Issues with our bodies/the way we look...:(

I think that pretty much every girl I've ever met has some insecurity about her body/the way she looks and I think it's bullshit. I have major issues with my body and just the way I look most of the time. I don't really know what to do about it. The media is the one to blame I think...or just society all in all. What do you girls think? What are you insecure about?

I'm insecure about my weight, mostly.

 

Every guy I know also has insecurity about the way they look.

I don't like how I show my gums when I smile. That is my main insecurity.

 

You're exactly right to blame the media for everyone's insecurity, particularly women's insecurities.

A lot of it has to do with the fashion and modeling industries, and the whole marketing industry as a whole. Who show such fake beautiful women who have been photoshopped to perfection.


There's lots of documentaries out there who expose the truth behind those unmanicured models and how they really look without all that photo-editing and air-brushing.

 

going to get worse before it ever gets better...... With the advance of High Def Television, the need to find more and more attractive people will be necessary to create the illusion that everyone is pretty..

Tbh.. HIgh Def brings out the ugly in all.. I cant even watch NBC TODAY show cause I think im watching a Leather purse commercial for 4 hours..



Got to love the AIr Brush..

 

Just to contribute to the issue: even the Dalai Lama said that if the next lama was to be female, she would have to be attractive because no one would listen to her if she wasn't...

I've been dealing with this issue as well. I think it's more the mentality of people more so than the media (the media reflects the mentality...I think)

It must be a hell of a lot easier being a guy: getting more attractive as you get older. We get uglier and more insecure. It sucks balls.

 

It frustrates me immensely how hard it is for people to just accept what is natural to the human body. Like hair for instance, most women seem to think that they have some kind of defect if they have any hair on them other than on their head. This is why I don't shave period. Though even I would like shave in some places for the sake of my physical comfort, I've got to be 'extreme' to get anyone to listen. Occasionally I will even feel insecure about myself because no one, especially guys, at my high school can even fathom the idea of women not shaving.

 

It's truly depressing. I think you're very strong to do that, PsychedelicSchizo, props to you.

 

The media sets the "standards" for what people feel they should look like. Things would be very different if being thin wasn't favored in our society. But I have suffered from eating disorders and I can tell you that at their core, they weren't really about food, dieting, or weight at all. They were about me trying to do something physical to fix something mental or internal. It's all a very confusing subject.

 

have you watched any shows on the NickTeen networks?. There are girls on there that enforce this look. Also using the shows to create insecurities, with fashion themes .. its also funny how none the students in these shows are not dressed in Poverty level clothing. always the brand new clothes, shoes, hair.. Each kid is cleaned perfectly..

When have you ever seen kids at the bus stop dressed so perfectly or look so perfectly. Just getting out of bed for school, on a 20f morning in the winter?.. come on.. :biker:

 

I don't shave because I am ashamed of my hair... I just happen to love the feel of smooth legs and underarms. I spent years not shaving and then just decided, "fuck it, I'm doing whatever I want"

But you do have a good point.

It all makes me really glad that I live in the woods where no one gives a damn about what you look like.

 

So true.

Anyways, I wouldn't mind a smaller nose and bigger boobs. Not going to happen though, because I'm really not that unhappy or insecure. I can think of so many better ways to spend money and I'm not a fan of pointless and unnecessary surgery.
Plus this nose has been in my family for generations :sunny:

I guess I'm okay with the way I look.

 

Can't say one thing I like about the way I look I really can't...oh well.

 

Expressing insecurities a lot of the time is also about fishing for compliments though

 

Yeah because im really expecting people here to give me compliments even though they have no clue what I look like.

 

So true.

 

That was directed to all


As for you, well you're Irish, so even when its text only you have to deal with that dumb stereotype that results from all those Irish Jokes

 

me too , i'd like bigger boobs, better skin because i break out time to time..

but im too that insecure to spend thousands on surgery.. at one point i really did want a boob job, but i've learned to love my little boobs haha..

nobody is perfect, even those with plastic surgery..

just work with what you've got

 

Not always true. Last woman I had a fling with was 23 years my senior. I'm 25.

Then you got dating sites like this: <edit>

 

I'm insecure about my weight and my hair. I put on about 15 to 20 pounds over the past 3 years or so and I hate it. I'm only a size 10 now and I realize that for my frame I look fine but I hate that feeling I get when I sit and can kind of feel my stomach sticking out a little. I was really thin growing up and in college without working on it so feeling overweight is hard because the whole "dieting" thing is not something I am familiar with or care to do. For a while I didnt want to buy new clothing because the size was bigger but once I did I actually looked and felt better.

My hair is a really pretty color naturally but it's kind of fine and doesnt grow long (or quickly). So, I've more or less had variations of the same style for forever.

While these things annoy me, I dont let them consume me. I figure that I've only got one life to live and there are other things I'd rather invest more energy in. But yeah....the media is not helping one bit. Also, I have noticed that magazines that are aimed at women in their late 20s and 30s lately have been using models like Miley Cyrus and that girl from Twilight. Neither of them has even hit 20 yet but they are on the cover of magazines that talk about fertility and anti-aging creams. Hmm......something is wrong with that.

 

Yeah, that just makes me feel old.