Is it ever ok to cheat on someone under any circumstances?

This might sound like a given, but i actually no of people who believe there are good reasons to cheat on their loved one.

Only good reason i can think of is revenge for them cheating on you.

 

Even that isn't a good enough reason because that just lowers you down to their level. It creates mistrust between you and every person who ever knew you. "Well, if Jane slept with Bob to get back at John, how do I know she won't try to sleep with Tom and steal him away from me?" Unless you and your partner consent to an open polyamorous relationship, no. Cheating is wrong under any circumstances.

So, who is s/he and why do you want to cheat with him/her?

 

Do you consider it cheating if both parties have made a mutual agreement that seeing others is ok?

 

Woundn't that be more like a polyamorous relationship? In that case, then that would definitely not be considered cheating.

 

No. But I do think that's a hard row to hoe, and probably a terminal relationship for most people. Not all, but most.

Problem is, so many hearts get dragged into the mix. So many egos get involved. The risk of an STD following someone home is a potential explosion hazard. Things can get weird, fast.

 

it depends on the person?
if you think it's ok, than it's ok. if they think it's ok, then it's ok.
everyone's going to say something different.

 

If you are in different states or countries is it cheating? Just wondering...

 

It might be old fashioned or dumb or whatever, but cheating is wrong no matter where your partner is.
If you've made a promise, you have to keep it, no matter what. Even if that promise is unspoken. If you want to be with someone else, you owe it to your partner and yourself to end the relationship first.

 

Very well said.. Are you sure you're male?
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perdy damn sure. although i once did wear a sarong during a really hot summer.

 

So tell me this: is it cheating if you're married, but you renounce your vow of fidelity to your husband/wife. Your husband/wife isn't down with this--FAR from it--but what can s/he do about it? Nothing, that's what.

You assure your partner that this doesn't mean you intend to sleep with anyone else, probably won't, but renouncing the vow is the only thing that'll allow you to have an orgasm again.

About three months later, you kick your partner to the curb and perform ritual "breaking the vows and moving on" sex with a married friend who's in an open relationship. In fact, the friend is part of a polyamorous "family." All the husbands and wives know about it. They misunderstand, and think you're joining their family. You aren't. Just sharing pleasure with a new friend while scraping your Significant Other off the sole of your shoe.

Any cheating there?

(And for all you fellow Pagans, how do you like that ritual?)

 

Sometimes a relationship is a relationship in name only. For example, when one partner moves on, especially if he or she is cheating with another, and the original partner is out of the loop ...

... if two people are in a relationship that is tattered and worthless anyway, but haven't yet cut the strings ...

... I think it is okay to find the love that is missing, elsewhere.

 

Its not OK to cheat.

Telling one's other that "the previous agreement is off" is not cheating.
Acting on that before notifying one's other is cheating.

And I'm sure that people can come up with some situation that makes cheating OK. Our ability to justify our sexual activity is unbounded.

 

if it hurts one party pysicaly to have sex+ the other part. respects+loves enough to not want his part. in tears for his own pleasure ,part. says have fun on tour +shows with the undrstanding she dont wanna hear about it ,just that i danced my ass off +she is cool,see iluv this lady for 27yrs iRespect her obviously +she gives me free reign ,horney as hell but all the shows i,ve been to i aint, been laid yet ,to busy playing doin, drugs +conversation,dudes tell me i have the ultamite pass,some show some hippy chick willmake me wanna feel good for the nite ,but i aint exactly looking for that My question -would i be cheating under the circumstances?

 

wow, i am totally not putting in the effort to try to read that last post.

its never ok to cheat, its okay to have sex with others but only if its consented by the other partner, in which case, it woudlnt be cheating

 

....What?


Cheating is not alright. Under any circumstances.

 

I dont think that there is any good reason to cheat on somone.If I had a patner and they felt like they wanted to see someone else I would rather them tell me that they wanted to see other people then have them cheat on me,I see no point in doing that because your only fucking with someones emotions.Cheating on someone as "revenge" is to good of an idea because you sink as low as your partner.

 

I've only cheated on one girl and it was back in high school. I'd like to say she deserved it because she didn't trust me. But if I could go back in time, i wouldn't have done it. It made me feel so shitty, like I brought myself down to the level of every girl that ever cheated on me. It sucked. But I got over it, never again. To answer your question, no, not under any circumstances. I do feel a little hypocrytical but it was high school.

 

It's never ok. If you are unhappy with the relationship, break up.

 

i agree..when i say i love someone i mean it..i keep my word, that also means never cheating..EVER. if you gotta cheat then you are a selfish sad person.