Is my aging hippie friend interested in me?

Hi! I'm new here, and I need some expert advice.

I'm an 18-year-old female, and have always been very mature for my age. Most of my friends are middle-aged, and I've always been fascinated with the 60's/70's; the clothing, the long hair, the music, and the people.

My dilemma:

About a year ago, I met and soon struck up a friendship with (and developed a bit of a crush on) a stoner hippie in his 50's. We work at the same place, so we see each other often. We have similar tastes in music, and we're always telling each other about songs and movies we think the other one would like.
My workmates see us talking all the time and some of them think he's interested in me because he tries to be funny when I'm around, and he usually sits next to me in the lunch room. But the thing is, he's very friendly and talkative to almost everyone else too.

It wouldn't bother me if he really is interested in me. It also wouldn't bother me if he just thinks of me as a friend. I'd just like to know for sure!

A while ago, a friend overheard someone telling him that I liked him. He apparently just shrugged it off/smiled and said something about finding out when my birthday is. I don't know if he was being sarcastic, or saying it in a 'oh isn't that cute' way, or if he was serious!

He doesn't know that I know about this. He hasn't acted any differently around me. So maybe he doesn't believe it, or he's just playing with me, or he likes me?
I know that guys my own age never want to be just friends, but what about someone this much older than me?
I don't want to bring it up, because I would hate for things to become awkward. I would rather stay just friends than have that happen.


Any advice would be much appreciated. Sorry this was so long!!

 

Just ask him whats going on?

 

Is there a hip type coffee house near by? Ask him out for coffee after work and keep smiling if for some reason he has to say no.c

 

if you're hot, there's a good chance that he's into you.

maybe he feels a bit awkward about the age difference

hope that everything works out!

 

There's absolutely no way that anyone on here can tell you what this guy thinks or feels about you.

Hang out with him. Flirt or whatever it is you do. A guy his age has plenty of experience with women and will be able to tell that you are not trying to keep him at a distance.

 

assuming he's not on here.

 

^ I bet it's ranger

 

Guys of any age never want to be "just friends".

The only exceptions:

1. He's Gay
2. He's not attracted to you
3. He's lying

If you're half way cute, trust me, he's attracted.

 

This is the giveaway for me.

You don't see him when you're not around ... they do.

If he doesn't try to be funny when you're not around, and he does when you are, well, they've noticed, and they're thinking "what's that all about?"

I'm thinking "what's that all about?", too.

You gotta cut him out from teh herd and have a one-to-one with him. Suggest a coffee - but not at the work canteen - and see where it leads :mickey:

 

But what if he thinks of me as a daughter? Or as just 'one of the boys'? Or is that just a myth?


Thanks for all the feedback, guys! As for the going out for coffee suggestion, neither of us drink coffee, so that's probably out...

 

He could be attracted to you but perhaps he also has ethics. I wouldn't go calling him on it unless there is a line crossed.

 

Most coffee houses serve tea also and many at least here serve beer.

 

Sounds to me like you're into the same stuff so he hangs with you - nothing more nothing less!

 

In that case refer to exception #2, guys can only be "friends" with women they are not attracted to.

Also is this buy married or in a relationship? If not I'm quite sure he'd like to hit or has pondered the idea.

I guess the big question is... Are you interested in him? If not you're make sure you're not sending out the wrong signals.

 

He's never been married, and as far as I know he's been single for quite a while now.

And yes, I am interested in him, but if nothing becomes of it, I would also be OK with things just staying the way they are now, because I really enjoy his company and our conversations.

By the way, he calls me 'kiddo' a lot. Just a figure of speech, or an acknowledgement of the age difference, or what?

 

It Means Your Just Like A Daughter To Him, And He Is Just A Good Friend Or

Father Figure To You, Nothing More, Nothing Less....



Cheers Glen.

 

It depends, if he's attracted or not, try making eye contact and see his reactions.

But honestly I try to live by Rule #1 - Never date co-workers.

 

Kiddo is the give away. Glen is right.

 

I can only speak for myself and my perspective on being 60+ years old. For me, it's really nice when a younger woman wants to hang out with me, like at a psy gathering. I'm not looking for sex and probably wouldn't have sex with someone in that scene because of my relationship with my wife (who doesn't go to psy camp outs). But for me, it's just fundamentally cool - and, there are some deep younger women out there, so age differences are fine.

 

I'm 21 and was at this age with someone who is 52. We actually met and first hooked up when I was 18 though. We had a really goo relationship. He called me kiddo or such nicknames affectionately too. He DEFINITELY didn't see me as a daughter though lol! I agree with all the coffee after work suggestion, even if he says no which I highly doubt he will, he'll be flattered. He won't treat you any differently. Update us on this lol! :2thumbsup: