After many years of trying subtle hints etc on my wife, she finally made a few comments I'm trying to make sense of. We were having a pretty intense session the other day and things got very interesting. She was dripping wet so I decided to grab a big dildo I had brought for her. She had made mention before that she wasn't that into it but thought I'd try again. I was teasing her with just the head of it and to my surprise she told me to put more of it in. She took nearly the whole thing and that's when I couldn't help but start with the dirty talk. There was lots of comments from me asking her if she liked being stretched etc and she always said yes. Eventually I started referring to it as another guy and she went along with that too. While she was full with the dildo in her, she made herself come with a vibe and it was probably the biggest orgasm I've ever seen her have. She was soaking the dildo. Then I told her to tell the guy (dildo) to stay in her while she sucked my cock and she went along with that. Needless to say I didn't last long and we both agreed it was some of the best sex we've ever had. Later that night, she came up to me and said that I really wanted her to have sex with another guy didn't I. Of course I replied with yes. I also said it was a hot fantasy which I now realise I probably shouldn't have said and I'm worried I implied that its just a fantasy. She then said something which surprised me. She said she thought it was nice that I wanted to see her pleased by more than one guy. A couple of days later she said she was thinking about our session and that it was nice that we're so close to each other. I'm not sure where to go from here. I've definitely planted the seed so I'm not wanting to push things. I'm sure she won't want me bringing it up every session so I'm thinking of leaving it for a few weeks to see if she bring ls it up again. I'm open to any ideas or thoughts on the situation and any help is appreciated.
Waiting to bring up how hot the sex was, is the right thing to do, maybe think about getting her a realistic porn star dildo to simulate her experiencing another man's cock, let her feel the difference in her pussy, work her curiosity, my wife loved the John Holmes UR3 dildo but she may need something a little smaller. Big cock really turned my wife on. Tell her how much you enjoyed watching her reactions to the dildo and mention that a real cock would feel incredible, so much better than a dildo ever could. To imagine how exciting it would be taking a real man's cock inside her, feeling him cum in her. Her fucking another man would turn you both on, leading to some exceptionally hot sex for her and providing sexual gratification at the same time for the both of you. You just want to see her experience this opportunity that would be sexually intense, incredibly stimulating, and extremely gratifying. She deserves to enjoy the most amazing sex she's ever had and you want to see it happen for her. Do this in steps to give her time to dwell on her thoughts and desires, to accept your wish to see it happen. Give her the time to decide she wants to do it. Just keep slipping reminders to keep her thinking about it.Don't get impatient and rush her, no pressure is the key here.Just try to keep her intrigued with the idea of fucking another man.
Excellent advice. Thanks. Seems like im on the right path. Definitely don't want to rush anything and risk going backwards. I haven't brought it up again yet other than to tell her a few times how good the other night was.
This is where you must become aware of her true desires. Now that this seed has been planted and she experienced a larger cock through the dildoe the wonder of how a live cock would feel has been planted. Now, we don't know her true feelings on this matter. Is she loyal enough to not go on her own to find such a live cock? Is she happy with just having this level of sex and playing within this boundary, not aggressive enough to go outside the marriage unless you encourage it? And you, what can you handle? How would you take it if she comes to you and says find me a larger cock to fuck. Oh, you excitedly say yes. Then together contact a third. Invite him into the bedroom. And then - right at the moment you see his cock aimed at her pussy you now realize how daunting this reality is. That change from simple fantasy that is easily controlled to uncontrolled reality is quite a change to deal with. Be prepared for that because it will change the relationship between you two. Sometimes for the better. Sometimes not so much.
My girlfriend talked about it for over a year. She did get cold feet a couple of times in that time period. just don't think the guys she was with appealed to her that much. But don't rush things, for us when it happened, it happened fast. Finding the right guy is not that easy, it should be a man who is willing to please her.
Thanks for all the advice! I think it's unlikely she'll find a guy without me. She's very self conscious about her looks and her confidence isn't great. I'm thinking something along the lines of taking her out, having a few drinks and then pointing out guys that might be into her. I realise this is going to be a slow process too but it should help boost her confidence a bit. Maybe even let a guy hit on her if I can find anyone interested at the time. I think I'm still surprised at the events mentioned in my original post. It's taken me years to get this far that I'm still uncertain of the direction she wants.
Yep, we have same dildo I believe. 7.5 inches long and 6.25 girth. She used to struggle with it and say it was too big, but the last few times she's been taking it all. I can't go hard on her with it like I can my cock, but she definitely takes it all.
The John Holmes dildo is a little bigger. 12" long and close to 8" in girth. The Bam dildo is bigger still.
One idea which is a softer start, go somewhere public and arrange for a guy she doesn’t know to give her the vibe she’s attractive, or guys. She notices men looking at her so she knows they like what they see. Not in a creepy way. A little more, someone you know comes over and talks with you and he looks at her enough to be obvious he likes what he sees. Done respectfully enough though and hopefully your wife wears something that shows enough of her shapes
You've planted the seed and she's thinking about it .You might get a surprise some time when , out of nowhere , she makes it happen . That's how it worked out for us . One night , out of the blue , it happened and was the start of many years of sharing fun . It turned out to be with a couple we'd known for years . Several threesomes followed as well , both MFM and FMF . Relax take your time and above all let her pick who's involved . When it does happen pay attention to your feelings too . Some are turned off and some are very excited to be a part of and actually see it happen . I don't need to tell you how I felt
Caldosch, At this point she is the drivers seat on this journey. You will need to be a navigator and her protector. You should plan some outings to places where there is nudity, maybe a lifestyle club or resort. You have to put her in places where she can get some eye candy and interact with other lifestyle people. My wife and I only play with couples only and love to watch each other play. It is sensually intoxicating for both of us.
I used to share my wife, but it's been a few years. It was an exciting time, but nerve wracking too - for both of us. I would do it again, but she is very wary about starting over.
I do like to tell guys looking to share their wife to be careful what they wish for because it's one thing to think that you can handle seeing your wife getting nailed by someone else, it can be something else entirely to actually seeing it - it can be quite the shock to the system and more so when you see her really enjoying the other person. Just be aware of this because it can sneak up on you and its effects aren't what I'd call pretty. I've known a lot of guys who have said, "I can handle it!" and come to find out later that they couldn't handle it either not at first... or at all and, yeah, I was one who thought I could handle it and watching another man fucking her almost undid me - and this was after months of the two of us talking about this at great length and detail. I recovered quickly, though, and no lives were lost.
Unfortunately there's no way to prepare yourself for what your feelings might be . You have to be there and find out where you stand .
