I asked my boyfriend when his brother was coming back from India and he said the end of september and he's going to come and stay with us until he finds a job...I said you have to discuss it with me, thats disrespectfull....so after his yelling he began his pouting.....communication in relationships is difficult..
who's place is it? If it's his, then it's only a little disrespectful. If both of your names are on the lease and you both pay rent, then it's totally disrespectful.
Do that think like in Greys Anatomy, if you want the brother to get kicked out, walk around the house naked
thanks for your advice...I already thought about the near naked its my routine anyway and we both own the house so why should i be uncomfortable in my own home when he doesnt feel the need to even ask me if he could come..He says its Indian culture for family to come and stay as long as they want, anyways hes still not talking to me today and the tension is annoying...I guess he feels like if he tells me and asks me then he feels like a pussy, and i feel like we dont do that here in america...Im just letting him be in silence these issues should be discussed and shouldnt make you shut down for days of discomfort...
I don't think it's disrespectful at all. It's family. If you want to be his girlfriend or with him, then you have to accept that family comes along with it. I'd find it more disrespectful for you to find it a problem that my brother stay at my place for a while, to help him out.
I dont mind that he stays it the fact that my boyfriend didnt ask me if it was okay to have a long time house guest...so since he didnt ask thats the problem i feel disrespected.when your in a relationship you should communicate not just assume...it rude its my home to so you have to let me know when your family is planning on coming not for a weekend but a extended stay...He doesnt need that much help hes been bullshitting in India for months and more than a week at our home is a welcome worn out especially if you dont ask me first....he needs to be looking for a job but not at my home.....if he was that concerned about looking for a job then he should have been looking the last few months from India and not for another arranged marriage with out a job..thats why his first wife left him...lazy....gwt a motel if its an extended stay...
