is there something in semen that stops us girls cumming?

just lately, whilst trying just about everything known to man! we have noticed that if my man cums before me (in me) then we might aswell forget about me, theres seems to be no chance that i will get off after that, not because hes tired or anything, even if we use the vibrator after hes cum I still cant! has anyone else had this happen, cause its been a few times now and although i hadnt said anything untill lately, even he had noticed it.

i know that saying of ladies first and all that, but is this just a mind thing or what?

 

Nope, never had that problem before.......hhhhmmmmm.......

Ladies???...........

 

god damn selfish semen

=P

 

A mental thing maybe?
I find I orgasm much faster if we're both really turned on and intensely into it... if she orgasms, then I'll suddenly be much less close to orgasming. So perhaps that has something to do with it?

 

Eh.. well, usually having a guy cum inside me gives me more of a chance of cumming because I love the feeling of a guy cumming inside of me... I think it definetly is a mental thing.

 

i agree weeble, i love that feeling as well! but when it happens then thats it! i could carry on messing around, but well he tends to fall asleep soon and then im left with ok so now what? i hate that feeling after that happens, in fact ive been like that for hours tonite.

 

No this has nothing to do with you. It has got everything to do with your dude. There's a scientific word for it. It is called "Selfishness". I'm sorry.

But this situation can be amended, either individually or by getting professional help which may cost a buck or two.

 

Actually, they believe that the act of female orgasm is also a reproduction tool. Scientists believe the rippling of the uterus during orgasm actually helps move the semen further inward towards the egg (if egg is present).

That being said, from a scientific standpoint, No. There is nothing in sperm that retards the female orgasm. It would be reproductivly counterproductive.

 

my man has been really focusing on me, which kinda puts me under pressure! and usually ends up with me not cumming,he does all this stuff before hand and after hours of trying on a scale of 1 - 10 i would get to a 5 but then after that amount of time it kinda gets hard for him to hold back, and quite honestly, i feel unfair asking him to after that amount of time! as its me that has the real difficulty in cumming i feel that im left in a position where i have a choice, i.e. i either fake it, - not good idea. carry on - get so wound up as nothing ever happens cause i feel "broken", or just dont bother making love and risk my marriage falling to pieces as it so neaarly did a few months ago. i dont want the last one to happen, and yes we are seeing a therapist, dont want to get into the bad habit of faking again - did that for 22 years which got me into this mess in the first place, so you see im kinda stuch between a rock and a hard place!

 

Semen is a really good lube. After he cums there will be less friction.

 

Darkangel, it's been said that sex is 90% in your mind and attitude. If you want it, you'll have an orgasm. It sounds like you're successful some of the time. It sounds like you're communicating well with your guy. I've always thought that I'll be more than satisfied if she takes care of me, and that she'll be satisfied if I take care of her. That way, I don't focus on myself at all, just on her and her needs. Perhaps you should focus on him and him alone, and don't worry about yourself so much. You shouldn't feel so much pressure that it's preventing you from enjoyment. Don't look at it as pressure for you to cum. Just think about making him happy.
He already knows that you need to cum first. He needs to just focus on you like he is, and he must hold off until you cum. It sounds simple, but things in life rarely are that easy. You'll get it right. Try not to worry too much about this little speed bump. Sometimes we need some practice before we hit a home run. The good thing is, the practice is almost as much fun as the real thing.

 

Anxiety over performance, that is a sure orgasm killer. Relax and don't make it your goal to do anything but enjoy the moment. Assuming you have the mechanics down and are receiving stimulation in the right area its probably your brain getting in the way. You must know what works for you, let him in on it. Icedteapriestess was right about the female orgasm aiding in delivery of the semen, and Dutch was spot on. Be present in the moment.
~Peace

 

well it was a long time back that i asked this question, and here i am still in the same situation, i still havent ever had an orgasm at all, not once ever, for somereason my body just dosent want to, my head does with all my heart and sole but my body wont co operate, it makes no difference what we do or use nothing is happening to even get me close, all the practise in the world has been pointless for me, there not onething that i could say has even got me one step nearer and for me to be able to tell him to work on that a bit longer.

 

unfortunately there are some women who just can't have orgasms.. it is sad to say but it is true.. if you have never had one and have tried everything then it is likely that you are one of those poor souls who cant orgasm.. if this is so then there is no amount of comments, toys, techniques, tricks, supplements, etc that will help..

i hate to be so blunt..

i did see a show on discovery channel about this.. and they did a study of 4 women who couldnt orgasm.. and when they implanted a electrical stimulator into the spine of these ladies they could either have one or get closer then they ever have before.. this was just a study of course and as far as i know it hasnt been approved for more then the test they did a few years back..

 

yeah the drs name is meloy and its costs a staggering £15,000 for a few days worth of trying it out and then they remove it, so the poor soul that does that has basically if it worked had a taste of what they have been missingout on and then back to normal for them after, would anyone be willing to do that its just plain cruel as far as i can see