I'm new and I need help.

Hi,
My name is ... well call me what you want .

I'v had some drastic changes in my life and am now seeking wisdom and advise, from anyone really.
If your interested in talking, giving avise or just want to know what's up E-mail me at ElDestructo21@aol.com and I'll give you the run down on my situation.
Hippies just seem to be the right people to talk to.

Thank you, from a lost soul.
Clay.

 

Hey Dragon,

What's wrong??
You'll get help..don't worry..
Emiel

 

I cant email people so i cant help unless you tell us!!! PM someone or put it in the right section bit here!good luck

welcome to the forums by the way

 

Hey call me what you want a.k.a. Dragon_seed21. I'm a Capricorn also and I lived in Merced for a couple of years. Sorry to hear you're having a bad time. People in this forum generally don’t open unverified links, you understand with all the nasty things out there in cyberspace. If you could PM your troubles you just might get what you’re searching for. OK? Always eager to help another brother. I used to ride myself.

Let me extend the welcome mat. I recently found “The Hip Forums” myself and I know what it’s like to be a newcomer. You don’t really know what to say or how to act. Read some of the threads so you can get the gist of what topics are being discussed. When you feel comfortable jump right in and get your feet wet. Nobody here is going to “Flame” you, that just isn’t tolerated here (unless it’s necessary) lol. We get some assholes here who just want to stir up bad vibes... From what I’ve found so far is that we are one big family with many brothers and sisters. Once again the doors open come on in, open up your heart and mind, put on some groovy tunes, kick back and stay awhile. Peace & Love, DDR

"Many receive advice, only the wise profit by it."

 

Hi, Wiggy,Old Tiger,& Dudley...
Wow, I feel kinda lame logging in and just complaining ... but heres my problem.
I just got divorced ( I'm 21 mind you ) and upon this I tore myself down so that I could rebuild. Now I have been raised a charismatic christian and have instilled in me a lot of very high standards, all self imposed , . Last week I went to a party on friday and met a couple of hippies ( I ended up spending three days with them) , I watched as one girl danced alone and found myself without words. the beauty and freedom I saw in this person blew me away, it was ...well all I can call it is "The dance of life" and I realized this is what I want.
Spiritual, mental, and physical freedom, and that level of self awareness that comes with being a "Hippie". But I now live with my parents and find only disapproval and rejection of this mindset. I guess It all comes down to weather I seek my fathers approval and meet my own standards or do I folow my heart and let the true me shine through in all my glory and suffer the repercussions ?
Should I pull off the mask I wear and throwaway my fake smile in order to chase the "hippie" I love and fear inside of me ? Is it so wrong to take my life into my own hands and seek carnal satisfaction unlike any I'v known ? Why should I die inside for others ? Just once I want to do someting for myself , Is that selfish or self centerd ? I just dont know who I am anymore.
With love and good will to all.
Dragon.

p.s. Wow! I,m truely geatfull for the positive responce I'v recived. I really don't handle emotion very well. I,m a very private person but normally I,m a happy go luky kinda dude. I'm the guy others go to for help, but in my time of need whom do I turn to if not you ? Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

 

Yes. Just, yes.

Neither selfish, nor self-centered but honest and true.
Denying oneself is painful and so unhealthy...
You know, who you are.
Someone who don't want to die inside for others, someone searching his own way and someone wearing a mask and a fake smile, being aware, how anti-your-very-self that is.
You are you, with your doubts, fears and hopes and that's worth respect and appreciation.

 

Gidday Brother . Forget the bullshit. May iove and peace be within you and around you always and the .stars of freedom shine forever in your mind.I've been through one hell of a time in the last 10 years. You'ii get trough. LOVE ANDD PEACE R.A.T.

