Is this delayed ejaculation or just me?

I read on various sex health websites that causes of delayed ejaculation are:
1. taking antidepressant medicine
2. lack of penis stimulation
3. hormone problems
4. inability to relax with your partner

I engage in both receptive and giving roles during sex and I like them both, though I think I like being receptive more. I don't like giving anal sex as much as I like receving oral sex. I get tired after bashing my bf's ass after 10-15 minutes and sometimes my balls start to hurt. I actually like to move slowly when I penetrate him but he frequently complains he wants it faster. When he sucks me he complains he gets tired after 10 minutes or less, but I can last a bit more while sucking him and often drive him to cum inside me even if my mouth starts to get tired. All in all I can say I like sex with him but his dick is small and I often refuse that he penetrates me because I feel almost nothing except slight irritation inside me... unfortunately we don't have sex as often as we both want because we live quite far from each other. And honestly I feel I have to leave him because of it and some problems related to his persona's that I have been enduring for long

My bi friend told me he had the same delayed ejaculation problem as I and he'd been taking antidepressant pills for quite a time. For him the issue disappeared after he stopped taking those pills. He also says that vagina feels tighter than anyone man's ass and it's why it feels better. The only time he cummed was when he was with a woman.

For me it looks like my problem is either 1st or 2nd in the list.

P.S. I cannot get paid help from a professional because there are no professionals in my country.

 

I don't feel a very strong bond to my bf because of my paranoid personality and what he says in order to "threaten" me. I don't think he is serious but I just don't like it nevertheless. Therefore I presume my ejaculation problems can be caused by this as well

 

Yeah I'd say 1, 2 & 4.

Sounds you'd be better parting, especially as u say he's far away.....a relationship has to work for both.

If course u are telling us your perspective.....and then tell us u are a paranoid personality .....

So see what could work for you both or split IMHO.

Simon