I have been alone for years, I like it most of the time. But because I am a grown woman with needs, I have sex buddies (One at a time). well, the young boy is fun. I'm enjoying myself entirely too much. I set the rules of our "arrangement" and now I feel trapped by them. The sex is good, the convo is good. I think I want more than sex. He is a young guy, no kids. I'm older than him and I have 4 kids. We live two very different lives. I wanna call him for no reason and that's not good. I'm gonna do my best to maintain the sex buddy guidelines cause I really don't wanna end up with feelings for somone that doesn't have feelings for me. I not being down on myself or anything, but 4 kids is alot for a 21 year old to take, so I don't see him returning any feelings. This has never happened before, it was always the other way around, the guys always wanted me to give them more. I'm a soldier. I can suck it up and go with the flow. I really stepped in it this time. I didn't need to ask a question, I just needed to vent.
ok i read it. now what? i'm clueless. i've been bored all day and all depressed. i can't think. i feel a headache coming on.
There is a 50% chance that he could want a relationship with you. You are only 5 years older than him and that isnt really bad. If he is a good guy, and you got the heart tingles...You should let him know how you feel. How is he with the kids. Becoming more than fuck buddies wouldnt hurt. You could try being lovers, and if that doesnt work you can always leave.
He is a good guy and I do have the "heart tingles" but if I say something to him and he doesn't feel the same, then it will be arkward and that will probably be the end of our sex buddy thing. I don't want that because I do like him. Its just safer to leave things the way they are and hope I can get my "heart tingles" in check. BTW I don't bring a guy around my kids unless we are serious so he hasn't met the kids. Far as my children know, mommy never has a bf.( I don't play with my kids emotions)
so your one of those people who believe a tree doesnt make a sound if no one is a round to hear it? at anyrate, if you want people to answer or sympathize with your relationship problems maybe you should be nicer to people when it comes to their relationship problems...i.e. the how do you stop loving someone thread
If you continue on in this relationship without telling him how you really feel, isn't that sorta like lying to him? I mean, I could be understanding this wrong but it doesn't sound like your feelings are going to lessen. They may grow with each act of intimacy. And by staying with him without telling him the truth you are under false pretenses. In the long run I can't see any good coming from your not telling the truth. If you tell the truth, you may gain a love or you may lose someone with whom such things were not meant to be, and with whom your fuck buddy system cannot work.
I can't have sex with a guy and not have a relationship. It would just hurt, I'd be feeling all dirty. I'm just a sensitive chick I guess. What are you doing to yourself accepting sex when you want and deserve love?
Come on. HE WAS 15!!! And I wasn't saying anything bad to the person who started the thread or to him, for that matter. I just wanna know how he spent too years getting over somebody. 2 years is almost 14% of his life. That means that he started getting over this person at least when he was 13. When did he date her then? When he was 11? I think my questions were valid questions. P.S. Didn't you read the thread? I DON'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP. ....dork
*sigh* congrats you don't, have a realtionship. well i don't know if you've noticed or not, but most relationship problems stem from...NOT HAVING ONE...see what im getting at? at anyrate don't continue seing this boy until you tell him 'whats up'...or you decide for yourself 'whats up'...
Sorry.... but I was wondering.... is he working? You know, have a full time job and all? Because if not, you might end up having to support him and your kids too.. Just a thought..
