Is it really worth all the effort to do a relationship

for context I am a fit, handsome 58 year old man.

I was married and have had relationships since divorce 18 years ago, but nothing beyond 2.5 years.

I find myself asking if I really want to even try any more. I have a f**k buddy I see , but that is all it is. It is fine, and we just have fun and go back to our lives. But, I want more. then there is the freaking effort to date. Just recently i interacted with a women over a 3 week period who canceled our first ate twice. The second time she said she has to put her "dating life on hold" ??? what the hell does that mean.

and anyone relate?

 

:-( Looks like she put you on hold and found someone else! Just my opinion.

 

I think there are many people who don’t wish to commit (is that the correct word?). For my age in early 20’s, I fuck people first casually and now also professionally so no boyfriend or something like that. And my relationships otherwise are much online or sports clubs.

I may be extreme, but I see that with many people my age…sex only for fun.

 

I am generally a long term person I was married 24 years then an awesome 7 year relationship that unfortunately ended when I just couldn’t continue ignoring a disrespectful adult child (long story)

Met a great gal online dated a few years of bliss - moved in together 6 years ago and she completely changed to a jealous nut job overnight… now knee deep financially or I would have left years ago.
Leaving previously I’d lose everything I’ve managed to build. So buying time till my half would be a break even point.

There’s maybe something to be said about being single later in life. FB were always easy to find and no headaches.