Is Grindr full of time wasters?

So I downloaded the Grindr app 3 days ago, not something I really wanted to do but I haven't had sex for 2 months now and I need some. Boy do I need some.

I've filled in my profile, uploaded pics and fully embraced it I think. I'm using the free version, but if I get any action I will upgrade.

I've had a few interactions with guys, a lot have viewed me, got a lot of taps and been sent a few nice pictures, but no one seems to want to meet.

Had a long chat with someone this afternoon, just a few hundred metres from me. He initiated it. Looked at my profile and pics and contacted me. Seemed to be getting on well, swapped some pics, both of us seemed very keen. I told him I would be happy to meet anytime either at his, mine or in public somewhere. That's the whole point of this app isn't it? The he went quiet, just disappeared.

Pretty sure I didn't do anything wrong. He has no info or picture on his profile, maybe he's just a time waster.

So that's my question, surely Grindr isn't like Craiglist used to sometimes be, full of men who are fantasists, who have no intention of meeting genuine people and just get off on typing naughty words on their phone while wanking themselves off. Surely if someone's taken the trouble to download a gay dating app, register and everything, they do actually want to meet other gay men.

Would be interested to hear others people experiences.

 

Ok. Might be wrong.

Just spent over an hour chatting with a fairly local guy. Seems genuine. We are meeting tomorrow. Yay.

 

Not sure if this is something I want to do. Met the guy and he was a little different to what I was expecting, think the pic he sent me was a bit out of date. Not really my type if I'm honest.

Slightly against my better judgement I went back with him to his place and got what I needed from him. That part was fun I admit. He's keen to meet again and I've sort of agreed. Not sure if I want to tbh but I don't want to cause any problems, he only lives a few hundred yards from me, though he doesn't know my address.

I think I may be a bit over cautious for this. I've agreed to meet someone else tomorrow outdoors at a well known cruising spot in the middle of nowhere. A bit risky, but he seems nice enough.

Would probably be a lot easier if I lived in a big city with good public transport etc, rather than a smaller town with no gay scene.

 

I been using Grindr now last 8 years and I reckon I get 65% of my meets off it worldwide...and I meet around 200 guys a year ...but....I reckon only around 5% on there actually meet. Some i

 

Some intend too but either fight shy or something comes up ..but Neva tell u...just disappear online.

Ive met gorgeous young guys on Grindr Europe, Asia, Australia, NZ .....think there tend to be more younger guys and more fuck n go......but hey I met all types.

In pretty forward .. I look for horny guys wca but of spark.....got loads of pics n not afraid to browse n prompt n tease

Good hunting

Simon

 

Wow, 200 guys a year, that's more than I've had in the last ten years. I'm envious.

If your ever in the East Midlands please message me.

 

Well since I went on to PrEP six years ago I have been pretty active and ...hey ..I'm getting older and you only live once!

And touring India and N Zealand, the latter with a campervan, it's not hard to have plenty fun.

Would you be my type in the East Midlands Matty?

Simon

We definitely have barefoot in common mattygroves I live in thongs; was at a music festival last night and of thousands I think I was the only one with bare feet!

 

Wow, touring somewhere like that in a camper, getting to have all those beautiful male bodies and all those different cocks everyday sounds like heaven. I'm getting hard just imagining it.

I do have a thing for hot, experienced older men so I would like to think I was your type if our paths ever crossed.

 

So the meeting with the guy at the cruising spot was a bit of a disappointment. I sucked him off against a tree. Took ages, which is ok in a nice cosy bed but not outdoors when it's windy and starts raining halfway through. When he came I hardly noticed, I've swallowed more pre cum from some men than his climax. He made his excuses and left. I would have had a better time staying at home and having a nice wank.

Since getting home I've had a long chat with a man on Grindr, seemed interested, but now hes gone quiet. Maybe his wife came home or something.

 

never tried Grindr .. have a number of semi regulars that all ad up to regular .. like my regular fuck buddies

 

You should count on 90% of people online are just scratching an itch. Once the thrill is satisfied, they fade away. It is like panning for gold, you screen a lot before you find a nugget.

 

It is par for the course to have guys disappear on you, even when things seem to be going well. Especially with guys that are married and inexperienced. They get cold feet, have trouble reconciling their desires with their emotions etc. there are a variety of reasons. Coming up with a regular that you click with is hard to do in my experience.

 

In my experience, gay guys are much more reliable than the married bi guys. If they invite you over or you plan a meet up, you can pretty much count on it. I've only had 2 out of around 30 bi married guys that didn't flake on me.

 

I tried using Grindr, downloaded the app and everything. I could never log into it, I'd send my login info and password only to get a response saying no one with that name or password is on Grindr. I'd use the forgot password link, same response. It's ok though, rumor has it that Grindr uses a ton of your data and drains cellphone batteries faster than anything else.
I tried Sniffies, but that is no good either. Even when the map indicates they are just a few miles away, most of the profiles there are blank and anonymous and no one replies to messages, they just delete them unanswered. It could be my age, I suppose, but I did contact plenty of members my age and older with no results. Bummer!

 

I tried Grindr a few times but with very little success. I guess I'm just not the message-shag- run kind of guy.

 

Where are u located?

 

I think all of the apps are loaded with time-wasters. Guys who are so paranoid that they're afraid to meet; guys who are more about the thrill of the hunt than actually doing anything. Guys who have a gazillion excuses why they can't do what they say they want to do. The many men who cannot host and running into other men who cannot host - but no one is willing to meet at the local Motel 6. You either learn how to be patient and learn how to weed out the fakes and flakes or you're going to always be disappointed that you cannot get the dick you want.

Or that's why it's called fishing and not catching...

 

I joined grindr 12/20/23. Not sure if like it yet. Any places like it thats free?

 

Adam4Adam has been good to me over the years.

 

I have had mixed experiences.

The very first time I used it, I connected with a guy staying in the same hotel as I was. I invited him over, he gave me a nice blowjob and he left. It was great.

Then, I stumbled across a scammer. I gave out my phone number (BIG mistake).

Then, I ran across a number of flakes and then found another guy that I could host. We didn't click, but it's on me to Vet people better.

All in all, it's a lot like real life. There are no guarantees.