i'm so scared and i need your reply!!

umm I'm soo scared.. I mean I don't know why... I think I MIGHT be bi but I don't know for sure.... I like guys a lot it's just that their penises make me want to throw up... and stuff.. and I get bad dreams of penises strangling me to death and stuff... and umm I like everything about a guy except for the penis... penises scare the shit out of me. and ummm I dunno... and just thinking about something like that going into you makes me want to throwup more.. and umm well.. I find girls very nice looking and sooo adorable and pretty and I think they have such a unigure and beautiful body and I like the vagina better then penises because they don't stick out and look like they are about to wrap themselves around my neck and choke me to death... I would want to kiss a girl to see what it feels like and everything and stuff... fuck! I have female fantasies about certain stuff and stuff... I feel sooo paniky and I don't know what to do... I;m all for bi and gay people but I don't know why.. I just feel so paniky and scared and I dunno... what if everything changes? I mean I have TONS of friends who are bi and Gay and everything I just feel a little scared... I don't know what to do! I don't know if I'm straight or bi! I'm so confused.. pleeeease please please reply back to this! I need help I need to talk to someone I don't know about this....

 

hey I went through the same thing and penises still scare me. You should try maybe just kissing a girl. I've messed around with a couple when I was questioning myself and found that men are so much sweeter and softer and more intimate and while girls bodies are pretty there's nothing like being held by someone stronger than you.

 

Speaking as a guy with a lifelong penis.. I can assure you..If my penis were to attack anybody. It would be me. Let's face it. It's not a good looking piece of machinery..

If you feel like you need to find yourself sexually, it's possible that you may be bi. There's nothing wrong with that. You need to be who you are. Don't panic, don't stress over it.

Find the love that you need.. Love is not about penises and vaginas though.. Men and Women are on two entirely different emotional plains. Maybe some soul searching and spending time with possiblilites of both genders might help.

Peace.

 

thank you you guys... uug when I first told my friend over the phone about me might being bi I was shaking so much and I ended dropping the phone and running to the bathroom and throwing up... fuck yea.. i am so nervous... I mean I just feel like sinking into the ground or dieing... I don't know if I can handel this any of it... I don't know if I can and I feel like sometimes giving up and dieing.

 

Maya,

It's gonna be OK.

 

Ok dont be scared about maybe being Bi. what i can suggest is experiment wiht girls. and if you like hookin up with girls than try being in a relationship and if you find that you can fall in love with another woman than you are bi.

 

I very much agree although I like boys a lot, I tend to love looking at the female body better it just so beautifully. Made guys bodies are rougher looking and not so soft, and penises are not that attractive lol but i still like em.... And to fantasize about girls is normal I do it too... and kissing a girl is nice they have softer lips then guys ussualy.

 

One of my ex-girlfriends had peniphobia 'till she was with me. She said she just needed to be with somebody that she was really comfterble with....

 

that sounds not too bad... I just don't know if I can come out of the shadows yet... maybe If I am more powerful towards mysekf then maybe but right now I think I'd rather think things over and everything and stuff... and taslk to people... I might try it...

 

I think that once you do try it you will feel better. The two girls who've kissed and stuff were both friends and both times I was incredibly drunk. I never would have done it if I wasn't. So maybe find a girl you know who is bi or gay and drink a little and see what happens.

 

If you cant come out yet than yes think about the idea of maybe being bi.
Hopefully you get some good advice and not be ridiculed for maybe bi. so good luck.
*HUGS*
Fallen Fairy

 

Hmmm... maybe you should spend some more time with penises..? You know, get used to them. Hehehe.


Anyhoo nothing wrong with being bi. It just means you can have twice as much fun.

 

Man, you sound like you need a freaking hug or something. You'ld better find someone to give it to you. I would love to but my penis is just aching to strangle someone. Just kidding.

Relax. Breathe deep and seriously... find someone who will give you a hug while they really listen to you. Guy or girl... maybe even a parent if he/she is very open and understanding. Like everyone said, it is going to be okay.

Bah... here is a great big virtual (((HUG))) mind the penis ... he's restrained but he can be tricky sometimes.

 

I'm male, gay, and not overly keen on penii. It's very rare that I see one that I look at and think "wow, that's attractive". Unless you have a specific girl in mind, I wouldn't draw any unnecessary conclusions from this.

 

Dayum, 's not like you have cancer or yer mom jus died or somethin'. So you like chicks and dudes, I don't think it's somethin to get that worked up about. Oh, and I'll apologise in advance for my cold and uncaring opinion.

 

ummm thanks...

 

I think women are beautiful creatures, but I have no sexual desire to be with one. *shudders* It just doesn't do anything for me. I'd rather have a big, strong man, my hubby of course.

But everyone is different, we're all wired differently, and we're all unique.

Much peace.

 

You probably shouldn't try messing around with a girl to see if you are bi. You are probably all messed up emotionally right now...at least your posts make me think that. Get shit straight in your head first. If you do something right now, it won't feel the since you are all panicked or depressed or whatever.

 

hey I totally understand where you are coming from. I love looking at girls and fantasizing about girls and even messing around when I can find a like minded chica and it's because they are so much prettier to look at!! There is an actual medical condition for the way you are feeling. I forget what it's called but there lots of other people out there who are scared to death of seeing a penis. It can be eased with behavior therapy. "See in blonde" is right. Don't go out messing around with any girls until you find out if this is due to your sexual preference or a phobia.

In my case I laugh at the penis. Guys get really pissed but I can't help but think they are so ugly... how can guys swing it around and expect me to think it's sexy? But the more exposure I had (with my boyfriend of course) the easier it got to ignore the penis and focus on the moment and passion. Your fantasies about girls are perfectly natural but your fear is not. Get some help, talk to a doctor or thereapist you can trust. I know it's an embarassing topic but it's taking such an impact on your life. Calm down and try not to stress about it.

 

I think this Seinfeld quote also applies to this thread -

Elaine: "Well, the female body is a... work of art. The male body is
utilitarian, it's for gettin' around, like a jeep."
Jerry: "So you don't think it's attractive?"
Elaine: "It's hideous. The hair, the... the lumpiness. It's simian."
George: "Well, some women like it."
Elaine: "Hmm. Sickies."