 

"The Dance Of Life." Speaking from experience, it’s an inside job. Achieving goals is like climbing a stairway; they must be taken one step at a time. If goals are set too high, a person may be setting themselves up for failure. Now, don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with setting high goals or standards, it’s like learning to walk, if you stumble and fall, you pick yourself up and you try again. Set goals that are obtainable. Throughout life we all stumble and fall, it’s the learning process. Don’t give up the morals and ethics your parents or religion have instilled in you, because they will come in handy on life’s bumpy road. Seeking approval from others can also be a let down. "To thine own self be true," be real. You know the difference between right and wrong, listen to your heart, it’s generally right. As for rejection, we all fear that too, we’re a gregarious society, rejection hurts, but you can’t let that stop you. If you see something you want or like, go for it, as long as no one or no thing gets hurt along the way, because later on down the line you will regret not doing it. All things are clear in retrospect.

On being a Hippie, let me clear up a few misconceptions about what a Hippie is. Long hair does not make a Hippie. Clothes don't make a Hippie and the use of drugs definitely doesn't make you a Hippie. Being a Hippie has nothing to do with being rebellious. Native Americans would say it's "Tafunka" (a way of life). It's a matter of respect. Respect for others and their rights to be who they are. Respect for the Earth and all that dwell on it. Mostly it's a respect for yourself. Allowing yourself to be who you are. Search the inner you, deep inside your heart, the answers are there if you just listen. You just might be surprised at what you find. Two paths diverge in a wood, I take the path less traveled and that made all the difference, it's all up to you. It's a Yin-Yang thing, ya know, Lifes' Karmic Wheel. Peace & Love, DDR. Hope this little piece of advice helps ya bro.

 

Sounds as though you are on the cusp of a spiritual (re)awakening.

I'm sure your parents care very much about you and only want what they believe to be the best for you. What's MOST important is whether or not you're happy. This new phase in life may not be exclusive to a faith in God but in all likelihood requires that you seperate yourself from forces that seek to unduly influence the direction you go. That means spreading your wings and leaving the nest. As long as you're under Mom and Dad's roof you expose yourself to their constant (albeit caring) disapproval.

Secondly, you likely should create and maintain some distance between you and the church you've been attending. That doesn't necessarily mean stopping your dialogue with God. Most churches I've been exposed to seek to discourage true self discovery by branding a broad range of human behavior and attitude as "sin". Most people have an internal compass to determine the difference of right and wrong. It's time to have faith in your own character to guide you through this transition toward self-realization... whether or not you opt to label it as "hippie".

It sounds as though you've discovered a like-minded group of people. That is good- but don't allow them or any others to unduly influence the direction you go- the most important approval you need is your own. It makes no difference whether you lose your sense of self through a spouse, parent(s), a church organization, or a group of friends; anything that inhibits true happiness needs to be dealt with.

 

Thank you All.

Today I set the wheels in motion for the rest of my life.
I know that the transition will not be instant or easy, but in the end I will be true to myself and a better person for it. You have all helped in my quest an I look forward to getting to know you all better in the future. the culmination of all youre adivce is a cocktail of knowledge and wisdom and I look forward to discovering the parts of my life that I will apply them to.
Am I a "Hippie"? I don't really know. hippie is an attitude, a way of life, and thinking, it's whats in your heart. All I know is that I am who I am no matter what i am labled, be it hippie, stoner, punk, I am Clay and will always will be.
Again, Thank you all.
Dragon_seed21.

A little side note: this is the greatest place on the internet(trust me I'v seen them all) I'll be around for a long time. Peace out Cat's.

 

Firstly, I´m sorry you got caught in the trappings of societies dictorates. Getting married (and divorced) long before you know who you are.
But it does form part of the base of who you will become, so dont regret it.
Keep in mind, developing yourself is a process. Everyday is contains a new motion for setting up the rest of your life. Every day you have choices. So dont limit yourself.

Sustain yourself first - ensure you have a shelter and food. the rest of it all?? what you make and want of it. Life should be good. Dont waste it by living it through the eyes of someone elses mask.