Just wondering...

How long have you been bi? Some people belive you are born how you are some people belive that you devlope into your own and become that way...or maybe other people have other belifes but just as a question and conversation starter how long?

 

I might have been bi my whole life so far and haven't realized it. But this year I did, like near the end of this summer, because I have been thinking of both sexes and it really made me think am I? I think I am because I have been looking up pictures of stuff, if you know what I mean lol, and they both turned me on.

 

Yeah I found myself atracted to girls at a young age...it might seem a bit wierd to be so young, its harder to make female friends they think I am going to hit on them...

 

Hey do you have AIM maybe we can talk on there? If not I also have Yahoo.

 

My yahoo is: suicidetriplex
I am not on right now tho, I might be going to bed soon, school tommorow and all..plus we have that testing..

 

Okay hey thanks for sharing, I will message you on there so you can recognize who I am . Testing? My screenname on Yahoo is Crazycj2389

 

I know now I have been bi for along time.I think I was born with a big potential to be bi and that just began to bloom early in my life.I did'nt realize it till' my mid-late teenage years which made that time espicially difficult for me.I did'nt(would'nt)admit it to myself @ that time.I knew something was different with me but was to afraid to face it.I was afraid of people giving me crap for it,and I should've I lived in a very homophobic town and my family was very against gays/bi's espicially mom being a big practicing catholic.So I'd say I was born with a bigger potential to be bi/gay than maybe some other people.I can't really say exactly when I became bi,if I'd have to pick a time I'd say after my 2nd sexual encounter with the same sex @ 12.

 

I would say right around when puberty hit ... like 13.

I just came out about it yesterday though!

Yay!

 

I don;t remember a time I didn't like girls... probably when I was starting to notice things like oh I like her hair and things like that

 

i think i always was attracted to men as well as women whether it would be sexual, emotional, or simply out of interest and curiosity however it didn't seem to explain anything as though it didn't seem to make any difference in what i then considered to be my heterosexuality. but when i hit puberty or at least when sexuality became something i began to think alot more about at the age of 13 i discovered that i was in fact attracted to men physically as well as women and accepted the fact despite it being quite awkward to come to terms with but i don't think i was in denial for all of those previous years, it was just something that could be explained without coming to the conclusion that i was a bisexual or at least something i couldn't know for sure and didn't think too much about.

 

I started to realize that i'm bi when i was about 15..when my best friend asked me to teach her how to kiss and i enjoyed it.. too bad that i put feeling is it and for her it was just an experiment.. since than i had crushes on 3 other girls..with the last one i just broke up 2 days ago and today i'm going to try to confess my feelings to a girl i love and i know she feels something too since we almost made love when we were drunk..anyway..the idea is that this is something you are born with..you just have to let it out or not realize it..it's your choice..

 

sorry but although that may be true for the most part it isn't an absolute fact: you can apparently develop same sex tendencies or become homosexually inclined through traumatic experiences during childhood, by being raised by a single parent, and/or being strongly exposed to or influenced by homosexual(ity/s) from an early age.

 

I've heard that guys who are abused as children are likely to become bi or gay, but it doesn't work the same way with girls. I don't understand why abuse would have something to do with it for guys but not girls. I personally think everyone has natural curiosity, but some people don't allow themselves to explore both paths. I don't believe that experimenting both ways makes you bi, and I don't believe that experimenting with only one gender means that's all you're interested in. I think your choice is just that-- your choice. There is no right or wrong. Whatever you feel comfortable with and enjoy is what's right; whatever you don't enjoy and aren't comfortable doing is probably not right for you (although you can't refuse to do something just because it's uncomfortable; there's a first time for everything and in order to succeed once in a while you have to do things you don't like to do). I've known I was interested in girls since I was about 4 or 5 but have only admitted it to myself the past few years (probably about 2003). I started checking out guys when I was 2 or 3, and admiring girls' beauty since I was 3 to 5.

 

Yeah my parents don't know yet because they don't see how anyone can be bi or gay, they think its wrong and god made woman to be with man, but I am not the same religion as them.

