Is It Abnormal To Be Flacid Before Sex?

I would love guys and girls to give me advice please. Only had 1 gf long term now broken up. I have dated a few girls and noticed while making out etc i must be a little nervous and so dont get erect at. I am confident that i could get erect with some direct penetration but avoided sex being embarrassed that i wasnt hard with all the kissing and bodies rubbing. Is it normal, will a girl look down on me if im flacid when the pants go down? Please ladies and men advise me.. thank you!

 

I don't think I am the one to help you, because I been out of the dating scene for 18 years. However, It sounds like you need to relax a bite. Let things happen on a more casual basis. I think you are trying to beat yourself up before actual sex with your date happens. Maybe,both of you can start out with some oral first. Just sayin'.

 

There are usually two reasons that young guys get erectile dysfunction with women outside of health reasons.

1) Anxiety

2) Pornography

 

I thought porn was there ya know to make it grow and things?

 

^ which is probably the problem. some guys can't grow and things without porn. which makes things difficult if trying to get laid out in the woods or something.

 

Yep.....Porn Is The Problem.....When A Guy Is Presented With A Real Human As Opposed To

The Ones He Has Watched For Hundreds Of Hours He Doesn't Know Which Way To Go.

Years Ago When I Was Actively Dating Every So Often I Would Meet A Guy Who During

Our Sex Session Would Show His Pleasure Or Give Directions With Phrases Taken Directly

From A Porn Script...........He Did It Because He Knew No Other Type Of Communication.

I Suspect The OP Has That Problem......



Cheers Glen.

 

What kind of man are you worrying about what a woman thinks? Stay flaccid and try to cram it in there for all I care.

 

nst......I Doubt You Comprehend How Deep In You Are With That Comment........The Quicksand Is

Closing In On You Fast.....



Cheers Glen.

 

I wouldn't look down on you but I would feel like you weren't turned on by me and then I might feel upset with myself.
I would suck your cock and if that didn't work then I would wonder..

 

I was only joking of course. Though women do like bad boys that ignore them. You'd have to be ridiculously badass to try and have intercourse with a flaccid dick though.

 

The number one cause for erectile dysfunction in men, and this is esp. common in young men, it performance anxiety.

And it doesn't help when the girl reacts...guys are anxious as it is, feeling pressured by today's societal expectations and this can cause young men lots of trouble. If one of you ladies encounter this with your man, settle him down and get him relaxed and having fun and most likely things will "pop up"!

 

Yes it is abnormal.

I go around with half a stiffy at least most of the time. And during foreplay prior to actual sex my Johnson is as hard as a diamond in an ice storm.

My wife says she sees my dick print all the time. But lucky for me it makes her horny so that leads to more sex....which, well....sorta perptuates the whole vicious cycle. Maybe it's a newlywed thing? Dunno.

Anyway....about your noodle dick....

You might look into copping some of those ever popular little blue pills.

LOL

Cheers.

 

Thanks candy!!! Where do you live we can try

 

well, this thread was a unique way to try and pick up internet pussy. "i can't get a boner, but girl, you should try to change that."

 

Nonsense........It's Been Placed In "Sexual Health" How Can It Not Be Genuine...???...



Cheers Glen.

 

It's common enough, especially if you are with a new partner or are otherwise nervous

If you reach a hand down there and play with your dick a little, it'll probably come right up.

You don't have to be self conscious about it either...if you know you both intend to have sex, just unzip your pants, pull down your undies and start stroking.

 

Are you telling me there's some way you can handle this?

 

I'm certainly not an expert on this but from my own experiences and conversations it does seem common enough. I wouldn't worry about it. There's nothing wrong with you

Side note - I had a friend in college that claimed total control over his erection and damn if that wasn't true!