Its been about 3 and a half months since me and my ex have broke up, after a year long relationship over which time we fell in love and it was the best year of my life! Since being with her my life had changed, everything got better and now shes gone its really hard just to cope without her. But now she is drinking alchohol a lot more often and shes with someone else. She has probably lost her virginity to the guy by now. The thing is i wouldnt even want her back, its just that i feel such a loser how she just left me and ruined all my future plans and everything and just moved on to the next guy and couldnt care less about me. Yea she was upset for a couple of weeks but she didnt care afterwards. Its not fair how she did that, revenge is stupid in this case but i just feel so used and unloved. I have good days but i often get a reminder of her because she was such a huge part of my life its hard to not get reminded, and then i just go very depressed and upset. I thought of suicide when the first week after the breakup passed, but i could never bring myself to go thru with it, so out of fear i just carried on up to this point. I joined a relationship forum out of desperation and met a girl who had gone thru and was still going thru the same thing. She is 18 though, and she has held contact since and has really helped me out. Luckily for her, her ex came back to her after 3 months of being apart and he apolagized and admitted he made a mistake, half of me wishes my ex would do that but half of me doesnt. mainly because she has changed now, and she has probably already lost her virginity to her new boyfriend, which was something i really wanted to share with her. How am i supposed to get over her when she has completely ruined my life!? I want her to suffer what i am suffering, because its not fair. Ive decided to not get so caught up in a girl anymore, i should just have flings with girls which dont last very long, so there is less pain for both of us. It is true though, nice guys do get walked all over, regardless of how well i treated her.
Losing someone is really hard. In time, things will get easier. You just need to focus on the future and your life and things that you can do to filll the void that was once your ex.
Maybe the reason she drinks so much is because she doesn't have you and doesn't want to deal with the pain of how she lost you so she coats it with alcohol. You need to go get her right now and talk to her and tell her how you feel before it really is too late. The virginity thing I can kinda of understand. You were probably waiting forever for her to give you that and then you two broke up and now she gave it to somebody else. If even! Maybe she didn't at all. Maybe you just miss her so much that your making yourself paranoid about these things. Everything will be okay sweetheart. You just give it time and you will see. Try to be around other people as much as possible to pass the time and to try and forget about her.
that shits rough, i went threw kinda the samething. don't worry girls come and go. Dont say that she ruined your life because that makes u sound like a pussy. As much as u thought u loved her, u will find someone else that u will love just a much. until then chase all taht british ass u can!
Not to down play your problems my brother....but you are 15! Life gets better, girls get prettier, and love gets sweeter!!! Plus, be careful with the flings man you are young....as well flings do not mean less pain. They may mean less immediate pain, but a lot of loveless flings may have some bad long term effects.
Thanks for the replies. Campfirejam, its way to late for talk now. We hadnt seen eachother or talked for about 3 and a half months, i had done and said all i could to stop her but its her choice, there would be no point in her staying with me just to make me feel better. I dont know what i did wrong though, she seemed fine and happy. Well i need a break from relationships for a while, i think im too young to handle it.
Listen dude, all the talking are not gonna help you forgetting her. YOU NEED A NEW GIRLFRIEND. Only a new girl would help you forget. Your ex doesn't care about you cause she's got a new guy (she's too busy to think about you ) Best cure Go and look for another girl. Even if you're not gonna find a girlfriend right away you would be very busy searching and you wont have the time to think and care about your ex anymore. You would meet other intersting girls and have a life again . Go !! Just go.
I know it hurts right now and you feel as though you'll never get over this, never find someone else quite like her, but, you will in time. Allow yourself to grieve your loss, but do not let it take over your life. You're young, and you have so much more to experience yet! It will get better I promise.
She had all the qualities in a girl that i like though. Im not so bad now, but i get huge mood swings, sometimes to a point where i just question my life and future. Its sad really, shes only a person, the feeling of being used and unloved is horrible though.
Yep, couldn't agree more. Right now your energy is fixated on her. You need to find someone else to put your energy into. When it happens you won't believe you were ever belly aching over her.
I don't know If I agree with this. Just because you are hurting because a girl left you DOES NOT MEAN the best thing to go find is a new girl right away. Actually you should learn to appreciate being single (because is does have it's benifits and perks)...and you should wait till the next awesome girl happens to come along. You don't want to just jump on the next girl you meet to find out she isn't what you want- and then it is a tricky situation for you.... I don't know. Another girl isn't a horrible Idea- but it is not the best fix. You have to learn that love hurts- with out the sour the sweet just isn't as sweet.
