Is it wrong to ask a guy to marry YOU?

That's a good one but No what I'm saying is marriage is a commitment to show your love.
It turned into being about legal stuff when people got so spoiled they felt they should be happy every minute

 

i was with my ex for 8.5 years for the same reason. loved him, but not enough to marry him. i finally left. my husband had a gf for over 2 years, and it was more a convenience than anything else. she finally took off, looking for her future. me and dave met several months later and have been together ever since, married wtih children. sometimes things just work out like that.

 

I can understand that. But i can be committed and not be married. because marriage isnt about commitment, you can just as easily get a divorce as you can break up with your gf. but one is a little bit more expensive. might as well be a realist about it and save yourself the money just incase.

I've already brought this up with my gf that i am never getting married because we can be together, be in love, and be happy without a piece of paper that says that we are together. I'll probably end up having a ceremony and all that stuff, and ill consider her my wife, but i will never make it legal.

 

i really think you should talk to your bf to see how he feels about marriage, proposals, weddings, future plans, etc. even if you think he isnt the sort to plan ahead, hes at least got to have some sort of opinion on marriage

 

OP, you do not sound ready to be married. you do not comprehend the nature of love. love grows, and changes, and is different to everyone. Hush can love his girlfriend in his way and be happy. there is no sense in being alone when you don't have to be. by saying he'd be happier with a future person, Hush is being a realist. that is knowing thyself.
if you think nurturing is about money, you're way off. nurturing is taking care of each other when you're sick, special dinners, listening in a conversation, snuggling and just being loving is nurturing.
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this. and wait.

 

I'd wait hun and just enjoy your time together, marriage is just a step up, to what? just being together still, but expensive lol you have to talk and plan first. I wont say you're young because anyone can get that serious at any age. Just have fun

 

me and my hubby talked about marriage the second date , i just didnt want to waste time on wrong guy again, so i was trying to make sure we want to the same things => Marriage.

if not, just end it before too late.

 

No its not.

 

Nah.

 

If getting married is important to you (you will know it if it truly is, sounds like you do), then by now you should just ask him openly if he ever intends to marry you. If he says yes, ask him when. If he says no, well i can't tell you what to do, but if marriage is important to you then you may end up resentful and un-happy so you would need to do a lot of soul-searching.
Beware, alot of men will say 'yes, of course i do' when asked that question but then NEVER bring it up again - you need to ask when. Talk about it in a nice, loving, but firm tone and you will get the answer you want.
You are not 'needy' or 'nagging' - you are just defining what you want.
If you have been living together for a while he is probably just happy with the status-quo.
Good Luck xxx

 

nothin wrong with a girl proposing to a guy.

but at 21? shnikeys. i always hear old folks offering advice to younger people and saying not to get married that young. that it always fails. i dunno. personally, i don't plan on getting married until at least my late 20s. but whatever you two decide, the best of luck to ya both.

 

Two people are in love. If which of the two proposes is important to the rest of their lives, then they shouldn't get married.
"Do you want kids?" "If so, how do you want them to be raised?", these kinds of questions are more important than who got on their knee.

 

I think there is nothing wrong for the female to ask the male to marry them. Or you could just explain this to him and ask what he feels about marriage. But marriage is not but a piece of paper, while your heart and feelings with this individual is real and all that matters.

 

well, maby hes shy, or maby he doesnt have enough money for a ring/the ring he wants to give you and he doesnt want you to think he doesnt care for you just because he doesnt got the ring. i dont see why it would be wrong to ask him to marry you, your just asking him to spend his life with you and youve spent 3 years of your life togeather and if after that, he doesnt want to marry and he has no reason why not to, and marrage is something you realy want, then you need to tell him, and make him understand how you feel.
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im sorry, i should have read it fully, your still young, perhaps he just isnt ready, and again, if you are you need to tell him, but you need to take it into serius consideration. youll be spending the rest of your life with him, for better or for worse, and you wont have the opretunity to explore life as a single, which can be good and bad, but if your ready your ready, just think about it long and hard, and if you feel that after thinking about it, your ready, ask him to marry you. do it romanticly itll be a nice change from all the guy askin girls thing.

 

Yes it's wrong... the man is the hunter... nature's laws... It's kind of traditional in marriage issues...

 

black, who decided that the man has to ask? marrage is just saying you want to be togeather forever, and if the woman wants to ask, why not?

 

you believe u could b happier with someone else? damn thats messed up. That's leading her on.