Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by worrier, Jan 1, 2005.

  1. worrier

    worrier Member

    does anyone else have problems with impotence / ways of combatting it?

    i have recently started seeing a girl, and everytime we have tried to sleep together things have been going great for a while, then all of sudden my dick will go south on me, and no matter what I can't get it back up. I'm fairly sure this is all psychological, me thinking too much or becoming paranoid. I have no problem getting aroused looking at porn (rather worryingly) which has been my only sexual release for quite a while now. I'm a bit worried that my sexual response has become conditioned to masturbation, rather than other people.

    this girl is lovely, and we are really into each other, I want to be able to respond to her like I should.
  2. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

    I never had that problem but maybe you should get some Viagra. Seems like a safe bet, all those old fucks use it and they're fine.
  3. kindwoman

    kindwoman Sista Golden Hair

    Definitely get some Viagra. And it's not just old fucks that use it either so don't feel bad.
  4. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

    if you've conditioned sustaining an erection iwth porn and masturbation, why not switch from porn while masturbating to thoughts of your girlfriend and then you'll associate that with her. Also it sounds like you may just be a bit aprehensive and nervous before hand. Viagrat only works if you can't have an erection because of physical reasons -not mental ones.
  5. worrier

    worrier Member

    thanks for the replies :)

    i am trying to recondition myself I have forbidden myself from looking at porn, and my girlfriend is in my thoughts a lot of the time.

    i've done some research on the internet and it seems like viagra can counteract psychological disfunction too. your mind sets certain processes off which kill the erection, but viagra works to combat these processes whether caused physically or psychologically.

    it's definitely nerves. my love life up to now has been nothing short of disaterous, and now that i've met someone and we really like each other my goddam paranoia is conspiring against me.

    well, thanks again
  6. hiro

    hiro pursue it

    My boyfriend had this problem this summer for about three weeks. It will go away when you become less nervous about what you want to happen, etc. No need to take viagra because you can mentally overcome this.
  7. FNA

    FNA Member

    If you're feeling any kind of pressure to please your woman, and are worrying about being limp, that can be a major cause. And if you're thinking about your disastrous love-life, that's not much of a turn-on for you, is it? Also, it sounds like maybe the foreplay is going too slow for you. Why not jump in while you're still hard.

    There are natural things you can do to help too. Eating less fatty foods, not smoking or drinking, eating sea-food are good for your blood-flow. And you might try laying off touching yourself to create sexual tension. The more hormones you got down there, the more you need to act on them.

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