I'm kind of worried about future breeding w/ my gf.

Not in the birth control sense. I mean that I can see myself settling down with her at this rate, and I don't know if I really want to have a kid by her. She's great, and I love her as much as I have anyone...(no one really) but when I think about that I tend to come back to the whole genetic thing.

I know this sounds heartless, but selecting one's mate for their characteristics is as natural as it gets. I do think she'd be a great mother, which probably matters more than raw DNA, but I can't get that worry out of my mind.

 

First of all the word "breeding" makes you sound like a jerk. Sorry but that's the connotation that comes with that word. Secondly, a child is supposed to be a product of love, not to create a superbeing.

If your thing is to create the best possible kids, break up with her cause it seems like you don't love her enough to raise kids with her. If you love her, regardless of genetics, then stay with her. It comes down to are you gonna breed or are you gonna raise a family?

 

Even though I think your OP is very strange...

have you ever noticed that two weird people usually make a super cute kid?

 

There are enough fucking people on this planet as is. No one needs to do any breeding for the next 20 years IMO.

 

sorry wizzard but i agree with Aine!

 

What are the supposed genetic characteristics that you do not like?

 

She doesn't like Judas Priest, I mean there's a chromosome dedicated to that, surely!?

 

I think so.

 

I smell a troll.

 

I completely agree with this statement.

My question is why you used the word "breeding" instead of something else. It makes you sound like a bunch of dogs. You aren't an animal therefore its not breeding.

There is no way you are going to have a perfect child. Most of that is how the parents treat their child and how they raise them. You can't expect a great child unless you are willing to make the effort to be a good father yourself. If you aren't willing to do that then I'd say its probably not a smart idea to have kids.

 

No this person isn't, he has been around here since I started posting.

 

Excuse me if this sounds nerdy, but I'm an English major and I was a Psychology major. With this, you have to be very wary of what words you use because words are powerful and can bring to mind images. After all, as someone else has said, the word "breeding" made it seem as though we were breeding dogs. The choice of using the word "breeding" instead of "having children" is something the OP did, whether on purpose or without thinking, it was the word that he typed.

As far as the fact that we're animals, yeah, I understand we're classified under "mammals" but when we're deciding to "mate", as you delicately put it, we choose people that we fall in love with and that we, unconciously, choose the traits we would like to see in our children. If you don't see those traits there and you're choosing who you wish to "breed" with, why are you spending time with that person if they don't have what you are looking for? We're intelligent beings for a reason, OP can either stay with his girlfriend for love, or move on to someone else who has the traits he's looking for.

 

that doesnt mean shit lmao.

 

^that's true, I never post. But this isn't a troll thread.

I know of the stigma attached to the word "breeding" but I'm not trying to beat around the bush with this thread. I think if you dismiss this problem then you're just not a conscientious enough person. A loving, stable family is obviously the most important thing for a child...but you're a fool if you don't believe that your genes at least partially determine your fate. And I do want the best for my descendents.

 

If that's honestly how you feel, you should ask how your girlfriend feels. And if she wants children, then you need to be upfront that you're not okay with what she brings to the genetic pool.

My sibling's ex has some mentally challenged people in her family. They had a child, and I genuinely think their child probably has a low average IQ despite being given every opportunity. That being said, IQ isn't everything and the child could turn out to be a very happy and healthy adult who lives a fulfilling life.

I know for myself what would stop me having a baby with a man, like if it was high risk the child would be born with Tay Sach's or paranoid schizophrenia, because it would hurt to set an innocent person up for a life of pain and suffering. I don't have to have a kid who grows up to be a rocket scientist. There's more to life than that. That said, I don't judge you for your own personal standard (though I agree with Aine), but urge you to examine it closely.

 

Its not just your genes that determine their fate. Its the health care given to the mother when she is pregnant, its the parenting, its what you feed the child, and that's just a tiny scratch on the surface. Anything can mess up a child and no child is perfect.

Butt what I don't understand is what you don't like about you girlfriend? If you think she'd make a great mother and you love her then why don't you want to have children with her? I just don't understand what you're so worried about. Its like this anything can happen and even if you find someone who has the perfect genes (which you probably won't) even then there are still possibilities for things going wrong. You just have to do the best you can and accept what the outcome is.

 

My first fiance' and I decided that we wouldn't have children because of his genetics. His family has several life threatening diseases, as does he. In the end that was one of the reasons we split, I wanted at least one child that was genetically linked to me, even if adoption was considered later.
Honestly, if its something as simple as physical traits or that you'd rather the child have a genetic propensity for music, (any kind) then if the child is born of love, those things don't matter so much. Ask yourself the exact reasoning behind this and then discuss it with her and come to a decision TOGETHER.

 

Eugenics is kind of a fucked up concept that rarely works. The 2 examples that immediately come to mind are European Monarchy and Purebread Dogs. Since the Monarchys in Europe wanted their bloodlines to remain pure they ended up inbreading and all of these strange recessive genes started to surface in the form of birth defects. Purebread dogs have similar temperment and physical issues like hip displacement in Purebread Geman Shephards. Come to think about it maybe that is why all of those people talking about "Racial Purity" come across as half retarded.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

I didnt think people actually thought like this

 

Yeah me either, its kind of sad.