Is it ok to wear rings from former lovers?

Ok what if you were given a promise ring or birthstone ring by a former lover? Would it be wrong to still wear them if you're with someone else? And..should you be honest to your new lover about who gave them to you?

 

Not Sure There Is A Yes/No Answer To This Question, But What I Can Put Foward Is

An Experience That Happened To Me Recently................*cue spooky music*.....

Lets Turn The Clock Back A "LOT" Of Years To When I Met And Had A 5 Year Relationship

With My First Ever Boyfriend...:love:.

During This Crazy Spit, Spunk, And Tetesterone Fueled Affair, We Exchanged

Plain Gold Rings, Since There Was No Way We Could Legally Marry, I Guess They Were

Friendship, Or Even Engagement Rings.

The Bastard Then Dumped Me For A Woman....

Fast Foward ** Years Till A Few Weeks Ago, When I Met Him And He Introduced Me

To His Wife..*wife no 3*...And Guess What, GLEN Is A Fulltime Barefooter, And To

Make This Obvious To People That I Am Totally Committed I Wear 5 Toe Rings.

I'm Sure You Have Already Guessed What Happened.....Yes/No....?

You Are Correct, His Wife Made A Comment About The Solid Gold One,

Second Toe On The Left Foot....

If Only You Knew The Story My Dear.....If Only You Knew..!...............



Cheers Glen.

 

For me, it would depend. If he gave me a ring and then cheated on me and broke my heart, then there is no chance of me keeping it. If he died, I would. If we broke up peacefully, then maybe. I would only tell my new guy if he asked.

Oh, but not if it was meant as a promise ring... That would be daft seeing as we were no longer together.

 

Hey! jewellery is jewellery, meant for wearing. What does it matter where it came from? If it was a gift fron an ex so what, ex is the key word here, no new partner should care!

 

Lol glen, that's awesome... but I bet she'd seen his, and knew (if they're the same, anyways)

OP, I don't think it's wrong. It depends what that person meant to you, and what kind of feelings there where when you parted, of course. I mean, if you don't WANT to wear it, for SOME reason, don't. It would be my personal advice to never lie to anyone you care about, if your current romantic interest asks about it, either decline to comment or tell the truth, it sort of sounds like you just want to tell a story and are looking for us to validate your way of bringing it up.

If you do want to tell a story, don't wait for some guy to ask about some ring that he may not give two fucks about, ask if he wants to hear a story about you. But that's just a guess on my part.

 

Don't Know What Happened To His, I Kept Mine In The Family Safe For **

Years For Sentimental Reasons, Then I Thought, Why Not Bring It Out And

Use It, After All It Was Just A Plain Wide Gold Ring....

Even He Would Never Have Guessed, But Since He Moved Back To This Town Last

Year, I'm Sure We Will Run Into Each Other Again, And If He Is On His Own

I Will Certainly Draw Attention To It....



Cheers Glen.

 

i don't know about wrong, but it would be pretty risky unless you know your current partner doesn't care.

 

I don't wear jewelry from exes...I enjoy thinking of the present moment, instead of wearing things that remind me of the past. I usually give that jewelry to my mom hahaha!

 

I don't see why not. I mean if the ring/rings mean something to you than wear them. If not don't. For me it would depend on what happened with that person as to weather I wore the ring/rings anymore. Sure if the person that you are with ask about it then yeah tell them if that is want you want to do. I don't see why the partner should care weather or not you wear a ring or rings form an ex you are with them not the ex.

 

since it is only a fashion accessory these days, i wouldn't just for the sake of peace.

 

I don't wear ex-lovers' jewelry, but again, only for the sake of my own sanity.

 

yes, it is wrong. let go of the past.

 

The only piece of jewelry/accessory I do NOT wear is my half of the heart pendant she and I got when we were together. She doesn't wear her half either. But I still wear the silver ring she bought me, and it's been more than 10 years since she and I broke up. I love the ring, it was actually something I chose myself and she paid for. I don't dwell on the past when I look at it.

I also still have a teddy bear she gave me for one Valentine's Day. I can't get rid of it, it's not the teddy's fault that she and I broke up, he's so cute! xD I think it all depends on how you perceive it all. I have no problem telling my future partner how I got the ring. The ring is just a ring, but I wear is because I love it. I love the ring, not the fact that one of my exes bought it for me. As for the teddy... She can have a look at him, and if she wants me to get rid of it, then she's kinda cold-hearted. I mean, it's a teddy bear, c'mon have some compassion! xDD

Ok, I understand this thread isn't about teddies. I'm gonna shut up.

 

lol teddies haha.
This is something I've recently been thinking about. My ex had given me this beautiful bracelet that I absolutely love..but since we broke up long long ago it's just been sitting on my desk. Normally I feel like I shouldn't care. If I like it I should wear it. It's mine. But since it was a pretty traumatic relationship on both sides I can't bring myself to wear it or bury it. Oh well. Maybe I need to bury it and it will get rid of any remnant energies. I'm so in love with my current boyfriend that I can't bring myself to mix jewelry that he gave me and my ex. That's where I stand.

 

Funny you mention bracelets because I'm currently wearing one with the name of my last ex(not the teddie one, lol) engraved on a small piece that's attached to the chain. Well, that in itself isn't funny... But what's odd is that she and I were in an online relationship, and that it was my mother who gave me the bracelet shortly after I came out of that relationship, totally unaware that I just came out of a relationship with a girl whose name matched the one on the bracelet. I think the name on the bracelet is the designer's or something. Needless to say, though, my heart skipped a beat in a painful way when I saw it for the first time.

 

I would say it's a no-no, unless the person you are currently with is knowing and ok with it. Some partners wouldn't care...others might have negative feelings about old flame gifts.

 

It depends what it means to you. If it's just jewelry than it's fine. If it means something more, a sign of commitment perhaps, than you shouldn't.

 

The feelings of your new love and the depth of your feelings for them. If your current lover is not offended there is no foul. If they are deeply offended I would have second thoughts about the relationship maybe.
As to the second question, honesty is always best in a relationship.

 

Definitely not a promise ring. The 'promise' isn't there anymore. It would be like wearing a wedding band after you're divorced and dating someone else.

 

No it's not ok, you should pawn them.