i'm scared to be myself

for fear someone might not like me. it's stupid, it's lame. but it's what it is. and it's (maybe) getting a little better bit by bit.

apparently i'm still trying to win the high school style popularity contest.

 

really?

huh

I think you're awesome
and I only know you digitally

Why are you lacking self confidence?

Dreadlocks helped me tremendously in that department.

 

I feel that way quite often. I feel like I am constantly reminding myself not to care what other people think.

You are awesome(from what I know of you)- so it shouldn't matter if they don't like you,their loss

 

the reason people like me and see me as confident on here is because i AM myself on here. for some reason "real life" is always so much different for me. i'm shy and self conscious and i'm always afraid people are talking to me because they feel sorry for me rather than wanting to be around me. how fucked up is that?

 

and yes, it's been getting exponentially better/easier since i dreaded. i just passed 1 year, and i've seen HUGE change in myself. hipforums helps too.

 

A lot of people feel that way,
it's something you must shed.
Let it go. Love who you are, and where you are.
(Just my advice)

 

it's good advice. it's what i'm trying to remember on a daily basis. it's really very much like quitting smoking or something... breaking a bad habit of feeling bad about myself, or thinking of myself negatively. remembering to replace the ugly thoughts with loving ones.

it's a process of trading the addiction to feeling bad about onesself for an addiction to loving onesself. i much prefer the latter...

 

if u cultivate positive and confident thoughts about yourself in your mind today, tommorow they will already have started growing!

 

i'm quite shy in person, and i'm very quiet. i don't know if this is me or if i don't know myself. Regardless, i hope things continue to get easier for you. And this is mildly random, based upon your pictures i think you are absolutely gorgeous and figured I should say so.

 

why thank you bunny...

 

i'm glad to say so.

 

Scared of being yourself with others. Scared of showing/revealingyourself with others. ... I was crippled with this fear once and it still really nags at me, but i am what i am, and you are what you are .... made that way by god and nature. How can we be ashamed of that!?
The truth speaks with kindness because it doesn't need to defend itself. The truth knows us all intimately, the truth is us all intimately. If there's judgement and scorn, then it's not the truth ... not understanding the oneness we all share.
I think we need to be bold sometimes to be ourselves, to reveal ouselves naked, so to speak ... without shame. To be able to take off your mask and say "This is me, for what it's worth .. take it or leave it, but for myself i'm gonna take it, ... and love it. Do what you will, i have no fear."

Let love in

 

you seem like such a cool chick on here it's hard to imagine you not being so in person.

 

lol... i never said i wasn't cool in person... it's just hard to get to that point with me in person, because i clam up and run away. i'm great once you get to know me. you just have to work really hard at convincing me you want to hang out with me, and not that you're just hanging out with me because there's nothing better going on. plus you have to make all the first moves. i play hard to get as a friend apparently.

 

With a beautiful smile like that, who couldn't like you!

 

for as long as i can remember ive always been the girl who did what she wanted and dressed to get stares from strangers.im the one to take risks and do things that other people may find odd.i always had people in my life who supported me and always told me how amazing i was, although even my mom shook her head at my attire some days.im from a pretty small town, connected to another small town, connected to another,etc..lived her my whole life so i never worried what people thought of me, bcuz i could just go to another group of friends.

my advice to you is to just be yourself and dont be afraid to do it. if people dont like you for who you are what makes you think they like the fake you??People dont like fake people and some will be quick to spot you out, so its easier to just come out of your shell and accept yourself.you are beautiful, never let anybody (including yourself) tell you different. plus you`ve got locks, they should help give you strength hope this helped !

 

i think i'm just scared to get to know people. because that requires vulnerability. it requires going below the surface of quick wit and small talk. i'm terrified of being an emotional, vulnerable human being.

and i'm not really asking for advice or trying to be all "pity me." i'm just venting/confessing. because doing that really helps for me. stating my fears in a public way so that i can't just stuff them back down and pretend they aren't there... this is therapeutic.

 

sounds like you've already got a plan... just time to kick it into motion

opening yerself up to the unwashed masses will get ya kicked in the guts now and again.... humans can be bastards, it's part of the deal... but yer soon get yer breath back

be like the cat

 

you just have to learn how to be real.people respond to that best ive found

 

well, when being real has gotten you beaten, abused, hated and neglected most of your life, it's kinda hard to override the barriers you put up against being real in order to protect yourself enough to survive.

if it were easy for me to just be myself and "be real", i wouldn't be struggling with this. please don't undermine my personal growth process with your trite "fix all" statements. you don't even know me.