they see me physically or digitally they see me as just a person trying to get in there pants but thats not what im trying to do. Say a woman that i like that i don't know says shes always tired of lossers that don't treat her right or is looking for a guy that can cook and help around the house or what not and i can see that she is looking for something like that i send her a message say for example if she is looking for a man that can cook on occasion and i say what would you like to eat she immediately turns around and says sorry your not what im looking for when im clearly trying to show her that i can accommodate her needs she just says it so quickly and abruptly when she knows nothing about me at all. Im just tired of always being shot down before they even know me.

 

ok, thanks for clarifying. Not sure what to say. Perhaps you are so use to rejection that as they say "neurons that fire together, wire together. In some sense you may be thwarting yourself by assuming this result, somehow sending out the vibe? Other than this esoteric leap, Im not sure what you are doing wrong. You sound fine. You sound kind and considerate. Perhaps you are drawn to bitches?....That's about all I can offer. Best of luck

 

Lol i might be but the other side of the coin is its with all woman weather its smokin hot average, ok, and ugly i just don't understand how a guy with a crappy looking, mc donalds, car thats falling apart, barely have the money to do anything kinda guy has more luck than me. Like stated i work a fulltime 60 + hour job plus on the side i run with my local fire department when ever we are called out, i have my own suv about to get me a f250 now, and my own place that i can call my own and i have jack to share it with.


:juggle: This pretty much whats always going on inside my head about my love/dating life. And it sucks ass.

my mind is always thinking about how i can improve me love/dating life and i have yet to break the ice on this subject. Hell im sure i have a least put a scratch on the subject but i need to break thru soon.

 

the last thing you need is advice from ladies. women always give the worst advice on picking up women.

you never answered my question from your other thread. are you just messaging random women on facebook or something? if you can't meet girls in person, try an online dating site. facebook isn't really for that sort of thing.

 

Yes, definitely. Finding girls that you think are attractive on facebook or a similar site and messaging them out of the blue WILL put them off immediately. Girls, especially the really good-looking ones, are quite accustomed to advances by men and are not impressed by someone being interested in them.

I don't know you, what you look like or what your personality is like, but I'm guessing something's a bit off. Maybe you have creepy face.

Some guys have lots of luck with women, but guys that can't get a woman to give them the time of day are a dime a dozen.

Your problem is not unique and your search for a "strategy" is long tried and failed.

The only thing that will EVER work is for you to better yourself. Make yourself happier and more confident. Have a decent conversation with a woman before you start asking her what she wants in a man. Mold yourself in the man you want to be and women will be attracted *to you* rather than trying to stuff yourself into the mold of what you think the beautiful woman you just saw on the internet wants.

 

I've had some success on FB pretty much saying to randoms after a minor conversation 'I think you're cool and I want to meet up with you'. Sure it's not for that sort of thing but lets not rule anything out either.

 

well sure, a ton of things could work, but if he's doing something with an extremely low success rate while there's something very similar he could be doing with a much higher success rate, it seems logical to encourage him to do the generally successful thing.

 

yeah, online dating isn't as bad as you think. This is 2013! At this point, your great aunt has probably been using it!

 

Exactly! Stop trying to randomly solicit girls on Facebook. If I was trying to meet girls, that would be the last thing I would try.

 

All of the above there is good advice. Particularly the work on you bit and move away from cyber space into the real world. Perhaps you could do a basic meditation course. Always a good place to meet new people who are a bit more real.... Try something new and different whereby you create new pathways in your brain rather than continue in a loop which is only reinforcing your concerns.

 

Dude follow the advise given above, improve yourself and stop being a facebook creeper.

One thing I want to add that's helped me IMMENSELY is Strip Clubs. I look at the strip club like going to the gym and working out. If you go often enough you'll get comfortable being around and talking to beautiful women.

Then when it come time to play in the "big game", no problem, you've been hittin the gym regularly and are ready to go! Nowadays I don't treat pretty girls any different than non-pretty girls. Just be yourself and comfortable with who you are.

 

Yeah, mike is doing the practical field trip in re wiring the brain. That's sorta what I meant. Instead of meditation class, mike is going to ho-school. Out come should be the same. He is doing something different and creating a new norm. good on you mike.

 

Sorry it's taken me some time to get back to everyone. Some of them yes but some of them no. Some i know from like parties and stuff that i actually have met them at. I have been in recovery mood from the party that i went to over the weekend.

Endnow I don't follow what your trying to say but with the molding myself in to the man i want to be sounds like a good place to start i guess, just need to add the right ingredients i guess...

So pretty much i need some massive brain-rewiring is what everyone is saying??? If I'm taking all the information in correctly?

Well like I said, I'm in a recovery mode from this weekends massive party my buddy threw and there was this one blonde girl there that seemed to be comfortable around me. Reason i say that is because i was outside shooting my bow on my buddies farm before i started drinking and she comes up to me and asks me if she could give a go. I said sure so she takes the bow from me and tries to draw it back but she couldn't and asked me to help her. So i stood right behind her and held her left hand out to hold the bow and grabbed her other hand that was drawing back the bow and helped her pull it back. I'm pretty sure that she was giving me a hint but i had no fucking clue until it was to damn late. But i got her number and everything just looking on what to say to her to get it going further???

 

Here's a concept...instead of texting a woman, try CALLING her instead. Our society has become so impersonalized by the onslaught of social media that we no longer know how to relate to one another as people.

 

I don't want to call her at work and get her in trouble

 

Here's an idea....Call her when she's not working.