Hi, I consider myself bi. I love to have sex with women, but now and then I get that urge to have sex with men. This urge is so strong, that I can feel how I’m loosing my mind. In these moments I would do anything to have sex with men. In these moments I love to be bottomed and I love to suck dick. But the day after a feel so sick of myself... just until I get that urge again. Then everything starts from the beginning. That urge comes at least twice a year. I do not have any feeling towards men, I don’t feel romantic or anything like this, I just love plain sex. I don’t even like kissing men, because so far (I’ve been with over 20 men) I haven’t found anyone who I would love to kiss with. For me to kiss a man is equal to kissing a vacuum-cleaner. Those men I’ve been with were horrible kissers. Does anyone feel the same or am I the only one? Is there anyone just like me or am I going crazy?
were you sexually abused? why do you feel sick the day after? do you feel you are doing something dirty or wrong?
no I haven't been abused... I think I feel it because I feel it's somehow wrong... I guess.. I don't have any friends who I could talk to about this. And all of my friend are straight... and here being gay or bi is pretty out, you have to mad to "come out".
I think it's pretty hot. you should feel special. there are not many men that have the same kind of attitude like yours. They either love men and hate women. Or like women and would kill if a man harasses them. So you're cool!
Basically, you have answered your own question. To add to your woes, being gay or bi is NOT sitting well with your present environment. Add up the two and you are having an acute case of suppression of your own feelings. You do NOT have to be emotionally involved with men in order to enjoy sex with them. Hell, you even do not have to like them personally. If you find them qualified (as in attractive) and willing, that's all you need. So, lean back and relax. Have fun and enjoy it without spending time analyzing it too much. It is sex. It is natural and it happens. KD
Lots of guys are insanely bad kissers. It's a huge turnoff and makes the whole sex bad, so no wonder you don't enjoy
Actually, no, around 1/3 to 1/2 of them are like this, just they never verbalise it often, especially to the opposite sex Grrrrrr, the reality is the most mysoginistic are at the straightest end of town. Cant really hang around many gay guys, as the same kind of jealousy rules apply with my partner as does yours. Most other guys are ick anyway, Which leaves the chics and just cos it might annoy me that they talk through there nose all the time or I dont want to touch the marshmallow, doesnt mean I hate them. I have, and am allowed to have more female friends than any other straight guy my age that I know As for the OP, not wanting to kiss guys, I never understood that, bi is just as different to us as straight is, just in a different way
OP, I am a bisexual woman, and from reading your post I think you need to learn to love yourself more. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. Don't hate yourself for who you are, learn to find the beauty in it.
The flip side to that is that if he feels dirty afterwards, that can sometimes be the point Sex can be a beautiful intimate union between two loving people (yawn) ....or it can be dirty......and nasty....and an unexpected impulsive trist between two people selfishly using each other as sex objects to free themselves of primal urges So my advice would be, yeah sure learn to find the beauty in it........but sometimes embrace that disgust and accept the dirty little piggy you are
Well, if you're a man yeah, I guess this is probably the case... but hey, everyone has their guilty pleasures, right?
Just because you are a girl and you think like you do, doesnt mean all girls do. Doesnt mean there arent girls out there that are just as superficial as most of the guys with their gratification or even more so, just that they hide it from you and most because its seen as unladylike. And really those types of girls are the reason the guys learn to mistrust the rest of you
You like it and feel bad about it for the same reason: you, like most people, are attracted to what feels "bad" I'm bi and have a boyfriend and still feel a little guilty when I jerk it to chicks, comes with the bi territory