Everyone has it ... Everyone has their own idea of how they should conduct their way of living, their way of thinking, their speech, mannerisms. Everyone has their own opinion of how things are to be performed in their own existence. Everyone has their own perceptions on the way they consciously perceive reality. Everyone has created within their own minds perceptions of how reality "should" look, how it "should" sound, how it "should" taste, how it "should" feel, how it "should" smell, and how they "should" think. Everyone has their own belief system, what dieties they wish to believe in, which non-dieties they wish to believe in, which object they wish to believe in, which non-object they wish to believe in, which belief works best for them, which one doesn't work for them, what they choose to believe or not believe in. Everyone has it ... Their perceptions on reality. That perception is their own perception, our own perception, your own perception. It's unique to every single sentient being, and just like snowflakes no two are alike. And so, we try to explain to people this is how we perceive reality. They then explain to us how they perceive reality, and we refute the way they perceive it by "telling" them "this" is how they should perceive it because I perceive it this way, or "that" is how you should perceive it because I perceive it that way. So what happens? Bickering, arguing, impatience, anger, hatred. And over what? We expect people to behave the way we do?! We expect people to think the way we do?! We expect people to perceive the way we do?! We expect people to believe the way we do?! Expectations lead to disapointments. Sustained disappointments lead to impatience. Sustained impatience leads to anger. Sustained anger leads to hatred. Sustained hatred leads to violence, disputes, killing, extinction... How do you force your views, beliefs and opinions on someone? By "telling" them their views, beliefs and opinions are wrong and refuting with them the same, all based on your own personal views, beliefs and opinions. By belittling them for holding to their own views, beliefs and opinions. By becoming impatient with them because their views, beliefs and opinions differ from yours. By becoming angry with them because their views, beliefs and opinions differ from yours. By creating strife and discord because their views, beliefs and opinions differ from yours. By flaming them because their views, beliefs and opinions differ from yours. By insulting them because their views, beliefs and opinions differ from yours. By provoking hatred, animosity, indefference because their views, beliefs and opinions differ from yours. By speaking rabidly toward those whose views, beliefs and opinions differ from yours. By hijacking someone else's thread for your own personal agenda, or changing the topic of their discussion because it doesn't have the same views, beliefs and opinions as you have. Stop trying to force your views and opinions on others as if they should be viewing them the way you do or forming the same opinions as you. If you want to believe in God, and someone does not, then they have their own rights to their own views and perceptions on reality as you do. Just because their views and perceptions are not yours, does not make them any more wrong to them as yours are not to you. Everyone has a right to their own perceptions. It's what makes reality real to them. If you have something to share, share it. But if someone disagrees, then they have every right to disagree, long as they are not trying to force their views, beliefs and opinions over what they disagree on to you, or you on to them. This is intolerance. Intolerance is lack of tolerance. Tolerance is the capacity for or the practice of recognizing and respecting others right to have different beliefs or practices. Others views, beliefs and opinions are as important to them as yours are to you. Please respect others right to have different views, beliefs and opinions as you would want them to respect your rights to have yours. If all else fails, refer to guideline 4 and 6 of the forum guidelines. In this forum, the guidelines are the bible. You read them. You agreed to them. Else you would not be here. Agreeing to them just so you can gain entrance without respecting them, is not a defense for being banned. There are two types of bans; suspensions which last anywhere from one day up to two years, and permanent bannings. 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