Is it so bad to tell a guy "Sometimes you want something

I dated a guy for one month ago but after when I texted him

"Sometimes you want something so bad you don't care about the consequences"
and he said" was it for me Idont think so" and I said Yes then after that I never heard from him , and of course the day after when I texted him I told him I dont mean something bad about my text just you know and he only said Ok.

I dont know what I said was wrong so what do you guys think? did I say something wrong to him or what?

 

I advise working on your communication skills.

Call him and tell him what you meant, and ask him why he distanced himself. Too often people seek advise from outsiders when what is needed is regular old communication. Don't be afraid to be up front with the guy, and just ask him what's up.

 

I agree with the guy above, also communication by texting is horrible.

Lots of times I have had good friends that just drop a conversation that was started on texting, and when I ask them personally face to face what happened, they're cool with me and explain that something came up and that the abrupt stop to a texting conversation did not reflect anything on the friendship. It was all in my head.

 

texting is a pretty terrible medium for communication of anything more complex than basic info. how the person on the other end reads your words if they're at all ambiguous is completely out of your control. a lot of the time its dependent on their mood, if you're in a bad mood, you'll read things as a personal attack etc, and it breeds paranoia. call him and explain what you meant. better still, meet in person, its the best way to make sure he's not got the wrong end of the stick.

 

My guess is he took "you" to mean him, rather than people in general, so he thought it was an attack against his character.

 

This. Frankly, I don't understand your post. No idea what you are talking about.

 

I third that sentiment. Can someone please translate the OP

 

What I got from it was that she said something she thought as innocent, then he got upset and distanced himself. Whatever else she was saying is anyone's guess.

Like mentioned above, texting is a horrible form of communication when it comes to anything remotely important. Someone once told me that actual words only make up 15% of a conversation. The rest is your tone of voice, facial expression, body language, etc. When all you have is words it's very easy to misinterpret. Take the following sentence for example. I'll repeat the sentence several times using the exact same words, but putting emphasis on different words.

I didn't say he beat his wife.
>I< didn't say he beat his wife.
I didn't SAY he beat his wife.
I didn't say HE beat his wife.
I didn't say he BEAT his wife.
I didn't say he beat HIS wife.
I didn't say he beat his WIFE.

Same words completely different meaning.

It's the same reason you can be misunderstood when your angry. The tone of your voice changes when your upset, and you don't have full control of it.

 

Sounds to me like the stuff about girl who never initiates contact with guy and wonders why guy stops contacting her.