Is being lonely very often a sign of a dependent self-consciousness?

I have this believe that loneliness can be overcome if I concentrate on the exploration of my own mind ... is this a right attitude to have?

 

...just continue to back in your loneliness, emo kid.

....j/k

 

i agree with you, but it won't be true for everyone only those who realize it.

and then when you ask if this is right... i have to ask you a question in return, what type of attitude do you want to have about it? and does it really matters whether others think it's right or wrong? your not hurting anyone.

Needy people in that department don't accept their reality, so they are always grasping for what they don't have while never paying attention to what they do. Even if they find a person or people to be around, they still won't be at peace with themself which means that person or people they found are only acting as a temporary drug. Then when the drug wears off the problem is still there.

 

Sounds just about right

 

Yeah but what I am trying to achieve is an absolutely independent self-consciousness that has trancended emotionality--

like I want to be a person who can be deserted in an island for 14 years and not ever feel the need for company or the person who can get over a break-up of 30 year long relationship in less than 3 seconds.

It think it's a lofty, yet pursuable goal... and a desirable one, too.

 

he he,

I'm reminded of vulcans

 

it's possible. i'd say i'm close to being there myself.

one quote i've always remembered is:

"you can't be lonely if you like the person you're alone with."

well, i like me a whole bunch so i dont have any problems with being alone

humandraydel

 

Ahaha... I sometimes wish I could do that exact same thing.

I'm getting there. (Emotional) Isolation isn't really good for you... but sometimes it's a bit nessacary...

 

Ooh, Ash, become a poet! Your chacaters/work keep you company, eliminating the need for annoying other humans.

 

It's definitely attainable. I could spend indefinite amounts of time alone, but I am never lonely... Just take control of your mind, then you can control any of it really.... It all is in your head...

 

Talking about stuff being all in your head, did anyone ever see anything about those guys that can completely block out pain?

 

hypnotists? ......drug dealers?

 

Yeah, that's how it works, what is the pain?
Why does it hurt? Because your brain says it hurts. It is all in your mind, the feeling of pain is just that, a feeling. You can choose to not feel it.