so i've been in a real complex relationship with this guy. he's addicted to cocaine and always saying that he needs to stop and that it's fucking up his life and all this stuff. i use xtc but rarely. i know that what i do is no better than what he does, but i have control of my life. x doesn't control me at all. anyway i just don't know what to do anymore because he means the world to me. WHAT SHOULD I DO ?
first of all...STOP using X...period. i don't care what kind of bullshit you feed me. X is fucking BAD for you, even if you only use it occasionally. it's just plain BAD for your brain. it may not control you, but if you use it on even a SLIGHTLY regular basis, it can do severe damage to your brain. do the research before you experiment with ANY drug. second of all, do you think there is anything YOU could do to make him stop using coke? when people are addicted to a drug, they become the addiction. he knows it is fucking up his life, but is he stopping it? usually an addiction finds a way to control a person until the person finally has a wake-up call and knows they need to quit...that's usually when the person seeks recovery and treatment for their addiction and that's when they can start to mend their life. this guy needs to WANT to quit, for HIM. not for you or anyone else. for him. it needs to be his decision 100%, and it needs to be because HE wants to do it. have you ever thought about having an intervention? getting all his close friends and perhaps his family together to confront him about it? does his family know what he's going through? how old are you guys? is he young enough that his parents might be able to help him out financially if he needs it for treatment? either way, all you can do is try. if his addiction is making you have a shitty life and it doesn't get better and you keep giving him chances over and over, it may be best to move on. but only you know why you are with this person. sometimes a couple can help each other through an addiction. and sometimes a relationship only hinders a person's recovery, if it's a codependent relationship. only you know the details of your situation, and only you know why you are with him. follow your heart, and use your head at the same time. be there for him with emotional support, but don't support his habit. that's all i can really give you at this point. good luck and lots of love to you...it's really hard loving someone who is going through something like that. i hope everything turns out for the best
Walk away. Tell him: "until your life means more to you than nasty powders, I cannot waste my time and energy here." And so what if you occasionally roll? no decent research has been done because it was scheduled do fast, so SH, whatever you have heard, came from anti-drug advocates. One-sided info.
well, having done both I'd say that x just seems far more damaging than coke. Of course if he is a daily user, it wouldn't be comparable
Walk away from him. If you are unwilling to do that, get with his parents and friends and have an intervention. If you are unwilling to let his parents know he's using coke, you aren't taking this seriously enough.
