Is it alright

Discussion in 'Men's Issues' started by Bellfire01, Jun 17, 2006.

  1. Bellfire01

    Bellfire01 I'll say anything

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    for a woman to see you when you're not your best? When you cry or are afraid would you let a woman hold you in her arms or rather be alone? I do you feel about showing us your other side?
     
  2. Green

    Green Iconoclastic

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    That really depends on the woman. Some women are understanding, and others are bitches.
     
  3. Jedi

    Jedi Self Banned

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    If I ever feel bad, I don't think i would ever go to some one to "hug" and "hold" me, I am not a kid and really don't do that to your boyfriend, you are not his mother, I mean support him, but not in your way, but in his way.
     
  4. MattInVegas

    MattInVegas John Denver Mega-Fan

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    It kinda goes with the teritory. (SP)
    My woman and I understand each other.
    If you're sick, and have nobody else? I'm not proud.
    Hold me, or call 9-1-1 if needed. I've done it for her.
     
  5. Bellfire01

    Bellfire01 I'll say anything

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    That's what I mean. Do you mind a little support from the lady you love and that loves you. Is it embaressing to need her in that way?

    I'm not trying to mother anyone. It's just so different how people think nowadays. I looked on your profile and it doesn't say guy or lady and that right there is strange to me. I'm secretive but the one thing I like is the fact that I'm a lady. I look at stuff on levels and I'm not ashamed to say I like things kind of old fashion. I just wanted to see if there were guys that like knowing that a lady could be there when he needed her without feeling threatened or embarrassed.
     
  6. seamonster66

    seamonster66 discount dracula

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    If someone is my friend then they are my friend and I feel comfortable letting whatever i am feeling show
     
  7. Bellfire01

    Bellfire01 I'll say anything

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    You know, you guys would be very suprised be that crying makes you weak is really a bunch of crap to real ladies. Now before you get the wrong idea I'm not making fun of you for being strong and doing the stuff you were taught from birth. I'm just saying that, for me, a man shows me more when he can trust me enough to cry. I know that there is this thing about ladies being more emotional than guys but anger is an emotion just like fear and sadness. If you can show anger let us see the other emotions. You are not less of a man when you cry. Sometimes you're even more of one.
     
  8. .Hannah.

    .Hannah. Member

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    Actually I'd throw jube jubes at his eyes if a guy started crying on me.

    What kind of crap is this that that real ladies are to act a certain way. For goodness sake. Cry, fart, burp or NOT.
     
  9. Jedi

    Jedi Self Banned

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    BTW, I am a man, sorry if not knowing my gender confused you.
    Maybe I didn't understand what you were saying, but now i see what you are trying to say but still I don't think a guy would turn to his girlfriend unless it is the last resort, if it has to be me, I would be in pretty bad shape and in serious need of hope... unless its that case i can't imagine myself crashing and crying in front of anyone. So, if you are talking about a trauma situation then yea ofcourse its natural to cry but other than that, I can't picture any guy crying to get his girlfriend's sympathy or crying to get support thinking " I cry , you hug me and tell me you will take care of me"- unless ofcourse its a life changing trauma or something that affects him really to the core of his being.
     
  10. Bellfire01

    Bellfire01 I'll say anything

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    You didn't confuse me it just made me wonder why. I don't mean cry because you havea head cold and feel grumpy but I mean, well, take this for example. My dad's ma dide in 1999 and my dad cried for 6 months. I don't know if my ma hheld him or not but if i had a husband and someone he loved dearly passes and he cried I want to be able to comfort him. It's a show of love and strength. I just think that's important.
     
  11. Jedi

    Jedi Self Banned

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    heh, i guess if he is going through a tough time, you should comfort him anyway possible i guess.
     
  12. margot7

    margot7 Member

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    i don't think there's anything wrong with seeing a guy cry.just hate those guys who are all mucho and refuse to show emotion just because that would ruin their so called image. we're all human at the end of the day,so why should it even be an issue if a man also needs to be held,told how loved he is and be embraced.
     
  13. plume7reaction

    plume7reaction Member

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    i love comforting people and trying to make them feel better. plus, i like it when people are open to me with what they are feeling
     
  14. AerialReaver

    AerialReaver Member

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    why wouldnt it be, if she doesn't like that side of me, fuck her.
     
  15. spooner

    spooner is done.

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    I don't really cry.
     
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