Is there a social stigma to online dating?

Isn't there a social stigma to having met your partner on a dating website? Doesn't it just take away the whole thrill of the chase. To me it seems as if there mustn't be anything for the two to build a connection on with this sort of thing. Isn't part of the strength of a relationship built on the memories of where you first met. Does online dating imply that you're not charming enough to find a partner within your own daily life?

 

I have done the online dating thing with mixed results. It can be hard meeting people if you're not incredibly social and don't go out to bars or clubs every week. Not everyone is like this or appreciates that approach to meeting people. But at the same time there is something so dehumanizing and dumbed down about sites like OKCupid, especially when it comes to the questions to the "personality tests," which don't do shit has far as matching you up with someone you have anything in common with, and are as superficial and hollow as can be.

 

Maybe 10 or 5 years ago. It seems the stigma is fading rapidly.

 

I think online dating implies that you're more picky and less interested in someone who is charming on the surface. To attract someone online is more difficult, than it is to attract someone in person. I wouldn't say one is better than the other, it's just different. Once you meet in person you still have all the struggles and experiences that make up a relationship.

 

It's 2014 man, literally a quarter of marriages started online. Meeting online might not make the best story, but any way you meet somebody you're happy with is a good way.

One of my old roommates got married to a girl he played World of Warcraft with. You tell me that's not romantic. two dorky night elves or whatever slashing away at goblins and dreaming of each other from afar, and then meeting and falling in love.

 

thrill of the chase? now that's a concept i just don't understand. obnoxious, uncomfortable things that you are required to do for no justifiable reason are not thrilling at all to me. "thrill of the chase" is about the equivalent of "joy of the colonoscopy," except for the fact that colonoscopies actually have a reason for existing.

 

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I don't plan on online dating ever again...

 

Hello,

we can drop that whole on-line kerfuffle if you start seeing me .

Well, I don't have a strong opinion about on-line dating. For some it works out as expected, for others it don't. I've heard men tend to bomb women with impersonal messages on those platforms. If you believe in statistics that must work, if you believe in social foo it's suboptimal. Personally, I had some good (and some strange ) experiences with women I knew 'from the internet', but I don't use on-line dating platforms.

Regards
Gyro

 

There is a certain embarrassment that comes from telling people you met online, I've found, but that goes away with more time spent actively online dating. I'll happily admit that I met my partner online now.

I've been dating online on and off for several years. I met SO MANY people, but it's so easy to be disappointed by promising profiles and photos that the "magic" isn't really there. It's more businesslike, it's like handing someone your dating resume and outright saying "What do you think, should we date?" It is a fantastic way to meet people though, especially if, like me, you don't get out much. x)

As I mentioned, I met my partner on a dating site, but we talked for six months before we actually met. I never even heard his voice for all those months. It didn't matter that there was no magic when we met and there was no pressure for the dating aspect either because we were already friends. In that aspect it was much like deciding to date an old acquaintance.

Obviously everyone will have different experiences and there are plenty of success stories, but I don't think that the "online" factor had anything to do with me falling for my partner. It's just how I happened to meet him.

I'll tell you what I will vouch for though - The ability to weed out certain characteristics you know you don't like before you even make contact. I believe my first message to my partner was "It's so refreshing to read an intelligent profile - even your grammar is perfect!" plus some generic opening questions blah blah, obviously. His response was in kind, "I know right, people on this site are idiots." haha. Also, if their MAIN profile picture was of the guy holding a fish, I just didn't even bother. Dude it's a dating site, even if you're only looking for chicks who love fishing as much as you do, how is that a good first impression? (I get judgemental on dating sites. >_>)

 

I wanted to get this book The Nineteenth Century Internet which talks about social changes brought about by the telegraph. In it there are a couple stories about couples who met and fell in love over the telegraph.

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Oh baby you look so good. :biggrin:

 

More like 'oh my fair lady, thou areth like a red, red rose, newly sprung in june. A song as sung by the poet old and a glistening drop of dew with the perfume of the first morning sun. The soft wind that gently kisses my cheeks red and the mysterious, shallow light of the summer moon. A thousand miles thousand I will walk to meet thee, oh my fair lady'.

 

Single, Straight, Male, 54 years, Full time working (Not much time to socialise) = Too Old to Disco, Too Young for OAP/Retirement liaison - IT is accessible so IT dating seems viable option - if only genuine (so many dodgy sites out there)

 

That's hot.

 

This.

Id still be embarrassed to tell anyone i met a girl online though

 

I think that real love can be found in many places...and the internet is just one place...it is broader based than real life.....but....meeting your internet connection is crucial to see if it is real, imo.
Could be a lot of bull behind the screen, as well...and there is tons of that around.

 

I am currently actively dating/searching on several sites. I am a fairly odd person, so my chances of meeting a good match in meatspace is pretty low.

 

Meat space?....:smash::smilielol5:

Seems that way, doesn't it? Ain't no meat here....LOL

 

Meatspace is the opposite of cyberspace. Picking up a girl at the bar is working in meatspace.

 

Anti-meat here, like anti-life\; but you made it out that way.