Is your wife on board with Bi Curiosity.

Is your wife on board with your Bi Curiosity or is it a secret best kept to yourself?

 

Absolutely, manned up and told her, best choice I made. Secrets are for the weak.

 

Yes. She approves and totally accepts those who are gay or bisexuality. She said she could always support any of our sons if they chose to be. She accepts a niece and nephew whom are both gray. But she told me she couldn't accept it if happened to be me because she would feel I deceived her for years. So i keep my inner feelings to myself

 

Surely she has to understand this type of thing could take awhile to reveal especially in a society which unfortunately is still homophobic. It took me literally a few decades to make sense of my bisexuality just to myself.

 

I'm not sure she would believe that my bi curiosities really didn't develop until the past year or so as I've aged and as things changed sexually at home. I can't really speak for her for sure that it would be her opinion, but knowing her as I have and married 45 years I suspect its how it would go over

 

I told my wife while we dated, maybe a month or two into our relationship. I was married before and she resented it so I got it out of the way early. She doesn’t mind it, knows I look at gay porn, she’s bought me several dildos and knows I own other toys as well. She’s not 100% on board with me wanting to meet other men (hasn’t happened yet!) but I also told her it was going to happen regardless of her feelings (yes I know that’s wrong) but she’s stayed with me so she must be cool with it on some level

 

My wife knew of my curiosities and knew I probably would never act on them, so she arranged a threesome with a co-worker of hers. She made sure he was OK with it beforehand.

 

I hid it from my first wife for 15 years of our 25 year marriage. Told my present wife while dating and she's turned on by it and loves to watch and participate.

 

I had never told anyone of my MM sex from back in my youth. Yeah I was still curious, so much so that I bought a paperback novel about gay sex. My live in GF went snooping around and found it. She blew a gasket. She asked me if I was gay, and I said no.......just something I found interesting. It went downhill from there. She ended up moving in with her bi coworker and they stayed together for a couple years. I never told my ex wife.
When my current wife and I started "dating" we had the usual pillow talk......exchanging fantasies and sexual histories. I confessed to my HS/college suck buddy. At first she was shocked, but eventually calmed down. She started asking more questions about my experiences. We started watching mainstream porn (she had never seen any), then grew in to lesbian (it turned her on), MFMs, MMFs and then gay porn. Surprisingly the gay porn turned her on, and shed ask if I would do the particular scene we were watching. I'd just say "maybe". That eventually lead us to pegging. Then we started our MFMs with our friend, and after one such night she thought maybe we should find a bi guy for some MMF fun. We looked but never came across the right bi man. But that didn't stop her from having a one nighter with a married female bi aquainance of hers. Now we're sexless for 4 years, and my curiousities are quite strong. She'd have a cow and probably leave me. We had quite a collection of toys that hadn't been used in years, so I thought "why not?" and have putting them to good use on occasion. Only makes me more curious and wonder what the real thing would feel like again.

 

Same here, My wife and I where both married before and I let her know I like cock also. She indulged in pegging and loves I eat my love juice from her every time. We have also shared a women from time to time. Been 30+ years!

 

My wife is extremely supportive. We've always shared every naughty aspect of our lives. Porn porn and did I mention porn lol. One of the videos we were watching together was a swingers party. The wife was giving a nice slow blowjob to the other husband, then she looked over to her husband and gave the "come here" command with her finger, since her mouth was still full of cock. He came over, she held his head, and gave him a naughty French kiss. She then maintained eye contact and took every inch of that cock. Slowly came up, gave him a big smile, and pointed to the man's cock. He had an uncomfortable look to him, but with her constant smile and controlling nature, he slowly and steadily shared a cock back and forth with his wife. They enjoyed it for a while before changing positions. During that entire scene, me and my wife had evil grins and kept looking at each other. She asked me if I thought that was hot, or made me uncomfortable. I said I think it was extremely hot! Due to the fact of her being in control, (which I love) and the fact of doing it together. She smiled and said, "I'm adding that to our naughty bucket list". That was 4-5 years ago, and the very first time my mind has ever considered a bi-curious act. And since then, it has constantly become stronger and stronger. Looks like a lot of fun!! She still teases me with bi videos to this day.

 

New here - first post. I came out as bi-curious to my wife before Christmas and she has been hugely supportive.

We have always been open about sex but I suppose I needed to admit to myself that it’s something I’d be interested in trying. Much of this came about as we are planning on a more open relationship in future (post-COVID) and this would include MMF which is a huge turn-on for us both.

Before that I want to find the right guy for me to practice on! It’s been a lot of fun having Snapchats with guys but looking forward to trying the real thing.

Awesome forum and great to see people who have both similar and different experiences

 

I never thought of my rare gay fantasies while masturbating as being part of my sexual identity so never revealed anything to my wife before marriage. 5 years into our marriage she told me about HER lesbian fantasies and 6 months later I finally plucked up the courage to tell her my gay fantasies.

That was 15 years ago and she has been very supportive. She often encourages me to go get a gay massage. She knew beforehand when I went to a jackoff club in Seattle and she knew beforehand when I hooked up with a guy in a hotel (and saw video afterwards).

I came out to her as gay about 2 years ago and she was totally cool with it. I pleasure her anally once a week. She knows we will always be married but that I also want a boyfriend. She is down with that. Obviously she knows she is free to find a boyfriend anytime.

 

That’s awesome that she is so open. My wife and I had a bisex threesome when we first met. So she’s definitely seen me suck cock. But that was some time ago. I’m really not sure where she stands on it now. She’s open to most things. And maybe if we had more time on our hands I would take the risk to mention it to her and find out. But even if I did and she was down, we wouldn’t have time to explore more at this point in our busy lives anyway. So I keep it as a solo project.

speaking of which, I’d be down to snapchat, or kik or whatnot too.

 

Thanks for the welcome

Not sure if there is a DM option on this forum or I’ve I can’t use it as I’m a newbie?

 

That's great! Having the support and knowing that she's behind you is something that really free's up ones mind. It also reduces, or in my case, completely eliminated any stress and discomfort as we continue our sexual exploration together. Welcome to the forums!

 

That is the best part. I openly watch gay porn in front of my wife. No need to hide. We used to fantasize about me with other women. Now my wife initiates gay fantasies for me. She wants to watch me have sex with another man.

 

She is and completely fine with it. Said to have fun and don't do anything stupid. I'm not the one that goes around sleeping with everyone I see. I also don't take advantage of her permission. She comes 1st before everything else.

 

It was all my wifes idea. She is the one who put the idea in my head, until she was unable to have sex. One of her/our best friends is gay and he jokingly suggested helping out. That turned her onto the idea and she brought it up multiple times. When our friends partner moved away, he was as lonely for sex, as much as I was. He was an older guy who never went out and was as horny as I was. If it weren't for my wifes encouragement, I'd still be jerking off by myself. She thought we could take care of each other needs, without any hastle or hangups. I avoided it for years until it didnt sound like a bad idea anymore. After all, getting a bj was ok with her, if it was him. She always said she would want to watch us do it to each other. I finally gave her the opportunity to watch and it turned out to be a positive choice. She loved watching us sucking each other and offered encourgement as we did it. He is the only one who I ever did it with . Now we only see each other when he visits, since he moved several hours away. I have no regrets for giving it a try and We look forward to his visits back up our way. My wife fills the void between visits , with her strapon, until the next opportunity. Im glad I gave it a go.

 

Did your gay friend ever fuck you? I'd rather hint that if you like the strap on, you'd like him better.