I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month and nothing can be better. Our relationship is perfect, we get along so well, we're from the same culture, we speak the same language, we're around the same age, we have many things in common. we connect so well in all ways. I feel loved for the very first time in my life and it's so unbelivable. He shows so much care, love and respect towards me and I feel that every day this feeling grows and grows...I too love him as much and feel I found my perfect guy. I'm just a bit afraid all this can change and suddenly we lose what we have. He's going back to argentina in November to visit his dad and family and I'll stay in England, studying my first year in university. I just dont want things to change, and if they are to change I just want to change for the better. We both want to spend the rest of our lives together and I know that it's possible if we both want it. I'm just afraid of losing this beautiful feeling, which make me feel a bit resistant to fall in love entirely. I dont know if anyone understands this, it's making me a bit sad cos I want to love him with all my heart, but somehow I cant cos i'm afraid. I've told him this and he understands, but what can i do? this is the first time I'm in a proper relationship, so it explains the lack of understanding in the matter. I'll apreciate some feedback guys. Love xx
this is your first time you say...well your human all humans are scared of things they do not really understand so that is tottally understandable. also no matter how perfect the person humans are scared to death of submission. it causes giving all and in this society people are hurt by all even those close to them but to seal the relationship as best you can you will have to give him all of yourself. it will be verry hard that is for certain being so far away. but also now that i reread your question it has only been a month and my advise might not be the right time, in that case maybe you should wait and like i told someone else get to know him better.
Well...Since it has only been a month...I would just take it slow and give it time to see what happens...You have already told him that you were scared of loving him , which is understandable...We are all scared of loving at first because of the fear that it will go away....Just keep being honest with each other...and spending time together when you are not at distance...then love will grow and blossom...and when you are ready you will be able to tell him how you feel...dont be in a hurry...just enjoy your relationship
I completely understand what you mean when you say that you are afraid about giving your all. I just got over the same sentiment with my current boyfriend. Your reasons are different from mine for being afraid, but thats not the point. I just wanted to quote this "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" If you do hold back, you may regret it forever. (I once fell in love with a guy and was in complete denial until I moved across the country. It was selfishness on my part, because he was kinda unattractive. I still love him. To bad he didn't know) If you don't hold back, you may be hurt when the relationship ends. But you'll get over it, and you will be able to look back on it and remember the love and it will make you smile. Amen
Love is scary at times cuz you can get really hurt. But there's really no way of finding out if you two are meant for each other unless you take the plunge. Whether you do or not is up to you...
gotta love the infatuations... things wouldve cooled down eventually, itll be good to step back away from this intense relationship and put things into prospective because love is blind. but if its really strong itll last. like me and my boyfriend hooked up less than a month before school ended, but we had strong feelings for each other so we decided to try the long distance thing. so far its working really well. my feelings for him continue to grow each time i see him. take a breather and know itll all work out for the best. peace
