Im too shy.....

im walking to the lunch line and i see this BEAUITFUL guy standing there and im falling head over heels with just one look. i know it sounds crazy but ive never seen a guy likethat in my school yet and im a junior! we both looked at each other the other day and we smiled and he turned to tell his friend something then they both looked at me and i turn red and turn away....i havent looked at him that way since but in the corner of my eye i see him just staring at me! With all my heart i just wanna go up to him and talk to him and maybe ask him out, i wanna show him the real me but i get way too shy and turn away....maybe i should wait untill he makes his move? im like a little girl! all giggling and whatnot...i need to stand up and take it seriously if he does come up but im so shy how can i help that?

 

Just remember he's only a person. If he makes a move, just remember he's as nervous as you are. Just play that up in your mind: he's nervous to come and talk to me. That'll make it a lot easier not to be nervous yourself.

 

At 16 most guys are clueless. Show him you are interested in him by going up and talking to him. He may ask you out - if not, ask him out.

 

Just find some topic to talk to him. You'll regret it, if you don't. I know what I am talking about, having missed numerous occasions, just for being "too shy"....

 

"if you smile at me, you know I will understand...." good tune there, and truth in the lyric!

Im sure he would love for you to ask him anything, just to start a convo. You probably wont need to say much more than "wots up" to get started, as a smile always says so much more than words.

good luck!

 

I used to be as shy as you. I would become the biggest "clutz" around boys I liked, and ended up always making a fool of myself. But today, I am VERY outgoing. I changed by deciding that i would just put myself out there, because you don't get what you don't give. Does that make sense? If you don't put in an effort to get to know this boy, then you probably won't, and you will always wonder 'what if.' Bite the bullet and say hello!

 

just talk to him baby, you will feel so prowd of your self if ya do.. go for it!!

 

Just find somethign to talk about. ie there was a cutie at the bar last night who had some tattoo's (ok a lot of tattoo's and that's a big reason why he was so damn hot to me) so I went up and asked where he got his tattoo's done. At the same place I've had mine done, as a neat coincidence.

 

I really really really want to but i have a bit of a talking problem and i get sooo red and i hate it. Hes turning 18 so hes a year older . maybe a smile will help???? hes always with his friends so i get nervous even more

 

perhaps it will, give it a go!!, i cant stand that, how you meant to talk to him if he's never alone!

 

Can you talk to him on the internet? Is he in any of your classes? Try to find a place where he is not with his pack of friends, and seek him out.
Slip him a note.

Four ideas, four possibilities.

 

That is indeed a GREAT tune man! CSN baby.

Anywho, i can assure you that this guy is just as if not more nervous than you are. If you talk to him, he might not know what to say because he is so flattered by you, If i was you, i would just simply keep giving him sexy looks and stuff so he KNOWS that you have feelings for him. Then one day, talk to him and BE YOURSELF. No matter what you think of guys, they can always tell when a girl is fake (about 99.9 % of the time lol). They will see right through your act, so just be yourself and NOTHING CAN GO WRONG.

 

yeah, just starting with a "hey baby, what's shakin?" (or whatever your favourite intro is, hehehe) can do wonders - compliments or questions pertaining to his look, threads or interests ("i see you're reading ___") is a good way to begin as well....or you can always go with the standby "hey man, what's your sign?" ....it's a good way to cut through the tension with a bit o' humour

if he's shy too, he may always be hangin with friends - break on through and be bold, baby! you've got nothing to lose and may stand to gain alot

he caught your eye for a reason - don't turn away or let shyness get to you, or you may always wonder what you missed out on

 

If you haven't seen it, there is a great movie about your problem - it is called "Love, Actually", and it has a number of vignettes about males and females trying to find their true love and actually bridging that shyness gap.

Rent it if you can find it. It was released three or four years ago, and it starred Hugh Grant.

 

Yea shyness has always been a thorn to my flesh,, Thats why I always miss on opportunities. I've never found any solution to my problem.. I think for me its worse than just shyness, I get so nervous that I often embarrass myself. Anyhow, c'est la vie!!

 

Cutted has it right: clueless, and they tend to stay that way, no matter! Walk up to him, "I've been looking at you and I notice you've been eyeing me - is that enough to start a relationship or shall I keep walking?" Just don't be too disappointed if he gawks, mumbles, blushes, makes a poor joke, or just farts with embarassment. That's not a good age for us.

 

if someone asked me if looking at them was enough to start a relationship, I'd fucking run. You gotta get to know someone a bit better than looking at them before wanting to start a relationship.

 

Wow! you guys are really helpful. ill try the smile and wave and ys i have heard of that movie, i should rent it lol. and the "whats your sign?" question, i say that anyways <<astrology nerd ty again!

 

Hmm maybe a smile could really start it out for both of you. With that, he can tell that you are okay to approach to. There are a lot of ways on how to communicate to a person nonverbally. Through your gestures maybe, or your actions. Just think of any topic that you can start with, and approach him casually like there's no malice. Just concentrate on what to say and think that he is the one who is shy and not you so that you can carry the situation.

good luck!





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From my 18 years of experience... make a move. At least something. Start a convo and see where it leaves you... too many times I passed up those opportunities and then you ask yourself "what if". And ya know, there was one girl in my driver's ed class that I never really talked to before, but I started a convo and asked "Hey, think you'd like to hang out sometime?" and we exchanged numbers. We never actually did anything after that, but at least I tried... so what I'm saying, is it's better to take that shot than to let it slip away, even if you screw it up haha... I've met many good people that way. Good Luck and be yourself.