Hiiii my name is Starla! I just turned 34, I have no direction in life, 2 awesome daughters, and DID () I'm also still healing from getting out of a 12yr long, very mentally and physically abusive relationship. () My locs are only around 5 or 6months old and were started out Freeform, tho I'm not sure if I'm at SemiFreeform or something else entirely at thsi point I have no clue what I'm doing and im getting to the point where it's causing me great levels of anxiety & stress. So it's time to find the secret, hidden wise ones to guide me lol. I have wanted dreads for as long as I can remember. I'd tried everyway possible to have them... Except not trying anything. I have thick hair and it always got so tangled so fast. I've had to cut all my hair off a few times cause I would trip and not see it was me. Or things would feel weird , either shady or drake Just pure danger
Welcome to Hip, I hope you'll enjoy it here. I'm pretty stupid actually but in regards to your anxiety and stress, perhaps you can elaborate on it...or maybe you did and I didn't catch it because english isn't my first language and again I'm dumb as a door. Great that you got out of that relationship, and healing will take time of course but you are on the right path already, so stay the course, and let us know if we can be helpful in any way shape or form.
Welcome to HIP. Enjoy the forums. Awesome to get out of the abusive relationship. No one deserves to be abused in relationships or in general. We are all here to help you get by
thank you everyone! I honestly didn't even expect to have anything, Im just lurking around, trying to decide if I wanna show my hair or not lmao. There is definitely a lot going on here and I just noticed. I might get lost here this weekend
Ohhhh I believe you're right cause you seem very awesome! I have a Betty tattoo btw, so you won me over just by your pfp. I'm not saying it's love at first sight... LOL fr tho, thank you for the warm welcome
I had dreads for 3.5 years, and am soon going to be doing dreads again. My method was twist and rip, and back-combing. I did not measure and separate my hair before-hand, so they were all different sizes. And they had loops in them. So that's why I wanted to take mine out, give my hair a break, and then start again. Shoot me a message if you want to chat
Welcome here! You're among friends here. So sorry to hear about past abuse. You do not deserve that. It's not normal or healthy. it's unacceptable, for you and your babies (a term of endearment - I don't know how old your daughters are). I don't know what to recommend about dreadlocks. I've never had nor desired them so I'm not the person for technical advice. Hope you find the answer to that & other questions here, or wherever else. I wish you some direction, or at least you get places you're supposed to get to. Perspective helps too. Sometimes you're right where you should be & don't realize it for awhile.
