Interrracial couples on the rise

The idea of no one being entirely loveable is true. No one is...We are all flawed and annoying...But love is the thing that happens when someone can see past your biggest flaws and challenges and enjoy you all the time anyway...

HATE is not really a good thing to express on a "hippie" site...and I don't think I should be stoned to death for saying that when I see a couple, I only see two people in love. I wish you could see that sort of happiness yourself. Peace, brother.

 

You kind of make me sick...so I guess we're equal

 

dont ask me why, but i personally would PREFER interacial marriage. I think it would be the best thing for me, but hey. Thats just one mans opinion. But theres no doubt that when im looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with, i would definitely prefer someone that is of another race as myself. I think they bring something to the entire family that same race families cannot. That is a bridge between two races and that is something very incredible if you ask me.

 

LOL I have been gone for a day...I got your back on this one insane

Wander around with our eyes closed? Who's eyes are closed here? Most people on here are open to the beauty and love between two people...not race. Die of AIDS? Since when would I die of AIDS if I fell in love with someone of a different race? Are you a complete moron? Or are you just THAT closed minded?

I don't know where you're from, but where I live interracial dating is NOT accepted and if you see two people of different races together, they get stared at. Hell, I was dating a Peruvian guy awhile back and we got all kinds of stares...I don't think anyone's being told to fall in love with a person of a different race. I don't go out and say, I'm looking for a white guy, or a black guy, or an asian guy, because that's what's "cool"...I say, I like this person because they are "nice" or "loyal" or "intelligent"...which, I have a feeling you are lacking in all three respects.

"your own"...what are you? A fucking Nazi? Talk about someone being a follower...sheesh

I don't hope you die...not only because it's an awful thing to say...but also because I think that you need to stick around to figure out how wrong you really are.

 

That's interesting, because as I said on another thread, I live in the South, which has a historical reputation for being racist, and interracial dating and marriage is very common here, and virtually no one bats an eyelash at it. My ex wife was Vietnamese, and my two serious girlfriends besides her were Chinese and Hispanic-no one ever gave us a second look, as this whole part of the country is full of interracial couples. I myself am half Anglo and half Arab. The whole human race is one big interracial stew anyway. I've always contended that there was actually more racism in the North than in the South anyway, even though it was legally institutionalized here for quite a while.

 

Where I live we dont' have many people of different races, or religions for that matter...it's very monocultured. Which sucks...and which is why I don't quite fit in here.

 

That's too bad-I live in a semi-rural area now, which is near the Houston metropolitan area, one of the most ethnically diverse areas in the country. Even in this apparently ethnically homogeneous area that I'm in now, there are quite a few interracial couples within just a couple of blocks of me. That's one of the things I like about this part of the country, the ethnic diversity. There's one block in SW Houston that I used to live near that has a Maronite (Lebanese) Catholic Church, a Sikh temple, and a Chinese Protestant church, all next door to each other, and the whole area is getting more diverse all the time.

 

I lived in below the mason-dixon line most of my life, and it was a very monocultured area. Not only were interracial couples frowned upon, but I was actually told that if I dated a man of a different race, I would be disowned by a lot of my family.

And you know...I'm currently engaged to a man, a white man, but it doesn't matter to me that he's white. He could be purple or orange or black or flurescent blue, and I'd love him anyway...Because he is loyal and trustworthy and intelligent.

 

I agree with Ezra to an extent: that some people are thinking about interracial dating with idealism. I also agree with many of the posters who put love and spirituality above the flesh. If two people really love each other, no one has a right to tell them not to be with each other. It may surprise some of you, but there are people who not only oppose Black men dating White women and White men dating Asian women, but some also oppose Swedes dating Italians and Germans dating Turks. Religious differences can also be a source of tension.

