Jeez why can't I just talk to him?

I just gotta vent...
There's this guy I'm really into in my drawing course at college...and although I just havent had a good chance to get to know him, I am really interested in him...I've had a crush since the end of September, and nothing's really happened between us since then.

I always thought that I was so self confident and all that, but whenever I'm around him I can't do anything! I can't start conversation, I can't just act normal and BE....I want to just show him who I am and be normal, but I always feel like I'm trying to be something around him. And then I try not to try. But I'm still trying. You know??? Not to mention, there's not a ton of time in the class to really talk, or much of a reason for us to interact since we're drawing most of the time. The class is going to be over soon and then I won't be around him....I just feel like I'm blowing any chance I might have of moving things forward by constantly being nervous and avoiding putting myself out there.

Part of me feels like if I'm thinking about it so much and it feels this hard then I should just forget about him, because I feel like things should be natural between two people- nothing should ever be forced. You can't make a relationship happen. But at the same time, I haven't really put myself out there with him, all I do is be smilely with him....I also asked him once if he wanted to go on a walk with me around campus int he woods, but he was busy. He also did give me his number. So I dont know what to do!

I should probably just suck it up and DO SOMETHING. I dont know. What do you think?

 

Wow, I actually didn't expect this of you! I mean, I dont know you in person but judging by your posts I would have to agree that you seem like a far more confident fellow (as you said).

It is a tricky situation. I was in a similar situation once too. I just spoke to the guy - found something I could ask him about (I think it was something like "Are you in the science class) and from there just asked him bout his interests and such and we did get to know each other a little better, but I didn't feel like myself in the same way you described. I just say suck it up and talk to the guy, but I completely understand how you must feel pretty self-conscious around him. Just think of the outcome of your talking to him - you could either:

A. Talk to him and he talks back and you end up getting to know each other slightly better. It's not like he'll ignore you.

OR

B. You get on AWESOMELY well, he becomes your new best bud and later down the line you discover he's also a homo, you hopefully start something.

What've you got to lose? Nothing really, so just talk to him

PS. Sorry if that was somewhat incoherent. Been studying all day and my brain is fried.

 

^^^Oh, something I probably should have mentioned- he's openly bisexual, and seems more flirty with guys than girls (I havnet seen him flirt with girls at all actually).

And a bit of an update;
I was at a big party on Friday and saw him dancing, so I said hi and he pulled me to him and we started grinding pretty intensely for a few songs, until another guy joined on the front of us, and I realized how drunk the kdi I have a crush on was. I danced for two songs and then decided to leave and let any further developments take place when he wasn't intoxicated.
In class today, I asked him how the rest of his night went, and he had competley no recollection of the two of us dancing- he siad he couldnt remember what he did that night. It was pretty frustrating to hear that...I guess I shouldnt have expected much, I saw how drunk he was that night, but I thought maybe taht our dancing was atleast a first step towards something.
At the same time, we wound up atleast having a normal conversation in class where I was able to talk and just BE, which was nice. I feel like I just need to get things moving already and ask him to hang out sometime. Or maybe I should be more specific, and ask him to go get coffee or something?

Or I should just forget about it?

But I know I won't forget about him until I settle this. And settling this means trying to move things further and seeing whether he's interested...

 

Well, as I always say: Shy beigns get nowt.

Or, in proper english, if you don't ask, you won't recieve! Have a go, you never know what might happen. Maybe you should be slightly flirty, give him a few winks now and then.