please post your opinions. we have a good sex life, he never has trouble getting aroused when we hook up. my most recent experience with him was that he was attempting to lick the butt area and i wasn't really down for that. we have had anal sex a few times, but i think he would do it more if i allowed him. he genuinely seems really sexually attracted to me, and we have a lot of sex. however: before i started dating my current boyfriend, i went out with him and other friends a few times to bars. after all getting really drunk i remember him getting very close to other men when he was talking to them. he is turkish, so at the time i attributed the getting close to men as something cultural?? now looking back on it, it did seem a little odd that he would get so close that it looked like he was about to kiss them. also, his roommate (my guy friend) said many, many times that he was bisexual. my boyfriend (before we started dating) supposedly grabbed his roommates butt one night while drunk. i saw many behaviors over the yr we were friends that led me to believe he might be bi. he only seems to have bi tendencies when he is drunk, and they have diminished since we have "gotten serious". my question: is he bisexual or even a closet gay? i have never ever questioned a boyfriend's sexuality in the past-which leads me to believe maybe my gut feeling is correct. i'm really confused b/c he wants to have sex all the time and has told me he loves me, yet i still have this nagging feeling..... i actually have flat out asked him if he was gay, and i even told him that i was asking him this b/c his roommate told me he might be. he said no. he also has lots of gay/in the butt jokes. i have had to tell him to cut it out b/c it grosses me out. one night we were watching tv and he commented on a guys ass. these are just little things i have noticed over the past few months...... can someone help me out with what are considered bisexual tendencies?
Who cares? It's only a problem if he's gay, which he evidentally isn't. He's still attracted to you and you should let him come out on his own. Unless you have some kind of problem with it you could coax him out by making some comments like, "bi guys are so hot" and the like if the topic ever gets brought up. (Silly but COULD work). Either way, the whole making gay jokes is around with ALL guys, not just gay ones. My friends jokingly slap my ass or do other wierd shit just randomly, even when SOBRE, it's just horsing about. Be supportive, if you have a problem with homosexuality then it's your problem, not his.
although they play it down... there are a exceptional large number of turkish gays and bi's come on you never heard that before?
i didn't know that. i read somewhere that it is normal for turkish men to get close to each other, kiss each other on cheek, etc. that they don't have the same "personal space" as Americans do.
so his dick can go in your ass but he can't lick it? wow. and he probably isn't gay.. gay people aren't attracted to females usually. does it bother you he might be bi? seems to "gross you out". if so, maybe you should find another partner because he probably is bisexual by the way you describe him. get over it as you seem inclined to beat it out of him. he may run away from you if you keep pressuring it as he might not want to tell you if he thinks you're being a homophobe..
Wait what? Why are you confused? If you're so worried about it, just ask him. I don't get what the big deal is whether he's bisexual or not.
Sweetie, There's your answer there. Go with your instincts, thats not just some immeasurable gut feeling, thats about your brain subconsciously picking up on his body language / reactions / cheeks going slightly reder etc around certain guys The important thing to consider is if that he is getting something on the side is he likely to be safe about it, or make sure you're safe with him
