Right now i feel slightly confused about my sexuality. I am most definitely sure that im bisexual because i would love to have a girlfriend(not sexually) I couldnt ever imagine myself being with a guy I was once with someone whom i really loved, but then i went off him like every guy. I dont feel right being with a guy, kissing them etc. However i can totally imagine me liking it and feeling a lot more secure around a female. I have only just come out about this realy, i was afraid of being bullied about it. There is many reasons to why i think im not straight. Those are a few reasons. It seems that i just cant attract to any man at all. One is very lucky if they do get me attrcted to them, but thats really not many. But its different again with females. I feel im in a difficult situation over this. Im sick of holding it all inside because whenever i do, i crave for it. But i dont want to be judged etc for it. I feel i have had many bad memories here from the past. can someone thats also bisexual try and explain how they felt before they went out with a girl, and try and get me to understand if i am really bisexual or not? I guess i could try going to a gay club through the college. I dont like the typical man and woman relationship, i like to try out something different, by beingwith a girl..but i dont know what to do. But i honestly dont think a man is what i really want.I find it perfectly natural to be with the same sex, i have always wanted someone close in my life.
so why dont you try dating a girl and see how you feel? Maybe you will then realize that you really do like men. Personally I could never be with a girl, I can barley handle my own bullshit drama hahaha
But someone that is bisexual may understand more because theyre in the same position I have always felt a lot more comfortable around females though. Maybe you are right, but finding a girlfriend may be hard. Maybe im not gay, but i really am sure that i would be happier being with a female, than a male in a proper relationship.
Maybe its because you can relate more to females than males, after all you are female. Maybe you have those feelings mixed up and you just want a good solid female friendship? I guess trial and error is how you will find out for sure I have a few freinds who are gay, I couldnt really tell you how they meet their partners but they make it seem easy. Do you have GSA at school? You could join that.
we have a gay club at our college, if thats the sort of thing you mean? It could possibly be that. Its true, i always wanted just a close friend. But then i cant understand the other side of this. would i not attract or fancy guys if i was straight? its not that im not ready, i am, i just dont like them in that way. There is probably many people in this position, trialing it out would sure tell me. I just feel i need someone thats in the same position, who maybe has been with a member of the same sex, to tell me their thoughts. Maybe people can help me by their expereinces with it
But how though? I dont know what places to go and get one! There is bound to be someone who is also in the same situation as myself though.
Hi x Kat x,I sort of relate,.I'm diffenetely Bi-sexual,but I hate to label myself in any way. I've been in many relationships with women and I just can't connect to them at all,what is weird is that I seem to be very attractive to most of them.I love their bodies but I can't connect with them in a relationship,I also feel the way people go about (Straight) relationships is ridicolous and stupid.I can't handle the garbage that always comes up with women and me I'm completely over aggravated and disguisted with it all,.It's not that I'm not attracted to women I am,and I think there are some things women can offer that men cannot.but I don't look at relationships the same typical way other people do,I have my own ideas about what relationships could be and that never seems to fit with others ideas.Guys generally seem to have similiar ideas about most everything.Yea ok of course I'm a guy,but I can't see myself in a romantic relationship with a woman.Actually I see myself more with a guy. I've had one short relationship with a guy and that was alright,until I got scared and ran away.and I have been with men a number of times.I relate better to men,I prefer the company of a guy,and just generally connect better with them.When people talk of "Soul Mates" I can't see a woman being my soul mate (Just a way of getting my thought across)I can easily and quickly get close to a man,and get to know them,and they appreciate my company,I can make friends with a guy in a flash if I wanted too.I do enjoy being intimate with a guy ,but usually just run away.I get really weird about being in a relationship with a guy cause that does'nt really seem to be me,but I really do also want a relationship with a girl, not in a romantic way but I do want a relationship and intimacy, lots of it.,but not a romantic "Lovey dovey" thing a more close casual serious but open thing.The best I can figure for me is to have relationships with both men and women,that seems like the best fit,but still frightening to me.There's this club for gay community(including bi-sexuals) I know about and have begun to check it out,but I seem to always back out when it comes to walking in and getting involved,and I'm not in any relationship now so I feel like I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know what to do.I also don't want to be judged or put down,some people can be ignorant and hateful.My family knows that something different about me and they all probably think I'm gay,but I have'nt really said much to anyone about it since everytime I do people seem to get weird and freak out.So that's some of what I'm going through,.and you're not the only one who's confused.I don't have words of wisdom but I try to have lots of patience with myself and not make big decisions just cause I feel I need to do something or make some choices that might not be in my best interest.I take it very slow and keep myself busy so I don't torture myself by thinking about it too much,and try to be nice and like myself right now where I am.I think things will work for me,when I know the right thing I'll do it.Right now though I am plenty confused.Thanks for a good post,I really relate,and it helped me to write about it.Lots of us are confused,look for answers but try not to stress it so much that you make life a chore,try to enjoy life while your trying to understand. Joe E* Take me disappearing through the smoke rings of my mind, Far from the twisted reach of crazy sorrow.
to be honest i think you should try going out or getting intimate with a lesbian, the fact of the matter is you're not going to understand your sexuality until you put it to the test. hope this helps.
Short but profound!,.. Not a bad idea,. That's the only real way you'll know, talking about it will only get you so far in understanding things. No-one else can tell you what you are,it's different for everybody. J
I've always believed that there is no such thing as Gay or Straight, but varying degrees of Bi. We are all born with both Male & Female hormones, irrespective of our gender, so it's no wonder that there should be a sexual attraction to both. I, personally consider myself to be 75% Straight & 25% Gay. Whereas I can never be emotionally attracted to another male, physical attraction is another matter. When it comes to sex, when all said & done, although a great deal is down to mental stimulation & what it is that arouses you, most of it is a purely physical thing. After all, if you were blindfolded in a room & someone were to enter & masturbate you in absolute silence, if you were able to feel the bodily form of the mastubator you would still orgasm whether you were aware of it being male or female. This is the premise I go by when I have sexual relations with other men. Even before we meet I lay down the terms that everything is No Strings Attached & a One Off Meeting for Mutual Sexual Satisfaction only. It's surprising how many married men there are out there whose wives are incapable of satisfying their desires - often not even being any idea of just what it is that a man needs in order to reach fulfillment. As for making anonymous contacts, I use such online Swinger sites as Adult Friend Finder, Silver Daddies and Adult Hub (all of which can easily be Googled) - all of which I have achieved varying degrees of success with.
