here is something with a grain of brain. i've been writing some off the wall stuff lately 'cause my harmones are in psycho mode. I thought it would be fun to write this because it's half way serious. What does a person do when she/he lose a lot of weight and suddenly has people paying attention that wouldn't normally? How would you handle people being nice to you when they wouldn't even look at you? How would you handle your new look and all the things people that saw your old look would say?
haven't gone the other way 'round yet but I gained a bunch of weight a coupel years ago due to some medication, so I lost what little attention I did get from a lot of folks. It's odd, how an extra 20-30lbs will make others treat you. I don't mean just flirting, just... general. Less attention, less friendly, dirty looks if they see you eating in the foodcourt and yet they roll their eyes at you if you're eating a salad/something healthy instead. (not always, but sometimes) it's.. eh. I've stopped caring, but it's a weird dynamic
Yeah and the snide comments hurt the worst. The underlying ones. That outfit looks flattering on you instead of you look pretty. I hate the You have a pretty face. I had a person actually tell me that people say that because the rest of you is so repulsive to them. I don't think I could handle people being nice because I look more exceptable to them.
well, I do have a pretty face. One thing that sticks around despite weight fluctuations. (so terribly humble of me to say, eh?) moreso it's the work-appropriate wear crap I get. I wore a slightly tight T to work once and got told it was too much like I was going out at night, yet another chick working that day had nearly half her tits out on display (hey, looked great on her, but.. double standard) comfort trumps appearance for work - if i find a slightly tight shirt more comfy than somethign I look frumpy in, suck it up.
i kinda get what you're saying but with my hair i had it bright pink and got looks from everyone it was so great especially when people would just openly stare but now its red and kinda normal and no one looks at me the same but if you have more attention just cause you're skinner, rather embrace it or make people aware that that attenntion isn't what you want (if thats the case) and i'd say gaurd your new 'friends' they might be focusing on a certain pyshical atribute you have as opposed to your personality
I have a pretty face and pretty hair. I just want to hear the words pretty by people instead of flattering attire.
they're paying attention to you now cuz they find you more attractive and if it was your goal to lose weight and you did then that's great for you! did you do it to be more attractive? so people are noticing you look good, what's wrong with that? embrace it!