help... I don't know maybe it's because I'm extreemly drunk right now(just got back from a bitchin' party), or maybe I'm just starting to realize what i lost, but I was what you could call best friends with this guy, and we'd been friends for a couple of years. Last year he told me he loved me but I never really took him seriously and he wound up dating this other girl and I wound up moving away. We talked ocassionally after, but we lost contact a little while ago. Now I really miss him, and realize that I loved him too. I guess deep inside I knew the reality of what was going on between us but I was in a bad place at the time and couldn't be with him. On the surface I didn't understand what was going on with me at the time so I'd make up stupid excuses of why we couldn't be together. Now not being so close to the situation I understand it better and it's really starting to hit me. I miss him so much, this sucks, and I'm not sure if I've damaged our relationship by being so stupid. I would appreciate any helpful words.
I had this same problem once when I got stoned a long time ago, but afterwards, I found out that I was better off without her. THings are probably different for you... If you can't somehow get in contact with him, you should just move on. Unless you think he's "the one", you should'nt linger in the past...
well, i know i it's bad for me to keep my focus in the past, but currently, it's like I don't really care about anything (well dating and relationshipwise), and I mean ANYTHING. And I'm starting to wonder if this is why. If I contact him, i really wouldn't know how to tell him, I mean he told me he loved me like a year ago. I've put him aside for a whole year. I was even friends with his family, and we also lost contact because it'd be sooo weird if I had to hang out with them again with him and his girlfriend...
Well isn't this weird, I've been feeling the same way these last couple of months. I'm going to blame it on a mix of my ex girlfriend and Mick Jagger I'm just gonna go with the flow with whatever happens, you should try the same...
I disagree ^^^^^ Personally I think if you love somebody you should tell them, whether you think it's going to get you anything or not. Who doesn't like to hear that someone loves them? And then you'll never regret that you did it. If you don't get the response you're looking for... well at least you'll know. And if you're truly good friends, it won't damage the relationship. But when you love someone, you tell them.
Yeah, there were a few months there that i really didnt care about anything. I know exactly what you mean. I kept telling myself that i didnt care, but i really did. Soon enough, i really just didnt care. Its a bad place to be, and it doesnt matter what it is, you really do care. My advice would be to just contact him somehow, just to check up on each other. I mean, you were friends. You dont exactly have to just come out with it. Just try to start the relationship back up.
what do you have to lose if you tell him? you've already lost contact with him so your current status of frindship wont be hurt and if he feels the same way then..awesome
its life deal with it. nothing lasts forever, the time has past...move on. much easier than sittin there drowning in depressive emotions. and im sure the alchohol has something to do with the mood as well. next time try uppers, easier to deal with.
