Is it rude?

Do you think it's rude if a friend whom you give rides to work is always messing with her phone when she gets in your car... either texting, checking her Facebook, etc. sometimes barely even speaking to you because she's too busy with her phone? I don't know, perhaps it's just me because I am easily annoyed by people's absorption in technical gadgets, in particular phones, especially when it results in shutting everyone else out around them, but I personally think it's just plain rude, especially if you're doing a favor for that person. When you get in a person's car, it's the person or persons in the car you should be paying attention to -- not Facebook, Twitter, texting, etc.

Even more rude, this person will sometimes on the way home from work blast her crappy music over her phone in my car. I personally never understood how people can listen to music from the crappy little speaker on their phones, but it's god awful music on top of that, which makes it even more annoying.

Then this person has the gall to tell me (after I tell them they're being rude) I am thin skinned and that "you guys" get offended too easily. She claims she doesn't understand how it could possibly be construed as rude that she's blasting her crappy music over her phone in my car.

 

I think playing the music is rude . Tell her to pay for for the gas , or find another ride . desert rat

 

In my opinion it is very rude. How rude would it be to make her walk.

 

haha...welcome to the millennium generation

dude you blew it already by not saying something right away...plus...you have a small crush on this broad or you would never have asked her if she wanted a ride...

it was you that offered in the first place,wasnt it

this is the same girl from that other thread,no?

am i the only one that doesnt wait to express my feelings when something is annoying?

 

Yes, it is rude. I am easily (and often) annoyed too by my friends particular behaviour with their phones. I have expressed my feelings about it often enough (not quitting of course ) but they think it is normal behaviour since they unfortunately see a lot more people doing the same.

 

Is she much younger than you?
I'm finding the younger generation have different version of 'rude' when it comes to technology.

 

Hell yeah it's rude. I keep hoping for a day where phone etiquette is more a norm than a rarity.

 

You are asking us if it's rude? It is truly disgraceful behavoiur so why are you tolerating it?Let's be honest you're doing her a favour so tell her how pissed you are and how she must find some other mug to take her to and from work! Step up!

 

You did not state in your post if you wanted to hump her in the back seat, or some where else . desert rat

 

The only person who I will do that to while in the car is my boss, and that's just because she gets phone calls every ten seconds and could be spending the whole ride arguing with her daughter, lol. If we are discussing something, unless it's related to something we saw on Facebook or a picture we have on one of our phones, I don't mess with the phone at all. I'll play with it if there's lots of people in the car and there's conversations I'm not really involved in going on, but I don't ever ignore someone for my phone. Maybe I'm new to this smart phone thing.

And the music thing is about one of my biggest pet peeves. I rarely even play my own CDs (still a step above eight-tracks! ) in my car if I'm driving with someone else because I know not everyone shares my music taste. I don't like blasting it in assumption that they do.

 

I am endlessly annoyed by how absorbed people get with their gadgets and how they ignore people that are actually there.

I went to this restaurant the other day and there was a family of 5 people at the next table and they were all texting on their phones and ignoring each other. It made me feel depressed.

Anway, I think it is rude. Especially the music thing because I am with Ramona, I wouldn't even play my own music in my own car if I was carpooling with someone in case they didn't like it.

 

I cant stand when you are with someone and they are always on their phone. it's like you might as well be invisible to them

 

yeah, it's kind of rude.

 

She's probably a rude self absorbed person. I would find an excuse not to drive with her and move on, if it bothers you.

 

let her tell me something like "you guys" are always thin-skinned. I would've bitched her out too man. I suppose the "coolest" thing would've been to mention it the first or second time it started to bother you.

 

^she'd be correct....y'all are intolerant of the younger generation and the tech habits...why fucking care if she is busy during the ride.. keep you eyes on the road and leave the young lady be.,..

as far as the music goes..again...intolerant of the younger generation[and their music]....you say its awful music?....so who fucking died and made you the judge of other peoples tastes?

being nice and generous should just happen..there shouldnt be strings attatched

 

lol, Rolling you are funny when you get all crotchety.

 

I don't know if you're being sarcastic. On the basis he finds it rude to ignore the other person, or (I agree with this one more) blast HER music of preference from her phone, ignore the dude and get her free ride then peace out. His car, his domain, is rules of etiquette so to speak.

I'm personally not sure where I stand on does the passenger owe a duty to accompany the driver thing. Does she put off conversation in favor of her phone when he tries to get a conversation going? Is she giving one word answers as she's more absorbed with her shit, then dipping out barely showing appreciation for the ride soon after? If so I can see where he's getting annoyed.

 

if i remember correctly you live quite close to me...dont make me come over there..its getting so i hate leaving the island


pressed rat ..howz the haircut working out?

 

I think it's slightly rude for them to be on their phone all the time. The music thing on the other hand is completely rude. She's in your car, not her's, so she should need your permission to play her music. My buddy does this to me all the time when we hang out, but worst. He'll play his music while I have the radio playing.