For us, past sexual experiences with others was just for the sexual experience, not loving. Feeling like that allowed us to experience many different things without hangups or regrets. If we didn't like it , we didn't have to do it, but the door was always open to whatever pleasures life can bring us. Because we both had same sex experiences actually enhanced our lives and pleasures. Were you able to enjoy everything as a couple, or do you both have secrets?
Being able to share our desires,.rather than hiding them and sneaking around has enhanced our love for each other. Its added another dimension to our lives
I would fully agree with that. My wife and I have been in an open relationship our entire marriage of 38 yrs. She has certain men and woman who entertain her in bed when I travel the same as I. When I find a playmate while traveling I tell her and even send her pics. She does the same. When a certain gentleman is servicing her at home and she knows I’m coming home she sends a text telling me to find something else to do until I hear from her. For what ever reason if I’m around he loses his hardon. She love to fuck this guy as he is very well hung and her favorite thing is his low hanging balls, he is a heavy cummer and can cum multiple times in a couple of hours. But the best part is when she does say it’s good to come home she is laying in bed leaking his cum and I get to clean her pussy, yummy.
Reminds me of that Carley Simon song "we have no secrets. we tell each other everything. about the lovers in our past and why they didn't last..." but the chorus goes, "sometimes I wish, often times I wish that I never, never, never knew some of those secrets of yours..." I had a lot of secrets I kept from my wife. I knew she would not go along with it if she knew. And I was right. Once the truth came out, it was the last nail in the coffin. I would have enjoyed a thoroughly honest and mutually agreeable relationship with her, but it was not something she was open to at all.
That is sad. My wife has had multiple health issues among them menopause. Sex life is dead and has been. Highly doubt when menopause ends it will improve. I have been hanging out with a guy when I can find time. It has been highly enjoyable. He asked me does she have any idea and I said no. Honestly she would be floored if she found out. She can’t and probably won’t in the future out out. Why should I have to go without. I was celibate 13 or more years. I fulfill my responsibilities and we get along good otherwise.
