Just How Gay Are You ?

Discussion in 'Bisexual' started by DaveTheBiGuy, Oct 11, 2019.

  1. DaveTheBiGuy

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    As a bisexual married (to a woman) bottom, I'm obviously not 100% gay. That's not to say gay thoughts and desires don't run deep within me, because they certainly do.
    I knew at a fairly young age that I was sexually interested in other guys, long before I realized I was also sexually interested in women too. I also grew up in a homophobic family, so in my teens I dated (and had sex) with a few different females, because that's what my family and society expected. Despite having fun, it felt kinda "forced" and always seemed like "something was missing".
    I didn't have my first gay experience till I turned 20 and moved away from home, but from that very first gay experience, I realized what had "been missing". To be desired, kiss, and have sex with another man gave me that "butterflies in my stomach". It just felt right and totally natural to me. After being with that guy for nearly 2 years, and 2 shorter FWB relationships with other guys, I also realized I could/can be just as (if not more) happy and satisfied in a sexual relationship with another man as I could with a woman.
    Due to unforseen circumstances, I returned home (had previously moved out of state), met and fell in love with my wife, and was never shy in telling her about my sexuality. At first, it was cool, and she even seemed to enjoy talking about my past gay experiences... But as time has gone on, she seems to be a LOT less accepting of my bisexual side.
    She knows at this point that I almost exclusively watch gay bareback, transsexual and MMF 3some porn. If she were to know how often I think about, fantasize about and masturbate to the gay thoughts and desires in my mind, and that I "secretly" check out other guys in public, I'm almost sure I'd wouldn't be married much longer.
    I love my wife very much and can't imagine a future without her... But if anything were ever happen to my marriage, I really can't see myself persuing a romantic relationship with any other women... And I'm almost certain I'd persue a gay lifestyle.
    At this point in my life, I can honestly say I'm about 50% straight and 50% gay (maybe even 60% gay and only 40% straight).
    How about you, how gay are you ?
     
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  2. Si69

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    after 40 years since my first m2m, and maybe 65 women and 200 guys(?)...I reckon I'm on the gay end of bisexual.

    Simon :)
     
  3. LowHangers

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    I'd say 60/40...I love pussy and tits but damn I love sucking a nice big cock and then bending over for it.
     
  4. j17435

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    I like gay sex, but I don't look at nor am I attracted to men in public, only women, especially if they have nice legs and feet.
    I also have no interest in any type of dating or romantic relationships with men.
    At most, I would like to find what I guess is (crudely) known as a "fuck buddy".
     
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  5. LowHangers

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    Nothing wrong with that if both parties agree that this is what is about. I've had numerous "suck buddies" over the years and having that type of arrangement is nice.
     
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  6. Adamskiffle

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    I'm only 1.78% gay!!!!!!!!!
     
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  7. Biodome1980

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    I find women extremely attractive both in public and in bed. Men, I dont find attractive in public but i have no problem following one home and getting a hard on. I love that when I'm horny a guy is always willing. Not nearly so much with the wife.
     
  8. AstroShark

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    95/5.
    I'm pretty much gay.
    I find women beautiful but the relationships I had with women when I was younger were always awkward with me. With other guys, everything just feels right and fulfilling. Wish I could explain it better but that's how it is with me. :)
     
  9. Mfmca42

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    I’m probably 40% gay. I never check out men as I’m walking down the street , but it’s all I seek out really for porn. Have had a few experiences in the past that I would like to explore further but it’s not easy for me too.
     
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  10. Milt

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    We sound a like. I’ve been married 33 years but am having sex with a couple men once or twice a month. I now prefer sex with men. It’s become more passionate. A lot of cuddling with the sex.
     
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  11. marriedman50

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    I can relate, in a similar situation though I only started having gay sex in my 30s and would probably consider myself more straight than gay - maybe 60/40? My wife doesn't know anyting, pretty sure it would spell disaster if she did, but if I were single I have no idea whether I'd pursue a relationship with a woman or a man - most likely I would stay single and meet men as that is way easier, but I suspect I'd eventually end up with a woman still. I once met a gay man who was convinced there were no bi men, just guys refusing to accept their homosexuality, but I can honestly say I swing both ways. It would be easier in many way if I were one or the other, to be honest.
     
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  12. soulpoker

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    I've given up on women not because I don't find them attractive, and if anything because I do. The thing is I never had much success and as I get older I keep losing hope. Anything I've tried fails so I'd rather cut my losses now rather than keep setting myself up for virtually guaranteed disappointment.
    So the alternative is guys. Last summer I finally realized and accepted my bisexuality. And this quarantine has given me a lot of time to think about guys, and that's all I choose to think about now sexually. And I like it. Each day I grow in acceptance of it and, I don't know if this is premature and presumptive thinking, but it's getting to the point I'm actually toying around with the idea of having...a boyfriend! At least I want to know I can have one.
    I know I haven't directly answered the question. The thing is I don't really know how to answer it. The bi-cycle affects me as it does many bisexuals. Even though fate says women are a no go, I have episodes of dreaming wistfully and thinking of what could be. As much as I prefer women, and despite my heart beating deeper and with more desperation for the woman of my dreams, these very pleasant visions are always tainted by the constant realization in the back of my mind that experience tells me this will never happen. So it is a bittersweet and contradicting experience.
    Men seem to offer me some actual solace. They are not at the center of my disappointment in life. (Not that I'm saying I'm disappointed in women. I'm disappointed in myself, that I can't do what every healthy, sane person can do by the time they're a teenager.) Guys are not quite what I really want. But I think it's consistent with my personality to be open to things I might not consider at first, but might work in some way. So I'm proud to say I'm very open to being with guys and seeing what comes out of it. Hopefully a lot of fun and learning.
     
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  13. MJSkier

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    That is amazing your story sounds identical to mine my first MM experience was it 33
     
  14. Freefire1982

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    OMG I agree all of you. You explain my feeling and life. I am married with children. I have never attracted to man in public but I. Like gayporn and blowjob. I have not experienced gay things yet. But I would like.
     
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    So you’re all saying the fact I’ve had cock in my mouth and ass just banging away ....the reward of cum in my mouth and my ass my stomach and all over my cock... and it was some good good times So the fact that I have cum in the mouth and ass and pussy of a females many many more times (not tons of woman) I still have a gay % to me? I think I’m to nit picky to gay ... lol...
     
  16. dd788snipe

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    Ditto completely!!!
     
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  17. Socal72

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    I’d say about 40/45 percent for me.Im much more attracted to a female and enjoy being in a relationship with a women.With a man it’s strictly about the sex (which I actually prefer then with a women ) but I don’t have the desire to got on “dates “ or think of a man in a romantic sense or as a partner.
     
  18. Lovnflman

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    When I first met my wife, we shared our past sexual experiences. I confessed my MM experiences in HS and college. She was initially put off, but we eventually watched gay porn together. It turned her on. We had several MFMs and she thought we should find a guy for MMFs. Never found the right guy. If she knew my desires now after 3+ years of no sex with her, she'd probably leave me.
     
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  19. LuvCubs

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    I’m guessing I’m 69/31 (Guy/Gal) at least in my heart and groin these days.
     
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  20. oralswallow65

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    i am gay when I can play with another male...but I also would play with another woman (now that I left my wife)...gender really does not matter to me, it is the sex I enjoy. Emotionally, I would probably have stronger attraction to a woman, but that is not to say I wouldn't possibly fall in love with the right man and just become 100% gay... but for just sex, I'd probably say I'm 50/50.
     

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