I'm older and it takes too long to ejaculate during sex....

Some things that help the cause:
Abstaining for 3 days. [less or more time makes it worse]
Yohimbine.
Might try an Aneros massager.
Bromelain is suppose to make semen less viscous?
Trying to relax and enjoy the moment instead of being anxious about 'getting there'.

Any other ideas would be welcome! Thank you.

 

Can you still get an erection ok ?

 

Your last idea is the best. I have learned to enjoy the experience and what it does to my body. Recognizing the effect the encounter has on me is what makes it so special. I could care less if I ejaculate knowing that it's inevitable. While I'm waiting I enjoy all she has to offer giving back as well. I will orgasm but it's not just the end result that I enjoy. It's the journey in getting there.

 

I have the same experience regarding abstaining, a little break helps but too long makes it worse. For me the magic number is two days...if I go past two days I take forever.

I had surgery recently so I went about a week and now I am taking medicine that I think inhibits ejaculation...

And before asked - I am horny as hell and I get so hard it hurts

 

Some medicines do make it difficult to ejaculate. Even while masturbating.