 

i'm having a similar sort of problem, i intend to the tell them in about 6 months when i graduate. now my parents are very liberal open minded loving supportive etc. but through casual conversation and bits and pieces i picked up in the past i've come to the conclusion that as much as they support homosexuality i don't think that they understand it very well and will only ever be convinced that i'm trying to be different, going through a phase, experimenting, or am just 100% gay. i really don't want them to understand my bisexuality as just that...
is or has anyone ever been in similar circumstances?
how did you go about it?
if not then anyone feel free to share your thoughts and give advice / suggestions...
cheers!
-franzde

 

Well it's apparent that i don't agree with you.. The thing is that when you are a child and oyu start to realize and feel love or any kind of more..complex feelings, you might tend to feel it for the same sex.. While growing up, most of the people tend to be friends with the same sex, but do not think that it would be love on a greater level as friendship, since they just look arround and see male-female couples and accept that as being the normal and eventually the only aceptable way. It all starts to unleash or be kept hidden inside depending on the enviroment you grow up in.. But still there are tendences in the early period of your life.. This would be my oppinion. And about telling your parents, i can't say anything new..it all depends on their general attitude, their beliefs. You should take it step by step.. Like masking their oppinion about bisexuality or homosexuality and after knowing what they think, tell them directly or take it slow, going round and round the subject, like in a spiral, finally geting to the point. I told my mom after i made her notice by herself form the way i was talking about my girlfriend, making it sound like i love her more than i'd love a friend, and she accepted it.. Or rather just tryed to not think too much about it, since she's a bit anti-homosexual/bisexual people..

 

I agree with both of you.I think it's almost the norm to have some sorta same sex expirience in the early stages of growing up or even a little later it depends on the individgual,and of course not always.Relationships are often modeld and the model is usually heterosexual as the only accepted way so naturally most young people would simply try to follow.I deffinetely believe that the tendencies are always present or present alot.I think most people just try to follow that model,whatever their preference truly is.Some people cannot and of course are who they are and hopefully come to embrace themselves.On the other hand I do believe in some cases traumatic expirience (abuse etc.) can alter ones preference.I don't think though that being raised by a single parent or being exposed to homosexuality as in being raised by same sex parents or anything like that would have anything to do with it at all.Btw I'm all for same sex parenting of course only if they're good parents I mean why should it matter but that's another can of worms lol.I'm sure everyone else has there own opininion on this this is only mine.

 

The earliest attraction to women I can remember is in 2nd grade, when I had a crush on the T.A. I would always try to impress her with my coloring skills! I also remember that in 3rd grade I had a crush on this Jewish girl, Diana. I remember once staring at the back of her neck and wanting to kiss it so badly.

 

I REALLY believe I've ALWAYS been BISEXUAL. When I was younger (from about the time I reached puberty till my late teens) I thought I might even be gay, because I constantly fantasized and dreamed about another guy MAKING LOVE to me, and FREQUENTLY masturbated to the thoughts of having sex with GUYS. I DID date, and became sexually active with females in my teenage years and while it was DEFINITELY fun and enjoyable, it always felt like "something was missing". Ironically, I didn't have my first sexual experience with another man till I was 20 years old, and my first time with a man felt completely RIGHT and "natural". The fact that it was as just as much romantic/intimate as it was about the sex only further confused me about my TRUE sexual orientation. While I really did really enjoy my previous sexual relationships with females, my first gay experience gave me those "butterflies" and a sense of PURE LUST that I hadn't experienced with any females to that point in my life. The guy I had my first gay experience with became my first and only boyfriend (I've had a few "serious" MALE FWBs since then).
I can HONESTLY say that if I hadn't met, fallen in LOVE and gotten married to my wonderful wife... That I'd be just as comfortable and "in my element" in NOT ONLY dating, and having sex (MAKING LOVE) with another man, but also the possibility of spending the rest of my life with a really special man. If I wasn't madly in LOVE with my wife, I could have certainly envisioned myself settling down with and marrying another man

 

I think it depends on where you are in life. In HS my neighbor and I experimented a couple of times, and then became regular suck buddies through HS and early college years. I moved away and met a gal that took my virginity, and never looked back. Now decades later those desires have come back. I've been married for 20+ years, but the last two have been sexless. I've never been attracted to men physically, until recently when I met my wife's gay friend. He later told my wife that he thought I was hot, and as a joke he said he'd like to "gay me up". He started flirting and sexting me, and that got those thoughts going again. I am attracted to him and not just the thought of his cock. one night I went to his house and when we were alone he kissed me......long hard passionate. Loved it. He knows I'm his anytime he wants. Unfortunately his ex came back in the picture and doesn't share. So........here I am denied two things I want......sex with my wife and submitting to this man.