So basically, I hooked up with this guy on a few occasions, he had a girlfriend, and his girlfriends sister was a friend of mine. somehow, she ended up finding out, and told her sister. He flipped out at me, accused me of telling her, and called me a whore and a slut, and it ruined my friendship with the girl. Also, he threatened that if his girlfriend broke up with me, he would make my life suck. SO i was scared to tell my friend the truth and what really happened. (She thought I just made it up for attention and lost all respect for me.) It was a terrible thing to do in the first place, and I guess karma caught up to me. Its a fucked up situation that still hasnt gotten any better, and its a big regret of mine.
My thinking, exactly. But in his defense, the OP chose to fuck him...so he's not the only idiot. Some karma.
yeah, i felt really bad about doing it after. i guess it takes two. but still, now my shits all fucked up
it takes two to tango. that whole him threatening you is a bit worrying, thats why ya should only sleep with chill people.
Going by your posts, I really don't think you did. Or, at the very least, you've learned the wrong lesson.
If the people aren't going to give you the benefit of the doubt then they aren't very good friends are they? Life's biggest lessons can be painful to learn but perhaps there is some positive to take away from this-- like being more selective about whom you hang with- as has been suggested above. If I were you I'd distance myself from that whole circle of fiends.
I have a friend in a similar situation. except it got so bad that basically all her friends turned on her, and her boyfriend was a little more crazy. it got so bad at her college (which was small to begin with) she left and is now much happier, I don't think things in your case should be so drastic. Good friends hear you out, good people don't talk casually about sex. Sex should be enjoyable enough that no one has the need to brag. Ugh what a coarse idea bragging about one's conquests.
Like stinkfoot said, the lesson is not that you did something wrong and God came from the sky and punished you. The lesson to be learned is that you aren't selective enough who you hang out with. Your lover is an ass, from what's been said. He is trying to make you responsible for something HE did (HE is sexually committed to someone, not you). Your friend, likewise. The only person I would give the benefit of the doubt to would be the cheater's girlfriend, but from experience, I came to realize that cuckolds, despite usually getting all the empathy, have a lot to blame on themselves.
thanks, that helped, and you probably are right. It was a bad situation to get myself into, and he is defnitely an ass. But I'm over it enough now that I think I can move on, and just get over it.
