Ok, I think that if you are going to get married then it should be with someone who you also look at as being your best friend (not that-that is going to predict the outcome). I am married and didn't know the guy long before we decided we would be boyfriend and girlfriend. I look back now and think of how different we were and realize that it was obvious that it would not work out!! Sounds pretty stupid to get married then I guess but, we just recently have and it was after having two beautiful boys together.. I really just wanted a "family" well, now he's in jail. So.. not only do I have to deal with my boys not having their father around I have to deal me having a husband in jail.. I think it is really hard to determine if a marriage is going to work out or not simply b/c most people can't read their spouse's minds. It's a two way street.. I believe that a substantial amount of people cheat mainly b/c they lose lack of excitement.. Life is really full of learning experiences and I personally would rather take chances to find out then to just never know!! Anyways, hope this helps some!
well, I've never been married but my mom is in theh middle of her second divorce. I think the biggest problem that she's had (so far as she's told me) is that both the guys ended up having these weird expectations of her being the perfect wife and the perfect homekeeper (she isn't exactly a clean freak, to put it nicely, and she doesn't enjoy cooking more than a couple times a week... it's as chore to do so more than that) but they never really explained the expectations, just assumed that she would act like that and got upset when she didn't. From what I've heard from other people, open communication is really important in a marriage. But, having never been married, I'm not exactly a fount of information
I'm happily married, and I've been with my husband for 9 years now. We started off as best friends, and we still are one another's best friends. Neither I nor my husband has cheated. What's the purpose in getting married if you can't stay monogamous? I have no desire to look elsewhere, and my husband says the same. We are even closer now than we were when we were first married, so that's definitely a positive thing. Our marriage is a very good one, and I hope it continues to be that way for many, many years to come. Much peace.
I have been married for almost 3 years. I met my hubby on the side of the road. he was broke down, and I stopped to help. I left with him 2 weeks later (he was a truck driver) Married him 9 mths later. I am very happily married. I think the secret to a good marrige is talking, communication. I can talk to my hubby for hours. Also a little compermise never hurt anything. He did cheat on me with his ex wife before we got married. At first I decided to stay with him cause I found out like a week later I was pregnant. But in the long run I am really happy I did, he is a wonderful husband, who just made a horrible mistake. And he is a wonderful father, and are expecting our second child in May.
My dh and I have been married 19 years and been together almost 26 years. We have never cheated. What makes it work? A lot of hard work. Not expecting the other person be your therapist. Not trying to "fix" the other person. Having your own interests. Knowiing there is a huge difference between what is needed to be a mother and a father. Not "keeping score" or trying to make things even. Works for us.
