Is it possible to find only one woman beautiful or only one man handsome

My husband says I'm the only beautiful and attractive woman for him. He says he found other women attractive before me,but after he had feelings for me he only has eyes for me.His friends and some of my relatives also trust that he is telling the truth.But in fact I can't trust him.I've never seen him commenting on any women or looking at any women.And his friends say he never comments on women and he never looks at them.Is it possible?I've made a search on the net and I've found some men telling the same things.They say they only find their partner beautiful.Could it be true?In fact my husband is the only handsome man for me,but to think like that is possible for me because I'm female.Is it possible for a male to find only one woman beautiful?What do you think?

 

I think it's possible! It's love!

 

Yeah, none of them actually fall for that, they just dont bother arguing

 

I don't know. I think all human beings are going to be attracted to others whether they are married or not. It's human nature. That doesn't mean they would ever act on it and cheat. It shouldn't have any impact on a strong relationship unless the attraction is only for one particular individual that may eventually become a threat to the relationship.

 

from what youve said here its clear that your husband has eyes only for you, he loves you, trust him and enjoy happiness, many people would give their eye teeth to have what you have in that relationship.:love:

 

C'est l'amour, baby! Enjoy it!

 

it's possible to find one person significantly more attractive than anyone else, and it's possible to lie to yourself and others that the other attractive people are not attractive at all.

 

^^I disagree. Everyone is different. There are definitely people for whom the one they are in love with, is the only attractive one. If a man does not feel that way, and has a normal sex drive, he will not be able to resist looking once in a while.

Just because it's not like that for you doesn't mean it's not like that for anyone.

 

So you are saying Roseanne Barr modelling lingerie would have the same effect on you as Scarlett Johanson, cos neither are your wife, so you are not attracted to either, equally?

 

No.

 

I can relate to your discomfort about this. I had an ex say the same thing to me and I didn't trust it. It just doesn't make sense to me...

Uninterested in anyone else...of course that's possible.

But finding not one other person attractive, sounds like idealism, delusion, denial.

When I look at that person now I see it as a characteristic related to someone who doesn't live in realistic terms. I don't want to suggest that this will lead to anything so I won't go any further.

But I will say it seems either naive or disingenuous to me.

 

No it's completely possible for a guy to fall really emotionally deep for one girl to the point where, the other guy can acknowledge other women are beautiful but the attraction isn't there.

How do I know? I was one of these guys, but I in hindsight realize by verbally saying those things too soon in a relationship CAN and DOES scare the girl away, because she interprets it as a possible (her mind: UH OH I've got a possible clinger and I don't know if I can say this guy is the one yet, and/or I still wanna play around still i'm to young to settle).

This is where I think usedtobehoney could have been with her reaction with her ex. But then again idk the entirety of how the other aspects of the relationship were; so indeed it might've been a good thing for her to get out. It's one of those fine line things.

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To wrap it up, I think people get confused once again, because we society doesn't really recognize men's emotional attraction to a woman, it entirely focuses on PHYSICAL reasons why men feel attraction to women. Therefore when a woman encounters a situation with a guy who is emotionally attracted to her in a very strong way, it scares he because she doesn't know how to handle it. (more true if the girl is younger, imho)

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To explain further my personal situation, and I guess it was just in my head because I think I scared her off and since have learned to be more guarded about my own expression of emotion, but I genuinely thought that I could settle for that person because we got along so many levels. It felt comfortable and I had to acknowledge other women as being beautiful but it's like going back to being a little boy and acknowledging the opposite sex is pleasant to the eye but not having any sexual attraction or lust for them.

I think this is rare state of mind for a guy to achieve though, and in my case I wish my ex could've communicated to tone it down verbally before fleeing leaving only a note behind. But I digress, I got wiser and less naive because of the crushing experience.

This phenomenon though I think happens a lot and is labeled as "the nice guy" loses the girl to the "bad jerk boy", because not all guys go in the positive direction I did, some really become women bashers if a guy experiences this kind of emotional crushing repeatedly. (it's worse if there's custody of kids involved)

 

No. You can fall for almost anyone if you spend enough pleasant time with them. I've seen the most unlikely of people get together from constant proximity.

 

well yeah, that's what i (and i think honey) was saying. then you have people saying that they look at a beautiful woman and see a cow.

 

Oh well lol, the latter point if the guy meant that literally then yeah that's suspicious.

But I also know that guys make those kinda of metaphors when they are trying to emphasize to their girl that she doesn't have any competition and to stop worrying.

Honestly though, I think men say that as an allegory though...I'm laughing now because I see why from a women's point of view they'd run for the hills, and why from the guy's point of view he is actually sane but he miscommunicated or scared her away, thinking he was the 'nice guy' that treated her right.

 

Right...that is what I was saying. You can for sure not be attracted to anyone else...but to go so far as to say, there isn't anyone else in the world whose look is appealing to the eye is probably not a balanced type of statement.

As for me, I wouldn't say it scared me off. I'm not easily scared and I stayed with that person for several years until it was impossible to stay any longer. What I'm saying is people who can turn off their senses like that are repressing themselves and they can't do it forever...it will come back to bite them and the people around them...

I tried to get the truth out of him and get him to admit to himself that it was okay to look at other people, but his beliefs were very extreme one way or the other. And I guess that is what I'm concerned about for the OP...extreme views..."you are the only beautiful woman in the world", can turn into "there is no woman as disgusting as you" and it may be without any change from you...just internal turmoil from someone who tries to deny his/her own humanity and perceived imperfections.

So, I think it's smart to look at anyone who is constantly giving praise and has very narrow views...the second look over.

 

In this case we don't really know where the OP's partner is coming from with this. I took it as literal, because I've seen it that way. Of course I think it is *hopefully more common that it is expressed more metaphorically. In that case of course it's fine.

 

^Well stated, and in that case I guess we all agree then. (Extremism that is rigid and prevents one from recognizing hypocrisy = bad)

 

Unless you female intuition tells you something different, I'd take what your bf saying at face value. Men usually are much more straight forward than women.