So I have a male friend who recently started claiming he's bisexual. This guy is notorious for using labels that make him feel special. He claims I'm asexual. Anyway, he has never done anything sexual with a man other than point out to me if he thinks the guy is cute. Today, we had the following exchange (paraphrased): Guy: you masturbate to bodybuilders? Me: Yup. You like lean guys? Guy: Yeah. Me: what do you get off to? Guy: what do you mean? Me: what arouses you? Guy: I like boobs and butts, and good-looking guys who don't look like hairy dumpsters. Me: what do you look at? Guy: you mean types of guys or body parts or what? Me: body parts Guy: well I've shown you a lot of pics. Me: so you masturbate to the guy's face? Guy: what guy Me: whatever guy you're looking at Guy: yeah, why? Me: I look at the chest, the stomach, the creases, the thighs, the dicks, the hands, and the balls. Guy: me too. Except I'm not into balls and penises. Hmm! If he looks at that too, then why didn't he say so in the first place? Another thing I should add: he knows I'm attracted to bisexual men and he's attracted to me. Do you think my male friend is really bisexual?
well, not based on this evidence. but there's nothing here to make me think he's necessarily lying either.
It doesn't appear so. Unless he actually is but has issues dealing with it him self. Better prod him.
I belive he is lying about being bisexual, he is trying to be what he thinks you want him to be in order to get with you. you should ask him about what he likes when having sex with other men, and what type of guys that turns him on, if he hasen't been with another man, then ask about he's fantasies of other men
So I asked him about his fantasies. Guy: I don't know Me: Oh come on Guy: Anal and oral is pretty much it for gay sex. Not great. Me: True Guy: Foreplay sounds great but I'm not really into penises or vulvas. Me: Details Guy: Kissing...rubbing his dick...touching his body...rubbing my dick on his chest...I guess... Hmm...I thought he said he didn't like penises...
You either find someone to be attractive, sexually appealing or not. His being bi-sexual, gay, str8, pansexual, DL or whatever/whoever else is really a matter that he may choose to disclose to you (truthfully) or not. So, stick with your gut feeling, and enjoy his company if you find him attractive. Leave his 'other' stuff for him to worry about. KD
