Jerking with a friend.

As a teen I used to jerk with a friend. We jerked with each other for a few years. After those few years we kinda went our own ways, still talking to each other but that’s it. We’re both in a long term relationship with girls. A few months ago I ran into him and we jerked again and the same thing happened today. Has this happened to anyone else? Should we continue doing this? I have mixed feelings with it

 

Unless you have a damned good reason not to continue, what's wrong with it? You say you have mixed feelings about it - what are they? I've had a few guys who, when we were young, we had sex with each other like there was no tomorrow, grew up and went our separate ways but ran into each other "down the road" and, hey, remember when we used to suck and fuck each other? Nice to know they were still down with it and just like I was and, yep, we had sex - and not necessarily jerking off even though it might have started out like that - but sucking on it is so much better.

Nothing to have mixed feelings about but if you do, please let us know what they are because if you have a valid reason for not doing this with him, well, we won't know and I'll will never tell a guy not to do something with little or no information...

 

My mixed thoughts is that we’re both in a relationship with another person.

 

And? So are a lot of guys who get together to jerk off together. It happens. You are either going to be okay with it - and I presume that you were since you didn't seem to develop this thought until after you guys got back together; seriously, I would say that if you knew you were both in a relationship but still got together to do this, it didn't matter - but now it does? And if it really matters to you and is bothersome, then there cannot be a next time so that kinda renders everything moot... unless you really don't want this to stop; just don't get caught.

Honestly, "I'm in a relationship" isn't the valid reason it once was since a lot of men would consider this a "no harm, no foul" kind of thing and would be quick to point out their love and affection for their woman but... this is a guy thing. It's a familiar thing, too. Your choices are to call a halt to it right now or... keep having fun with each other and when you can. I just think it's weird that guys will do something with each other and knowing they're in a relationship and after it's done, now they're all weird about what they did. On the one hand, I'll say that you should have thought about your relationship before you guys reunited... and did nothing. But that's not how it went down and if you are now feeling bad because you cheated, well, it's on you to make sure that it never happens again.

Unless you still enjoy it with him. Tough decision on your part. I'd even ask him if he's having mixed feelings as well and if he is, well, there's your answer. But if not...

 

I was asked b a friend once when I was 16 but I had girlfriend that I was getting plenty of sex with so I didn’t bother. I’ve always wondered what that would have been like.. I can not imagine now.

 

I've been masturbating with my best mate for 20+ years. It just seems very normal to us. Two horny guys sharing something! Of course sometimes we feel the need to help each other out a bit

 

Jerking with a friend is a "popular" option because few people consider masturbation to be "having sex" and like sucking cock or fucking is having sex. In the past, I've been with a guy or guys and we started out pulling our own pud but wound up pulling each other's pud and, um, well, I'd rather suck it than jerk on it which gets into the "having sex" part of the program, but it remained true that none of us thought that jerking each other off was a problem even when being all grown up and in a relationship. It's... one of those guy things that can be said not to be cheating on a partner: "Baby, all we were doing was jerking off!" No harm, no foul unless you happen to be with a woman who believes that men have no reason to be playing with their own dick.

Still, if you're worried about what the little woman might say should she find out, then the answer is clear: Don't do it again. Ever. I maintain that "We're both in a relationship" isn't the deterrent it once was and more so when you ask yourself how you could possibly fuck up your relationship... by jerking yourself off. Kinda crosses the line if the other guy literally gives you a hand but it's still masturbation; really crosses the line if giving you a hand turns into giving you head but unless this is where things wind up going, at the least, you get in trouble for letting your best friend see your dick and watching you jerk off... and even I'm not sure if that's really a "crime."