But it's the practical element that is missing here. Most of the people here saying interracial dating is good have not put themselves in the shoes of Asian-American males or Black females. Asian-American males tend to be shorter and have a slightly higher percentage of body fat than White and Black males. They tend to be educated and hard-working. But they are also reserved. Our society (in the U.S.) values extroversion. If you are not extroverted, generally you do not get many dates. So when you combine all of these factors, though Asian-American males would likely make good husbands who can provide for their children, they (statistically at least) find it more difficult than other races to get dates. This is especially true as Asian-American females have a tendency to date White guys. I have seen studly Asian-American males, but if Asian-American males are marginalized as you say, this is the reason.

With Black guys, they tend to have a lower percentage of body fat than both White and Asian men. They also have more testosterone. They also (statistically) tend to be more extroverted. This makes them very appealing to some White women. But on the flipside, Black males tend not to be as financially stable as White or Asian men. This is why, though it's common to see White females dating Black males, it is pretty rare to see Black-White marriages.

A disproportionate number of Black males are in jail or prison. Many join gangs and live unproductive lives, due to the harshness of the inner city (for those liberals who might get upset with what I write, keep in mind I work in the inner city!). But the relatively few educated Black men seem to be having relationships with White women, creating a scarcity for educated Black women.

And I agree with Ezra that sexual myths play a role in interracial dating: how else do we explain the discrepancies and patterns in interracial dating? Most couples are White male-Asian female and Black male-White female (I am excluding Hispanics here because they come in all races).

 

I was told the same thing, HippyFreek. My parents were/are very racist. Did that stop me from dating people of other races? No, though I am with a white male now; it, too, wouldn't matter what color he was. I love him for what is on the inside, not what color he is or what religion he might be.

 

I live in Texas, which is considerably more diverse and open-minded than the "Deep South" states-Alabama, Mississippi, etc. I'm sure things are considerably different in those states than they are here.

 

It truly does depend on how culturally diverse an area is...

Texas is more diverse than other southern states, so you will see more diverse dating patterns there. Whereas Arkansas and such, it's more monocultured and there really is a lack of diverse dating.

 

I honestly don't notice more interracial couples, at least here where I live, than were here ten or twenty years ago. Much much more than thirty years ago, but then I live somewhere it's just as normal to see that as any other sort of couple (except gay, you still don't see many openly gay couples here, like holding hands in public). And yes, I live in the South. Segregation iss really not a southern thing, there's prejudice and bigotry anywhere. (try going to northern california or new england and talking with a southern accent and see how people treat you!) I've never seen any biracial couples in certain parts of Virginia, for what it's worth, and I visit there pretty regularly to see relatives.

edited... yes, there are many interracial marriages in my family. both of my step-brothers, a few of my cousins, and even some gay couples as well. It's no big deal, really. well, except my gay family members get treated rather poorly by some of our relations. we never think about it, honestly (well, most of us, anyway). but there will always be the racist bastards we wish we didn't have to see at family reunions and such...

 

The main thing I was responding to was the comment about Asian-American males being marginalized in our society. It is true that Asian-American males tend to be more reserved, and they are (to their detriment) somewhat shorter and with a higher percentage of body fat than both White and Black males. But they have some traits that are desirable (or once were).

In our society, introverted males get less dates. I argue that Asian-American males suffer needlessly because our society callously dismisses men with their (and similar) behavioral tendencies (this is not to say that some Asian-Americans are not outgoing).

What's your take on the disproportionate percentage of interracial couples being White male-Asian female and Black male-White female?

Why is the Asian-American male "perspective" (I realize there are different perspectives, but if what Hannah said is true about their being marginalized, it's worth discussing) unimportant? Why is it necessary to bring up nature versus nurture, when many thousands of Asian males see their females running off with White and Black men, while people on this forum blithely talk about "love" and seeing beyond color? Because the patterns of dating are so skewed, one can argue that, contrary to what some here believe, many if not most doing the interracial dating are factoring color into the equation.

I personally take the position that love transcends color. But the statistics say there's more than love going on.